K.,
Don't look at it as failing! People are different.
My son never got into drugs, alcohol, sex, or crime, but he hated school and refused to do any homework, ever. He would get good grades on his tests, so he knew the material, but he just would not conform. At 17 he only had enough credits for tenth grade.I had taken everything away from him, too, but all it did was make him apathetic. There was nothing else to take away. Counselors were of no help. It was ruining our family life and our relationship.
So I finally said, forget about what people will say, I love my son, so why keep hitting your head against the same brick wall? I told him there was no sense in continuing to do the same thing, so I withdrew him from school, he took his GED, passed with a high score, and life went on and we all lived happily ever after! Yes! He is 28 now, a journeyman diesel mechanic and going to college for a chemistry degree! He's happily married and is a wonderful dad.
I wish I would have done it sooner for him! A GED is just as good as a diploma! Don't let anyone, not anyone, belittle him for a GED! In the grand scheme of life, what does it matter unless you're going to an ivy league school, and then you have to start with the right preschool.
My daughter hated school but for different reasons. She was an excellent student, but had a social phobia or something, so I withdrew her and homeschooled her for a while. Then she took her GED, passed with a high score, and started college at 17. She is graduating next semester with a teaching degree.
MY third and last child, couldn't stand the immaturity of the kids in high school either, At 16, same thing, withdrew her, GED, and she started college. She is working toward a hospitality management degree.
All my kids are doing great and are socially active with church, hold down a job, etc. Some people think that kids must stay in traditional high school until the end, but why? My kids had all passed the Ohio Graduation tests, so what was the point in getting more credits? They wanted to get on with life.
It must be something in our genes that we all inherited, because I, too, quit school at 16 because I couldn't stand the immaturity and cruelty of my peers, went to night school, and graduated at the same time as my class. I am now working on my PhD in education.
So relax, love your son, and enjoy his company. Even if he just barely passes his tests or the GED, or has to take it more than once. That's okay. Just keep moving in the right direction even though it's a different path than the norm. As long as it's a positive move/path/direction, it doesn't have to be just like everyone else. He's only 16 and maybe he is just on a different time frame than everyone else. (I'm not saying let him be a loafer. You have to have the talk that if he gets a GED and is done with high school, he has to work full time or part time and go to community college or whatever you decide. Community college is a good way for them to get the feel of college. Don't be alarmed, though, if he struggles a bit with this. My last daughter withdrew from 2 of her three classes the first quarter, one from her second, but made it through all of them the third quarter. Her grades vary from A to D, but she is making progress overall.)
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