2 Year Old Grandson

He isn't ready yet and shouldn't be rushed. Grandpa needs to back off. Have a little potty for him to sit on if he likes that. Ask if he needs to go. If he's afraid of men, having a man "train" him isn't helping - he's too tense to potty.

Talk to your pediatrician. Crying all the time isn't normal and you want to make sure that something isn't actually causing him pain or is wrong.

Also, google "baby sign language". It can help some kiddos communicate easier, which makes them less frustrated and helps with the "terrible twos". Kids can think a lot more then they can say, so they get upset when they can't communicate.

My son wasn't fully trained till he was almost 3. Practicing is fine, but don't push him to do things because YOU might think he's ready. Ease him into it. It's his body.

L., your grandson is too young to potty train. He has not figured out in his little head about the pooping and all of that. He's not a mess, honey. He's just too young.

Put diapers back on him. Stop using pullups.

A child should never be made to sit screaming on a toilet.

I would be worried a lot about him screaming when he sees his grandfather. WHY is his leery of men? Is he leery of his dad too?

You need to enlist the help of your ped. It's not normal for a child to be afraid of someone in the household. A stranger can be scary for some children, but this isn't normal.

It is normal for a 2 year old to cry when he doesn't get his way. What will eventually help is for you to acknowledge his feelings by saying something like this to him: "You're upset because it's time to go inside. It's fun to play outside, isn't it! We can go outside tomorrow." Follow through with what you tell him he has to do, even if he doesn't like it. After you've acknowledged that he's upset, ignore the crying. When he's done crying, THEN pay attention to him. Putting him in his room to help him calm down is also helpful. You don't have to tell him that he is being punished. Instead, you say "You need some quiet time on your own until you calm down." Only after he has stopped crying do you let him out of his room.

Kids try their hardest to get you to change your mind by crying and having tantrums. You can't let that happen. They also want attention, even if it's negative attention. If you put him in his room where he has NO audience for crying, the crying jags should become shorter and shorter.

It takes time. Just be 100% consistent.

We didn't even have a bathroom for the kids in the 2 year old room. We didn't start potty training until the kids were 3 and then it wasn't very formal. When they're ready it's pretty easy. When they're not????? It's not very pleasant.

Wait on th training until he shows readiness. Have papa play w him instead.

I suggest that he's too young to start potty training. Look up "potty training readiness" on the Internet. Only start training when he shows readiness.

As to his not wanting to be near his grandfather, then just let him be away from his grandfather. Grandfather gets the natural consequences of being a bully. lol With time, if you don't force him to interact with his grandfather he will come around again.

What do you do when he cries? I suggest that you sympathize with him, even hold him to comfort him. My 2 yo granddaughter cries often and that is what we all do. Sometimes, they cry because they are feeling insecure. Remember everything is new to them. They are developing many parts of themselves rapidly.

They cry when they're mad. Sympathize. Say, "I know you really wanted to watch that show." And then, hold him, if he wants to be held. Otherwise just stay nearby until he calms down. Let him know that you're there to help him handle his big feelings.

Also, be sure that he has a schedule, gets enough to eat and enough rest. My granddaughter cries when she's hungry and/or tired. I offer her a snack and if she continues to cry, I ask her if she wants to go night, night. She nearly always nods yes.

Sometimes a change in activity helps reduce the crying. Crying can mean she's bored and needs help finding something else to do. Put away some of his toys and bring them out at such times. Rotate the toys so that you have something "new" to give him.

Try to make things appear to go his way. Give him choices and divert his attention. When he wants to do something he can't do, move him away from where he's complaining and give him something else to do. Give him a choice between 2 things frequently instead of just saying he has to do this. For example: "Do you want me to carry you to the car or do you want to walk? It's dinner time. Do you want to eat your meat first or your potatoes? It's nap time. You can take this teddy bear to bed with you or do you want to take the truck?

As for holding him on the toilet while he screamed and cried really is a cruel thing to do. It is what bullies do to those smaller than themselves. Try to help your husband realize that he cannot make his grandson go potty.

It's good to never hold a child down unless not doing so would be dangerous to the child or others. Consider how you'd feel if someone held you down. Find ways to change the dynamics. As for potty training, if you or your husband or his father try to force him to sit on the potty, the training turns into a power struggle and the child will resist learning. No one wins in a power struggle.