2Nd Baby Shower?

This is where i say patience is a virtue. Maybe just maybe they are planning a surprise...... And if that is not an option then ask you mom. I had 4 kiddos and 4 showers.
Try getting the god parents involved and ask your husbands advice too he could hint to his mom or his side of the family . Hosts for my showers were
1st =my mom & dad
2nd=my mom & dad + the god parents
3rd=my husband had a surprise one
and both sides pitched in
and did it potluck style
4th=a family friend offered and then became the godparents

send an e-mail and so maybe you don't really need anything then throw one for yourself and add to the invite that all gifts will be donated to single mothers.

This is when you can have a raffle of some sort . Wine basket, fruit basket, sports stuff, candles.
Good luck and god bless.

P.s. With all the $$ you will save by not throwing yourself a shower you could do a spa day or gift youself or your baby something you would normally not buy yourself

I figured that I wouldn't get ANY baby shower because it didn't look like anyone was going to throw me one, and I figured you only get one for your first baby. I was sad, but okay with it, because I really didn't have any good girlfriends who hadn't just moved away. Luckily, my family stepped up to the plate and had one for me after Thanksgiving dinner. It was fun, but not the same.
No one even mentioned anything when I had #2.
I've been thinking of throwing a get-together for my new girl friends (we're moving next week) when I have baby #3. A sort of "meet the baby" thing. And maybe I'll be looking out for my new friends who have babies, so I can throw them similar parties that aren't real showers. Maybe you could find another girl who's due about the same time and throw each other baby parties!

We didn't get one for our second boy. I wasn't offended. None of my friends have either. In fact, I felt a bit awkward when we were offered one for our little girl. Like you said, you really don't need anything other than diapers. If you're like we were, plenty of people will give you baby gifts when the baby comes. I wouldn't take offense. The point of showers is to provide for the family for some many expensive things.

You are not being selfish. I don't really look at showers as a way to "get stuff" however the first one of course is since you are new parents. But every new baby deserves a celebration. Why not throw a party just to welcome the baby when he arrives? I mean it doesn't even have to be about gifts but I believe every baby should get something new of their very own be it baby books, picture frames, new baby clothes and so on. Of course you don't need the big stuff like before but I think it is very reasonable for you to want to have a party for the second baby too.
I had a big one with my first, thrown by coworkers, with the second baby it was a very small gathering just fun things for my son as I had a girl first and didn't have any boy stuff.
You are not being selfish! Plan maybe after the baby is born a little gathering just to welcome him to the world and everyone getting to meet him! :)
Congrats.

I know in Utah that it isn't usually the norm to have a baby shower for the second child if it's the same gender... But I totally disagree. I think every pregnancy and child should be celebrated. Even if it's just a luncheon or something:) I think you have every right to feel hurt. I am a huge scrapbooker (even though I am so far behind, but that's a whole other issue) And I thought about having all of these darling photos of my daughter's baby shower and would want the same for all my kids because every baby is a miracle and should be though of as so.

Yes, completely normal, especially since your two are going to be so close in age and both the same gender. I could understand the second shower if the older was to the point of where you would have gotten rid of all your baby stuff or if it was a girl this time around, but since that is not the case here...I wouldn't have expected a second shower. I barely even got one with my first, so you should consider yourself lucky you got two the first time around :)! Congrats on baby #2 and good luck.

we just threw a 2nd shower for a friend but used it more of an excuse for a girls night out... and gave her spa certificates, starbucks, etc. gifts for her and things to do on maternity leave rather than baby stuff (esp since she was having the same gender baby, etc.).

it was a lot of fun... and still a celebration of being a mom, etc. I don't think there is anything wrong with 2nd showers... but if I were you I'd just suggest maybe your friends didn't know you'd like something like that? why not call them up for a little evening out (esp since the second baby brings a lot less time for those kinds of things)...

I was given a baby shower for my first child, a boy, but not for my second or third, both girls. I didn't even realize people did baby showers for second kids...lucky them that got more than one shower. I wouldn't be offended if I were you. You got two for your first child - average it out and you've got your one shower per child. I'd be pretty happy with that. Congrats on your second baby!!

Of course every baby should be celebrated, but maybe your friends or family are only thinking of a baby shower as "you getting more stuff you don't need." Maybe they don't realize it is "ok" to have a baby shower for a second baby. I didn't have one with our second baby by the way. If you want to share celebration of this baby, you could do one of two things...get together with your mom, sister or a best girlfriend and ask them to help you plan a diaper party before your little one is born. All guests can just bring a pack of diapers and you all can have a girly good time. Or, you can wait until your son is born, and a few weeks later invite your family and friends over to see him and have brunch or lunch. Either way is totally acceptable.