11 Month Old Standing in Crib

It is normal for your little guy to be standing in the crib. The problem with holding him while he goes to sleep is that he isn't learning how to put himself to sleep. So when he wakes up in the middle of the night he will not be able to go to sleep easily.

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Hope this helps. I have a 20 month old and I waited 9 years long for him so I totally understand the desire and need to hold him. However, I know from my 11 year old that learning good sleep habits is so important.

Blessings!

Holding him until he goes to sleep could set you up for bad sleep habits in the future. It did with our son. They get use to you holding him and then they wake up and your gone so it makes them angry. Also he will never learn to self soothe and put himself back to bed. If he wakes in the middle of the night you'll have to go in there and hold him until he's asleep again. There is also the scenario that he will get smarter as he gets older because he may start to fight sleep because he knows you will leave as soon as he's asleep.

Take all of this with a grain of salt. You son may be an exception. I thought mine was too until I wasn't getting to sleep and bedtime was a nightmare. We used the Ferber method but it's best done at 4 mo. It gets harder as they get older.

This is normal. Most babies stand when they are in their cribs. My son feels if he is awake and in his crib he thinks its time to get out. At night when he does this more chances are if you dont go to him right away he will go back to sleep but if he sees you standing in the door way he will want you to come get him. No holding him is not bad unles it gets to the point you cant move without him. Children love the body contact with mom and dad its their security. My son is always runs his hands up the back side of my shirt to rub my back or he will when around my shoulders hugging me will play with my hair, its natural they like that skin to skin feel of mommy. Enjoy this time you won't get to hold them much longer when they are out going to school running here and there. One thing me and my husband do is we get the children settled down for the night and seeing how there is a 14 yr gap between our other two we let the baby come to our room and sit in between us while we sit and watch tv and relax before bed and he will sit there and pat daddy on the leg or play with mommy's hair while he drinks his last bottle of the night once he through he gets his binky and his blanket then he goes right off to sleep. Then he goes to his crib. They grow to fast enjoy this.

T.

What's the problem with his standing up? Do you have the mattress lowered all the way? My 19 month old stands up in his crib all the time and has never tried to climb over, nor did my first son. I'm assuming your afraid he may fall? He may never try to climb out and if he does, he's not likely to be hurt as long as you have carpet or a rug under his crib. We have rocked both our boys to sleep and my oldest who is 5 sometimes likes to lay on my bed with me to fall asleep, but has no problem falling asleep in his own bed either. He, also, puts him self back to sleep if he wakes in the night as does my 19 month old and we never taught them to put themselves to sleep or let them cry it out for more than a few minutes. So, don't worry about it.

It's perfectly normal. Have you lowered the mattress on your crib? Once they stand up you should put in as far down as it can go, that way he can't climb out as easily. You need to let him stand in it, at 11 months he's got to learn to go asleep on his own. Standing up in the crib is thrilling for him!! Oh yeah, also remove any mobile you might have in the crib but leave the rail toys!!

My DD is 12 months and does the same thing - add on to that she chews on her crib. I just bought her a crib tent. We used one for a my son a couple of years ago and it takes care of all the problems. They can't climb out, they can't chew the rails, and since it goes on the inside, they can't easily hold the rails to stand either. It is well worth the investment, especially if you use one of the Babies R Us 15% coupons. They are normally around $70.

If you want to hold your baby to sleep, go right ahead. It isn't bad. As you said, you both like it, so it isn't a problem. However, just remember in a years time or so when your child is having trouble going to sleep by himself, you may pay the price then. Habits can be hard to break. It is really a personal choice. I typically hold my daughter till she is very drowsy then put her down. We still get her snuggle time, but she also puts herself to sleep in her crib. Good luck with whatever you prefer.

D., it is totally not a bad thing! Our precious babies are only small for a blink of an eye. My daughter is 2 and I still rock her to sleep. This is what being a mother is all about! Holding them and loving on them as much as you can!

I understand how your feeling about wanting to do this for him. The other people are right though you might be setting him up for more difficult times in the future. Also you said you work full time. Who ever watches him, no matter how attentive they might be, are not going to always want to hold him to go to sleep. He really needs to learn how to put himself to sleep.
Lonie