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I would watch the older sister very closely because she very well may be provoking him to get him in trouble. My son is 2 yrs older than my daughter. Both good kids, but come on - they ARE brother and sister! He would tease her when they were younger and I would tell him not to obviously, but I would also tell him that he better watch out, cause once she gets bigger she's not going to take it anymore!!! The younger one doesn't have the verbal skills as the older one or the emotional control, so if they act out physically then they are perceived as the "bad" one at the instance, while the more silent acts of teasing etc from the older one go unoticed. And when they get punished and they other sibling does not, it just adds to the frustration which can get aimed at you (as the "punisher"). Not being physical doesn't necessarily mean "gentle hearted". Girls can be very smart and sneaky........Just trying to speak from experience - my kids are girl 7 and boy 9. Best friends and worst enemies!!!!!