Hello everyone,
My 2yr old daughter started daycare on December 1,2010 which was a Weds, she was perfectly fine that week. However, the following week she was prescribed a steroid for 5days which changed her attitude drastically. The supervisor of the daycare called my husband to pick our daughter up Thursday December 23,2010 because she was crying. When we picked her up she was fine(no crying). Today was my daughters 1st day back to daycare this week(Monday-Tuesday we we're snowed in) and Weds she had a fever which lasted for 1day. I called about 30 minutes ago to check on my daughter and her teacher said she didn't eat lunch because she was crying on and off since my husband dropped her off this morning. My daughter will be 3 in May and will be starting headstart. I don't want her to think if she cries mommy and daddy will stop working and keep her home: but it's very hard for me to deal with the fact that she's upset. Has anyone else dealt with this type of situation? If so, please give me lots of advice. Thank you in advance.
Hi, My:
Your little girl will learn how to self soothe. It will take time but she will
learn.
The day school teacher evidently is being dramatic. One thing that we learn is to distract the child when he/she gets sad about his/her situation.
Encourage the teacher when she tells you how sad your daughter is to distract her with things to do. See what the teacher says and go back to the drawing board.
Good luck.
D.
why wont they concole her they are o be there for her. i would have a talk with the daycare, and i say this because i own one and if a childs cries we help them out by talking and calming them down.
good luck
My son is 3 and started preschool in August...he goes 2 days a week and he STILL crys everytime I drop him off...I mean full blown screaming and crying...you would think by now he would have adjusted to the morning drop off (He however does calm down and the teacher says he will eventually go play and when I come to pick him up he is happy). It really is just a transition age where of course they want mommy and daddy...In a way it's there way of trying to keep us with them. I have learned to just give a big hug and kiss and tell my son Mommy will be back soon and that the teacher is mommy's friend and will take good care of him until school is over (Remind her that she has friends there to play with and lots of toys)! It is very hard but really is good for them in the long run to able to be on there own and make new friends.....HUGS TO YOU and hang in there...
I agree with Donna. She will learn. 2 is a tough age to learn this, it may take her a little while to work this out. The teacher is also not helping matters by calling you all the time or sending her home. Donna said this far more eloquently but suggest to the teacher some things that work at home to distract her.
I know how hard it is to be at work knowing your baby is having a hard time. She will figure it, I know it doesnt seem like it but she will. I hope this helps.
Well, it seems like you DD has been sick on and off this month (being on prescription meds) - that is never a good time to make a huge transition, like starting daycare. If you can keep her at home for a little while until she has completely recovered and make a fresh start, that would probably be good.
Also it is not unusual for kids to go trhough an initial "honeymoon" phase where they are doing great for a few days or even weeks and then suddenly start crying or acting up. Usually that also lasts only for a few days or weeks until they finally adjust. And you are right, during this time it is more harmful than helpful to pull them out everytime they cry... that way they will never adjust.
The third point I would like to make is to evalute your care giver. How do they handle your child when she cries or acts up? are they warm, do they give her extra attention? The daycares we have chosen for our DD so far (and we will be making a switch next week due to work reasons) are always prepared to help new children adjust for however long it takes. We were just for an initial visit this week and when my daughter first cried when I left, a teacher went up to her and found something that she wanted to do (read a book). There was another new little one who cried for about an hour after drop off (I watched from the observation room) - here they pulled in another teacher to sit with her until she felt comfortable joining the group.
If you have a GOOD daycare, they will usually do everything in their power to make your little one settle down. If you can observe for a few hours from where your daughter will not see you - that would be a good place to start. Qualified, professional teachers will be very happy to recommendations from you how to soothe your child and will follow your directions.
Transitioning to a new daycare is tough... just hang in there. before you know it she'll be happy and make friends. Good luck!
This is so hard! My son has gone to daycare 2 days a week since he was 3 months old and recently, when he moved to the preschool room, we've started having really rough dropoffs in the morning. I think it is pretty normal for the age. My concern is that the daycare doesn't seem to be handling it as well as it should-- they should be able to distract her. But you just started daycare and she's had lots of interruptions, so I think you need to just give it some time and be really positive about the experience. But it is SO hard to leave them when the are crying-- but kids are really strong and she'll be fine.
