M.F.
!st Bday is all about the photo op for the scrap book and parents celebrating their love of their the new arrival who has turned their lives upside down with joy and challenge. Parents of other babies will pack their own food/milk etc unless toddlers, then table foods like apples slices, apple sauce, soft cooked veggies, crackers, raisins, bread etc are fine - depends on their stage. If their diet is really limited the parent will come prepared with back up food (as would you if you were a guest). Party favors are a bit of a challenge, You can go to baby depot or such and fine washable small plush toys of colorful rattles etc. If you want to by finger puppets, I am in silver spring distribute Puppets call ###-###-####. But getting token toys for $4 to $8 is totally do-able, sugar free lollipops are a candy options you can add etc. You could even do sippy cups- stuff like that. I think the ceremony of goody bags is fun for all. Bakery-I have no recommendations.
Congrats!!!