2Nd Baby Shower in 2 Years

Two words DIAPER SHOWER!!! It's a great way to celebrate having another little one, with out having another official shower.

S.,

I just did a casserole shower for a friend having her third. I really only works if you or someone close to you has a large freezer. Have friends bring a meal that can be frozen until you need it. It was a lot of fun, some people still bought presents instead which made it even more fun.

The shower is for the baby. if you have a baby book, do you want the 3rd child to have a blank spot in that section?

OMG, this is SO funny you asked this question. I was literally just thinking the same thing about 20 minutes ago. I'm pregnant with my 3rd and my little sister is also pregnant with her first.
I feel she needs to get all she can since we already have almost everything and I feel that our family isn't going to want to throw 2 showers.

In your situation, I would say have another one. Especially if you don't have anyone else in your family that's pregnant that may need more than you then you should without a doubt have another one......at least stock up on the basics you'll need.
(Diapers, wipes, blankets, lotions, shampoos) well, you get the picture.
Good luck to you!
Keep me posted on what you decide to do!
~N.~

In all actuality, the shower is not for you, it is for the baby. Why should this baby not have a shower because you just had one for the other baby. If your friends want to a throew you a ahower, let them. It's silly and should be the last thing on your mind as a future mother of three. Some people don't even get one shower. No offense. :)

I'm kind of traditional when it comes to the subject of showers, so I completely understand your apprehension. How about a sip and see shower after the baby is born? I had one for my second child and it was great. It's kind of like a baby shower, except it is held after the baby arrives. Then, instead of everyone stopping by your house to meet your baby, they will be able to meet him/her at the sip and see. Your friends can state something about "no gifts" on the invitation if that's what you prefer.

Don't feel guilty because your girlfriends want to shower your new little one with the same amount of love as your previous children. Ok, so maybe your list of things you need is considerably smaller since you can use hand-me-downs from your 13th month old. It's still nice to have some new items that are specifically for the one on the way (outfits,lovies, DIAPERS, etc.).Let them throw the party and enjoy!

Hi S.,

No, I don't think it's selfish. I strongly believe that every new baby deserve a party. And, it isn't about gifts, it's about getting together to celebrate a new life. If you really don't want gifts, there are other things you can do.

Congratulations! C.

It all depends on personal opinion I guess. I think new baby, new celebration... We have birthdays every year for each child, why not a baby shower. Its the celebration of a new little one being introduced into the world. I honestly have never understood why a 2nd shower is a bad thing. I think its mainly because I'm so young and anything old fashion for someone my age is unlikely. If people think its selfish and that you shouldn't have a 2nd, then they don't have to come. Just an opinion from my thoughts... :) Good luck on whatever you choose though. :D

I would just say that I have tons of things. I really don't need anything else. If they want to do something for you, just tell them to take you out for a nice dinner (just a girls night out).

Why don't you suggest that instead of a baby shower, that all the girls go out and do soemthing together. Like going to the spa and getting pedicures or a girls luncheon. You can focus on the fact that you soon won' thave any time to do this with little ones running around and you woul denjoy that so much more than a shower since you still have everything you were given from the last shower.

I absolutely agree with Jeanne S "every baby is worth celebrating". Make it theme. You don't have to worry about things you might need like you did the first two. A diaper party are great. You get all sizes(the coordinator should tell people what sizes to bring) and have gift receipts attached in case you have to return any.
Congratulations by the way!!!!

I totally feel for you, and have just finally accepted the offer from my girlfriends to have a small shower. I am 36 weeks pregnant (I took a while to agree, and was out of town from about 31-35 weeks), and I have a 14 month old, so we literally just did this! My 14 month old was our first boy, so I accepted their offer then, but we are having our 3rd girl. I suggested just doing a diaper shower, which seems like a good idea since I will have 2 in diapers, and we will just be gathering for dessert at her home. Sweet and simple! I have also heard of someone having a freezer meal shower, where the guests each brought a meal that could be frozen and used after the baby was born.....GREAT idea I thought, so there is another fun suggestion...and a practical one too. You are going to have to relent, so you might as well let it go now. Enjoy the pregnancy! ~A.~

When I was expecting my 2nd, I did not expect a shower nor did I want one like when I had my first. I did not feel it was needed since I had just about everything even though the 2nd time around was a different sex. So, my sis-in-law put together a small (8 people) girls luncheon. They themed it teddy bears and gift cards. Each gift was a different teddy bear with a Target gift card tied around the neck. This was so neat. I ended up with $375 in gift cards to get what I needed. I did not need much, so I was able to save them for after birth and use them toward diapers and wipes. It was perfect!!!

Congrats on the baby. Don't feel bad if your girlfriends want to honor you and your new baby. Let them. You can tell them to keep it small though if you want to.

K.

Congrats and God bless your growing family!
I think it is really special that your friends want to do this for you again. We just had a shower for a lady at my church. This was her third child and she didn't really want one. So we did a diaper and wipes shower and gift cards were accepted too. It just took some of the burden off of having another baby and needing more of those little things around. Of course someone always gives clothes but it was a still a treat and just allowed her to see how much she and her family are loved. Accept the love and share in the excitement your friends are wanting to show for you and your family.

I felt weird about having a second baby shower...even though, for me, I'm having a boy instead of a girl this time and it's been 3 years!

However, EVERY BABY is worth celebrating!!! So, if your friends insist, instead of a traditional shower, have a "diaper shower" so you're all stocked up on something you will need and can use...since you probably have everything else. Or have some girlfriend time at a restaurant w/o the men or kids. There are other ways to celebrate! Don't feel bad. :)

I had a "celebration of life" (that was even what my cake said) party for my second shower. I received a few gifts, but overall it was a time of fellowship to welcome the new arrival. The shower is not just about gifts, it is about acknowledging and sharing your excitement for your new lil' one. I say, let them throw a party, but emphasis it is a party to celebrate life, not receive gifts.

If they want to do something for you... why not have something AFTER the baby is born... have a little party for the BABY...and if they're insisting on a gift giving kind of shower.. have it be to build up "x's" library, please bring a book only... ??? just a thought. Yeah, I'd think it be a tad much... UNLESS it's like... you've got two girls and find out you're prego w/a boy... you'd want boy stuff????

No way! I think that you should absolutely have another baby shower! Every child is special and they deserve to be celebrated! If people don't want to come then they can decline, but seriously I think you should celebrate this joyous occasion! One of my friends felt the same way and so they did a Happy Hour Baby Shower at a restaurant and they called it a diapers and wipes baby shower - I honestly do not know if she ever had to buy a single diaper! She got other stuff too - but everyone brought diapers and wipes. When I had my second child this past year, I discovered a lot of really cool new contraptions that weren't around when I had my first three years prior! Congratulations and ENJOY your party!

I'm glad you asked this question because I am still trying to figure out if it is acceptable for me to have another baby shower myself. I am 15 wks pregnant and my son is 14 months.

Why don't you do a nice lunch with your close friends (those who want to throw the shower). I'd keep it to a limited few. My guess is most people will say...not another shower.

However, your closer friends will probably get you a gift any way, so a nice lunch will be a good intimate way to celebrate without the expense of a full-blown shower.

the way i see it is that a shower is something people who love you do for you. it'd be tacky if you were doing it for yourself, but you're not. they want to share in this happy time with you. i think it's fabulous you've got such caring giving people in your life.

If they really want you to have a shower, let them. You could ask for items that you KNOW you'll need such as wipes, diapers, bath items, etc. This way, you'll all "win". :)

Or, maybe you could do a scrapbook party, where they make up page templates for your scrapbook, and all you'd have to do is add the pics. :)

You could tell them to wait until you find out the sex of the baby and if it's another girl you prefer not to have one since you already have plenty of girl t hings from your 13 month old. And if it's a boy maybe you need one.. ?? But if you really don't want one no matter what sex, ask them to wait and have a "meet the baby party" for yall a few weeks after the baby is born (or whenever you'd feel comfortable having a group of people around him/her) and have them put no gifts or something like diapers only on the invitations.

Why don't you compromise with your friends and say that while you welcome the opportunity to celebrate your upcoming birth with loved ones, you insist that the celebration not be a gift-giving occasion. Let them know that you want the invitation to read that "No gifts please, guests' presence are the presents!" Maybe you could even call it something like an "Un-Shower" or "Sprinkle" or something cute to let everyone know that it is a different kind of celebration.

They clearly care about you and are excited and want to do something for you. And let's face it, some people just love to plan parties! This may be a way that they can show you they love you, while avoiding some of the discomfort on your end.

A friend of mine was in the same sitiuation and agreed to a diaper shower. The "gifts" were limited to diapers/wipes stuff like that you always need and dont have left from the last one. I too think baby showerd are to celebrate the upcoming baby not the mom so I think if they want to celebrate all your blessings its great.

Hi S.,

Congrats on your new pregnancy!!

I'm pregnant with my second child, my daughter will turn 2 next month and since we are having a boy this time, I agreed to have another shower. I was kind of indifferent on it in the beginning, but since we are having a boy this time around, there are boy things we will need. The shower won't be as huge as the first (well, it will since my daughter ended up being born on the day of her baby shower and I didn't get to be there!!) and I only registered for a few necessity items. And I'm sure as time goes along, you might find yourself needing new things or wanting things that maybe you didn't think of using or getting the first time around. So in that case, gift cards will be a great bonus!

Enjoy the time with your friends, don't feel selfish about it! :-)

-Char