16 Year Lies Out of Habit

I had been reading about why kids lie. Anywhere from the internet to seeing it on the news. Since toddler age when they finally realize that they need to hide something that they did to not get in trouble, yeah it becomes habit. I am trying to teach my 7 year old that it is best to just talk about it, not ask why did you do it or why are you lying. If you know what they did and they are lying about it, just stating that you know and talk about the reason and reassuring them that talking about it is better than hiding it. If they lie then they get in more trouble. Just talk to you're teen and let him or her know that you are with them and not against them and communication is always the best policy. Hope this helps and let me know how it goes.
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I had one of those as well, who would rather not tell me or just wait until I found out...delaying the consequences. At 16, he can have ALOT of freedom taken away for being dishonest. Let him know that his dishonesty,
will only lead to others not believing a word he says when he might need them most! It is a long process, but I feel sitting him down and making him be truthful and accountable is the best option. I think you most likely know when he is lying. Don't give into him going places with friends until he can change his behavior!

Well K., I've raised 3 sons now 23, 20 & 18 and everyone was completely different. One thing that is for sure, chronic lying is always a symptom of a bigger issue. For example, one of my sons was an absolute non stop liar. We couldn't believe anything out of his mouth anymore. Come to find out he had lots to cover up. Drug use is the first thing you should look into. Great kids do use drugs. Once established there is no drug use you can look into other reasons why your son feels the need to lie.
Good luck............I feel your pain.
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My sons are 23 and 17. The lies hit both of them at 16. You would think being a Psychologist would help analyze the propblem. Instead of trying to catch him-change the way you ask the question to begin with. Or even better-don't ask. ie: Why didn't you take the trash out when I asked you over an hour ago? (this gives way to the "story") instead: I see the trash is still here. I am going to stand right here and watch you take it out. Almost every lie stars with a question. You don't care WHY. If he lies about why he is late coming home-he cannot go. Try it. I wish you the best!

Hello K.~

Let me say with a very open mind as a occupational therapy practitioner who had to remember sometimes I can not fix sall that I feel I should with my own teen daughter. It sounds like a mentor for him would be great, there is so much peer pressure now adays for our children that they learn quite early how to "lie" or mix up the truth as they like to say. But with continued open communication and getting him involved in outside activities there is great change...try the YMCA, I see results in time and no I do not work for them, just volunteer.

The best to you!!

K., its as plain as the nose on your face as the saying goes! You have 2 families and the most important one is want ing your attendtion! take time away from your second family and slowly listen to your son. suprisingly enough you will start hearing the truth!