My 3 y/o is, for the most part, extremely outgoing. She can be shy at times, but it only takes moments before she becomes comfortable with someone new. She's never given me any grief about leaving for work, until recently! We hired a new sitter that comes in 3 days a week & CM gets all bent out of shape when she's coming. She starts crying, hanging off my legs & begging me to stay home - she doesn't do this with anyone else! When the sitter arrives or leaves, I see that she's trying real hard to connect with my daughter, but CM basically 'ignores' her! Just this morning, the sitter asked CM a question & CM didn't even acknowledge that she was talking. I reprimanded her for this behavior & told her it was unacceptable to ignore an adult that was speaking to her. And last night, I overheard my daughter on the phone telling my sister that she didn't like the new sitter because 'she's mad at me all the time'! When my sister asked why, my daughter responded it's b/c she did something wrong. Now, my daughter is no angel & LOVES to torment her younger sister, but she can easily be distracted with little or no anger needed - she works much better off reward than punishment!
I think, overall, she just doesn't like the sitter - can someone so young really form these opinions?? I need any help you can give - thoughts, ideas, suggestions...I'm becoming desperate! Thanks!
My kids cry when I pick them up from daycare...they would live there if I let them...LOL! I think that kids (mostly) like everybody...or at least don't dislike for no reason. If she has formed these opinions, I would take notice and change something. Find an interim sitter and see how she behaves with that one before actually letting the other sitter go.
Kids are pretty smart...even at 3!
~L.
I would be very concerned that that drastic of a reaction so out of character from your child regarding the new sitter. I believe I would either get a camera to further investigate their interactions or most likely I would just let the sitter go. If a child is that upset and it is not her usual behavior there is usually good reason. I hope everything turns out ok.
Obviously there is a reason she doesnt like the sitter and if you know that she responds well to new people then shes probably trying to tell you something but doesnt really know how to explain it .. I would look into a new sitter and/or finding out why your child doesnt like her...maybe sit her down and ask her why and what the babysitter does/doesnt do to her. good luck
GET A NEW SITTER!! Your daughter said she's mad at her all the time!!! What more do you need??? Mad could be hitting or abusing her in some way!! Don't let her in your house again!!!
YOur daughter is 3 years old and knows what she likes and doesn;t like. You only see what that babysitter wants you to see and your daughter is letting you know that something is not right when you are not around and if I were you I wouldn;at even wait and try and get camera;s to see what is going on. I suggest you get that woman out of your house. Do it nicely because you can't accuse her of something that you really can't say but she would have to get up out of my house.
T., I think that young children can absolutely form those opinions. I am mulling over getting a babysitter myself which is what brought me to the site, but am very nervous about it because we do not know what goes on when we are not in the house. My little girl is only 14 months and right now is in a daycare, but suffering from endless colds and ear infections. My husband mentioned that perhaps it would be better to get an in home sitter because we both work full time. Of course the sitter is going to do well with her while you are there, but I think that it's enough to question what happens when you are gone. Maybe mention what she said to the sitter and see what her reaction is. Maybe your daughter did misbehave and she needed to be corrected, or maybe not. It's really hard to say but as a mom I would definately look into it further.
As a day care provider, I strongly agree with the rest of your responses!! Although, I have a few kids that cry because mom or dad leaves them here, they also cry when they get picked up and don't want to go, they have NOT had enough time to play, even though he/she has been here for 9 hours! It is hard to see that, you feel like you have let them down. BUT, if she is this persistant, something is wrong. Do you have an references that you can check into on any one else she has worked for? Have you checked out other people that know her? Definately check as FAR as you can!!!!! I even had another mom bring her older child to watch over the younger one and asked questions. At first I felt weird, but later, I thought that was the best thing she could have done! I wish you so much luck on this.....Children know what they want and what they do not.
I would trust your daughter and agree with Michelle... hire someone else.
GET A NEW SITTER!!! The best advice I ever got was to always trust your gut instinct and listen to your child. Or get a nannycam?
I run a small in home daycare and all of my kids LOVE coming. Your child should really like her sitter alot, its strange that she doesnt??
wow tough call ..... I think it would be wise to err on the side of caution and perhaps look for another siter. children are really intuitive.
Hi T.-
Get a new sitter! Your daughters comments to your sister speak volumes!! She's trying to tell you/your family something isn't right.
Maybe there is a reason she doesn't like the sitter. I would consider a new sitter.
Do a yahoo search for "home security". You can find nanny cams really cheap. This will clear up any questions you have about your sitter and your daughters behavior while you are away.
T. kids are the best judge of people they know good people from bad right off the bat and if she not takingto her i would find somone knew i would sit your daughter down and ask her what did she do that was bad that i would get a new sitter that she dose like
