10Th Anniversary Ideas???

What's he doing for you? Is he putting any effort into planning something? If not, then don't bother. Don't put anymore into the relationship than you're getting. You'll end up resentful and exhausted.

What you give or do greatly depends on how the two of you show love. Some people like big gifts, some like lots of little gifts, some prefer physical touch over gifts, some prefer spending time together over gifts. If I gave my husband a gift he'd be disappointed because what he really wants is to spend time with me. Fortunatly I'm the same way so we booked a kayaking trip together and got a sitter for the kids. There are love type quizes on the internet.

take the family and go stay at a cabin in one of the great national parks of TN, AL, or GA. They are inexpensive and an awesome place to get in touch with family. This divorce, or seperation, is not just about you two. This is ripping apart all the security your children may have had. Nothing is scarier to wake up with out your Dad there, and feel the fear. Everything is OK if your Dad is in the house. All of you need to be working on this family. Nothing is more important. What are the issues? Beating, drinking, cheating?!?!??! Is he a good provider, good father, and most of the time good husband. It is tough on your own, and tougher on your children. Do a family thing for this monumental anniversary. Put the past behind you and move forward for your family. Good luck and God bless!

I know $$ is an issue, but if you can swing it, try to get "away" for one or two nights. Even if it is a just a local hotel or motel.

If you are trying to reconcile, time alone in a place removed from your daily routine is really helpful in breaking down walls & paving a path for communication. Even if it is just talking about the dreams you had when you got married. The gift of time... what parent couldn't use that?

Google Bed & Breakfast in your area, ask friends if your kids can have a sleepover. Pack some cheese & fruit & a bottle of wine & go.

It will be worth the effort!

J.,

My husband and I left our children with our parents for the weekend and went on a weekend in the mountains. We did have to pay for the cost of the hotel but we chose one with free breakfast. We stayed in an area where there were 14 waterfalls that you got to see and even swim under. It was totally awesome. The only cost we had was one night hotel stay, food for lunch and dinner, and gas. The waterfalls were free and they were beautiful. It was a very romantic get away. We only stayed one night but we left very early in the morning (the kids spent the night before at grandparent's house)and had all day there. We spent the night at the hotel, got up ate breakfast and took 1/2 the day finishing the waterfall tour. We took our time and got home late in the evening. The kids just stayed at grandma's house another night and we picked them up early the next morning. So we had basically 2 days alone to ourselves with just one of them in a hotel. I see that you live in Kentucky so check out the national parks in your area and see if there is a nice hotel that you can stay at for the night and spend time with each other. This was a wonderful trip for us because we drove around the national park and when we got to waterfalls we would get out and hike about a mile to see it and while we were driving we got to talk to each other and be alone without interruptions from kids. Then on the hike to the falls we held hands and snuggled with each other it was like we were newlyweds again. We also made a point to eat at an adult resaurant that evening and had great dinner conversation. We came in the evening and spent time in the jacuzzi at the hotel. It was something we have needed for a while. We have 2 children ages 8 and 1 and have never left them with anyone to stay away from them for the night. It was relaxing and romantic. We talked about things that didn't involve work or the kids (which is extremely hard to do). I hope you are able to afford something like that. Just forgo the gift giving and take the money you spend on a gift for each other and pay for a hotel room. Spend $80-$100 for the night to get away. If you are working to save your marriage then spare no expenses. This may just be what you guys need to get back together. Sometimes life can interfere with the steps you've made to mend things. Hope all workds out and good luck!

I don't have anniversary ideas, since I have only been married for 4 years. The thing that caught my eye about your post is your marriage troubles. I would definitely tell you that you need the book "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne. If you read this book, it will change every aspect of your life. If you want more money, better health, better relationships, more peace, you should read it. It basically says that you can have anything you want if you change the negative thinking in your head and realize that everything you say and do effects what your life looks like. If you want more money, think thoughts of wealth, not debt. If you want a better relationship, think thoughts of love and tenderness towards your husband, not hatred. If you want peace, then block the thoughts of worry. Expect that what you want will come true and start to act as if it is already true. You will see everything that you envision start to emerge. Things you want will start to appear. It truly is the secret to life and no one ever told us. I read this book a year ago and my life has magically transformed into the life I always wanted.

I have a wonderful relationship with the man of my dreams, I drive an expensive car, livle in a huge house in a country club neighborhood and have a beautiful baby boy. I truly belivle that the secret worked for me and I think everyone deserves to know the secret. Please buy it used on Amazon for a few dollars and change your family's life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well, i may be able to help out where the other moms can't. You say you've been separated but working through your problems; that is very good. I think you have been told to go to your favorite restaruant, get a baby sitter, have a home cooked meal with candle light...those are all good. But i happen to be an ordained minister just relocating to springfield, tn. I would suggest you re-new your vows. You don't need a new license but you do need to renew those words of love and commitment to each other. Even wear your wedding dress. How does that sound? Where are you? Short notice ok, and also have beautiful marriage certificate for you to frame! Keep your same anniversary date, just will have a new start. Maybe a 2nd honeymoon right at home. Email or call me at :###-###-####. Ask for minister A. G..

Myrtle Beach - that's where we have gone on our 10th and 20th. Whatever your interest, you can find something great to do. Don't forget to take advantage of free entertainment - like a walk on the beach.
It is not too far away and with a search you can find good discounts.
Congratulation! and wish you much happiness....
J.

Even if you can't get away, maybe you can farm the kids out for the weekend and unplug the phones.

Regarding repairing your marriage: A great movie is Fireproof. It's a little sad but shows there is hope, if you're willing to work for it. If you're christian, the book is a wonderful gift to your husband and to yourself. (It's a journal, too so it would be best to get 1 for each). It will help you improve your relationship with each other and with God.

You could do up a gift bag with the movie, popcorn, pizza coupons, back scratcher, gift cert for a massage from you, . . .

Happy Anniversary!!

If your only 31 then you werent very old when you got married or when you started dating so you probably didnt have much money back then either. What me and my husband did was go the where we first met which was swimming at a local river for a swim and a picnik then later we came home and watched American pie (the movie we went to see on out first date) and ate some pizza (what we ate on our fist date) It was awsome and cheep and really fun and brought back a lot of memroies and we talked a lot about the good times we had over the past 10 years. Maybe give that a try.

Get Dr Laura's book The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands and put it in a gift bag (with a note saying you will read it) along with some new lingerie... That will certainly help things along.