My daughter will be 5 this summer and will be starting kindergarten this fall so I need to fiqure something out! She just will not wipe herself and has to have her dad or I wipe for her. I have started making her do it herself and then I will check and make sure she got it all but she cries and throws a fit the whole time she is doing it and rarely gets herself clean. Any ideas?? PLEASE!
thank you all fo the advice! I am so glad that I am not alone!! I thought naybe my daughter was a strange one! LOL I have been making her do it herself and then we 'check' to make sure she got it all and if she does not cry and throw a fit and does a 'good' job then she gets a sticker on her sticker chart for a special activity. It is somewhat working. But most of all I am glad to not be alone!!
Our daughter was 5 in March. She still has us wipe her after a bm too. Your daughter will be fine and will do it when she has to. I say, just do it for her now. You have to pick your battles. This is not one that we have even thought about. If she feels she needs help, we feel that we should do it. If she's not ready and doesn't do a good job, she will get sore. Once in school, she'll manage.
My daughter went through this same thing. She didn't want to get it on her hands. So I got wipes, which make it alot easier. Course they don't have them at school! But at home she does a good job. i explained that she is getting older & nobody should be touching her private area but her. I would talk her through it, but i had her actually do it & same with her dad. she after time figured out that we were not gonna give in and just do it for her. She was pretty high drama and would really play it up like she couldn't do it. she would make a bit of a mess hoping we would just decide it easier to do it, but no, we just talked her through cleaning up herself & the mess & washing hands etc... In the end, we had to start with holding her currency, which at this time is her computer learning game - jump start. She can't play if she can't clean herself. So if we catch her not wiping after 1 or 2, then she misses a day of play. Problem was amazingly solved. :D
Great tips from the other parents. My son wioll be 6 in a month & went through this a bit recently. My husband showed him how (repeatedly) and made sure that he was physically capable - their little arms may not reach back there. Once we established that he was fully capable of handling this I told him that there is a rule that parents aren't allowed to wipe their kiddos butts after they turn 5 unless it's an emergency. So once he turns 5 I won't be able to do it anymore & the only way to get him clean is to take him outside & hose him off. :-) He's been wiping very well for the past couple of months with no issues! Other than him we have a 2.5 year old girl & another baby due in August - I want to wipe as few hineys as possible!! Good luck.
I feel your pain! My daughter was doing it herself but I started noticing she wasnt getting herself clean all the way. I told her that I wanted to help her for a little while to reshow her how to do it! Well that was 4 months ago and she wont even try now! She sat on the toilet one day for over half an hour screaming cause i wanted her to wipe and she wanted me to! She also starts K in the fall and I dont know if they will help her there or not! I really dont have any advise cause Im in the same situation I just wanted to let you know I get it and it stinks! Good luck!
our lives are so much easier when our kids get this, and i know that because she is almost a school kid she seems quite old enough to you. but the fact is, she is still a very small person and it is quite common for children this age to be pretty inconsistent in this department. i would take the pressure right off her. provide soft baby wipes (remember not to flush them, wrap them in tp and use your trashbin) and invite her to do it herself, but always check and follow up. i completely disagree with the advice to cut her loose and be dirty. she's not being defiant, it's simply a developmental milestone that she's still working on integrating. there is no need for this to be a stressmaker. the fact that she is crying when she does it means that she's not ready yet. help her out. it will click very soon and you will move on to bigger and worse dilemmas<G>.
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I would say pick your battles.... we did it until age 5 (nearly 6) and one day they will just get it. Especially when they go off to school and they start to want more private time, they will want to do it themselves. For now they still need your help, so give it while you can. One day you will wake up and wish for these days. They grow so fast!
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My dd was the same way but we got her the flush-able wipes and that helped alot! Maybe try those out and see how she does with those??
Our son did this until we got him Kandoo wipes. We let him use them, but we only used TP. He liked the idea. Went very smoothly for us. I think he was about 5 or maybe a little older when we tried this. I really don't remember. You don't want to use them a lot, because they really don't break down well like TP does, according to our plumber friend, but using them a bit doesn't hurt. GL!
