7 Year Old Being Too Much of a 'Mommy' to Her Younger Brother...

My daughter (6) does the same thing to her little brother (4). I think it's so adorable, but I also ask her to stop when she's telling him what to do the way a mom would. I tell her that he already has a mommy, he needs her to be his sister. I tell her that he needs to learn things for himself, so he'll be as great as she is. I would just keep reminding her, if I were you, and encourage her to help her brother with special "big sister" jobs, like reading, drawing, etc.

Our daughters sound very similar! Very maternal, yes - they will make great mommies someday! :-)

Girls tend to be bossy in general around that age. If a strong reprimand when she does it does not work, then you need a consequence like immediately sending her to stand facing the corner for a couple of minutes. It's really okay to punish for behavior that you want a kid to stop. It could be effective pretty quickly. Good luck.

That seems normal girl behavior my 3 girls all mom each other and my son. Depending how much she is doing things it could also be she is being bothered by some of his actions also

It is just one of those things where you will have to constantly remind her that you can handle her brother. I had a really hard time with my soon to be ten year old daughter bossing her 8 year old brother around and playing "mommy" as well. I had to stay on her about it constantly. She has gotten a lot better, but she is still quite bossy. Good Luck.

My daughter, also very sensitive, did the same at that age, but in school. She always finished her work before the others and would go around trying to "help" them. Her teacher and I redirected her helpfulness towards other activities, and her teacher told her "The other children need to learn to do things on their own." We got her doing extra class work for herself, and helping in other areas like assisting her teacher, and it fulfilled her need for "helping."

Perhaps you could tell your daughter that getting him to do things more quickly is your job, or point out that it may just be his way since we're all different. And maybe try to channel her helpfulness into areas that will benefit them both, such as her reading to him, which will strengthen her reading skills and entertain him?

My 6 year old son does the same to his sister. I'm trying to nip it in the bud by reminding him that I am the mom and he is not, and while I appreciate that he is trying to help, it isn't helping things when he does that. I sometimes include that when he's the dad he'll get to do it, but right now it is my responsibility.
You said in your post that you have talked to the older one alone about this, but it may actually help defuse the situation with the younger one if he could see that she isn't supposed to boss him around. Then he will also get a clear understanding of who is in charge.
Some other ideas...if it's that he isn't doing it quickly enough, encourage her to help him instead of telling him to do it faster, teach her how to give encouragement instead of ordering, and make sure that you don't use her as a relay for telling your son what to do (I was guilty of this) and instead use her to relay getting the younger one to come to you. I usually just say, DS will you please ask your sister to come see me?
Good luck! I know defusing that can ease a lot of sibling rivalry