6 Year Old Talking About "Sex"

You should ask her what she thinks sex is. Find out how much information (or misinformation) she has and where she got it. Try to stay calm and non-judgemental. Let her know she can always come to you with any question she has about sex or other things. Help her feel safe in talking to you and not shamed or worried about getting in trouble. Depending on how much she already knows, you can fill in the gaps and answer her questions. Let her know that sex is an adult activity that has serious repercussions (blah, blah, blah in accordance with your particular beliefs). Be thankful that she has opened the door for this conversation. Most of us agonize over when to start "the talk". If you don't answer her questions, god only knpws where she'll find the info and if it will be true.

The first thing: I would question where she got this knowledge. If having sex, or talking about sex, is not something your family discusses at the dinner table (I am being "flip" here, but you know what I mean, if you do not have conversations about sex in your daily lives) where did she get this from? If she is getting this from TV, or a babysitter, or childcare professional, kids at school or an older sibling...well, I guess it depends on the source, but I myself would be very upset if my daycare was providing exposure to sexual conversations, or sex on TV. I want that conversation to be had within the family. Kids at school are a little harder to control, but you can bring it back to your family's values as to what is appropriate or not.

Some kids are "fast" and by that I mean develop interest in sex earlier than others. I don't feel qualified to give an opinion about that, but you could probably google "early sexual awareness" or the like, or have a conversation with your child's doctor. You don't mention if she has possibly been touching herself, which may be happening, and which is perfectly normal.

It is also very possible that she had heard the word, and now knows a bit about what it may mean, and is trying to see what she can "get away with" regarding pushing the buttons of the adults in her life. I am assuming this is all pretty normal, in other words, and hope other moms have more useful advise for you.

Sounds like she heard the phrase in context some how. Maybe even a television show or tv, who knows. Next time she brings it up I would privately talk to her about about. I don't think she understands what it means, so just tell her that it is not appropriate language for a young girl. My son has let the f-bomb out and had no idea why he got the reaction he did. He didn't no it was a bad word. Not that sex is a bad word, she just doesn't know what it is so she can't make the connection on why it is not appropriate. My son thought the F-word meant really cool. Not sure where he got that from and I can only imagine what will come out of his mouth next. They do keep us on our toes, don't they :)

E., I must say, that neither of my children, they are 14 yrs apart ever talked about 'having sex'. My oldest who is going to be 21 came home from his private school at about age 7 and asked what a condom was and when we had our talk it all came from the commercials due to AIDS back then, but that was it. My other child just turned 7 in December.

Has she been in the company of adults or older teens other than yourself? Is there a possibility that someone 'watched' something?

Please don't be in denial, 'someone' has 'taught' it otherwise she wouldn't know. Often children will protect 'someone' that they know and love as not to make 'mommy' upset...etc... please call her pediatrician and talk to her doctor about this.

Have you ever had the talk with your child regarding the NO touching zone or good and bad touches? It teaches them that NO ONE should ever touch etc... this could then lead to you questioning her if anyone ever did this or that it at least opens the door for discussion.

My daughter just turned 7 in Dec. so I know first hand that this is not appropriate unless it has been 'taught'

Saying a prayer that you find the information you need.

If she is already talking about it and "acting out" the act of "making out" why on earth would you "wait til she gets older"? There are children her age that have had sex...a terrible thing but true. If she is that inquisitive that she is just putting it out there sounds like it is time now to have the talk now, otherwise she is going to get her info from some unscrupulous places like her friends or older children. This of course will not give you the outcome you want. Children inherently know when they are being lied too and being evasive with a child is like lying to them. Sex is not a bad thing, it is the most natural thing on the planet...face it all species have one purpose in life...to reproduce.
My Mom had the talk with me before I can remember what it was, she said when I was 3 I was asking about why she had a period and it became an ongoing discussion but definitely by the time I was 5 I knew about sex and exactly where babies came from and how they were born. I always had a healthy attitude toward sex and in no way did it damage me or ruin my childhood...I played Barbie’s with my little sister (out of obligation) until I was 16.