Revving Myself up for My Husband's Dream Car

Updated on October 03, 2011
T.L. asks from Wayne, MI
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Am I a good wife here or what? I want to make my husband happy. He works hard and makes many sacrifices for us. I told him that he deserves whatever car he wants. Well, today he is getting a new, beefed up Ford Mustang. He is getting some accessory installed that will make the car run loud. It's got the spoiler too. But, he was nice enough to get the auto trans car because he thinks I could never figure out a manual trans car. He's probably right as I am not the fastest learner. At least he considered me here in this purchase. This is his "manly" car as he calls it. I'm keeping my opinions to myself, but honestly, I feel, with small kids, I think this car is completely impractical for us. Plus, we live in Michigan, the snow in the winter is terrible. I heard that Mustangs don't do well in snow. My husband drives alot due to his job. But, whatever car makes him happy. We also have an SUV, so that's our family vehicle. My husband thinks that this car will help our boys develop a love for muscle cars too, so the more reason we should get it! Have any of you ladies ever said okay to your husband's dream car? LOL: In the back of my head, I just keep thinking: I just hope this car doesn't pick up some young chick for my husband!

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J.B.

answers from Houston on

Just know this, when he goes back to work driving that car and his buddies see it....... YOU will be the coolest wife EVER! A big thank you from husbands everywhere.

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S.L.

answers from San Francisco on

T. I think you are wonderful wife, and SMART. In the grand scheme of things, this is not that much that he is asking. Be glad it's not a Porsche! I also love that he is getting the automatic transmission for you, and that you guys already have an SUV for the kids...

Don't worry about the young chicks...most husbands would be thrilled to have a wife like you at home : )

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J.T.

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Yes!! Let him have "his baby". Also, if he really wants a manual transmission (I would if it were THAT car!!!), consider getting that and you can learn. It is not that hard and is 10x more fun, IMO.

I've had several cars, and my manual transmission Mustang GT has been my absolute favorite!! I cried when we traded it in.

Have fun!!

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C.O.

answers from Washington DC on

aaaaaahhh the thunder of the engine....bbbbbrrrrrroooom!!! vvvvvvvrrrrrrooom!!!!

Man I'm sooo envious!!! My hubby appreciates muscle cars but doesn't go ga-ga over them...I appreciate that Ford and Chevy went back to their roots on the cars...a Camaro is ssssweeet looking again as is the Mustang...still can't beat a '69 fastback....oooh or a '66 Malibu....oh yeah baby!!!

Sorry - I've digressed!! Okay - your question was what?
is the car impractical? Yeah - with kids - but it's okay to have one impractical car in the family...IF you can afford it..

does it handle snow well? well...all depends upon the tires and how your husband drives...Ford has done a LOT of reworking of the tranny and drive train over the last few years...a friend of mine that owns one in Montana has Michelin X-Ice xi2 winter tires. but overall it's about reduced speed and keep going.

you don't know how to drive a manual transmission?!?!?!?! HOLY SMOKES BATGIRL!!!

A car won't help the boys develop it - dad has to admire and appreciate the beauty of cars and show that to his kids...just having one muscle car isn't going to foster a love for them...car shows, teaching them about cars, etc...

CONGRATS on the new car!!! I think it is good to do this!!! Have fun!!!

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A.S.

answers from Iowa City on

I can't ok my husband's dream car as he already has it. But if he didn't already have it, I would as long as we could afford it. My husband okay-ed my dream car. A Late 60s or early 70s Chevelle SS. Practical? No. What I want? Yes. Now if we could just find one and the time to restore it. I don't think it can be a muscle car unless it has manual transmission and at least a V8. That is an unspoken rule of cardom.

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A.S.

answers from Detroit on

I'm the one with the dream muscle car.

How could I stop my husband from having one too?

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J.S.

answers from Jacksonville on

I'll say yes to my husbands dream car - a 69 camaro SS, if he says yes to my dream car A Corvette Stingray 69-78 I really like most the of the years there. I would also take the 69 Camaro SS (love that car) My cousin had a 71 Mach 1 Mustang, and that car was awesome! Ohhh but Chargers and Nova's of the day were great too....

Can you tell we are a bit of motorheads around here? LOL Really it's the classics we love, but I have to admit I am pretty impressed with the body style of the new Camaro's just the right blend of old school and new age. Sigh...

I take back my answer, I would ABSOLUTELY let my husband get his dream car...but he has to share. :)

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✿.K.

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Oh no! You cannot have a sports car that is automatic!!!!! What a crime to that beautiful mustang!!!!

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Hubby has an 81 camaro z28 (4 speed) I would never ask him to sell it....hell I can't wait until we can afford a new one! And I have a mustang gt (5 speed) gotta have a stick baby! Those are our summer cars because we live in new England we both have 4 wheel drive vehicles. I would never not allow him to have a fun car because. I don't ever want to give up mine!

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H.V.

answers from Cleveland on

Oh My husband and I would argue over who get their dream car.

We are both huge muscle heads. I wouldn't care if the car was practical. That is why it is called a Dream car. If I had the means to tell my husband that I totally would!! Only I know he would NEVER agree to make it a manual hehe Then again I know how to drive stick. :)

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S.W.

answers from Minneapolis on

Those little voices in the back of our heads can be pretty smart...

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K.M.

answers from Memphis on

With a lot of snow, you should probably think about a manual transmission. They are better in snowy conditions. You have more control. I am sure that you could learn to drive it.

I also have a question. Why would you want it to run loud?

Oh and if you can afford it and you have another car that would work as a family car, let him get any car he wants. (Next time it will be your turn.)

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T.N.

answers from Albany on

IMHO, this is what makes for a long happy marriage.

Course, you would also need to feel free to make an expensive, completely impractical purchase, if you so desire.

But your supporting the things that turn him on is the way to go (provided you're not gonna lose the house!).

Indulging each other's passions keeps the spark alive, I mean how sexy will he look driving the thing!

So cool, enjoy youth!

:)

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J.L.

answers from Los Angeles on

Well this is hard for me because I am a car girl, lol. So its very easy for me to say yes to cars my guy likes.
When I met my guy he already had his 65 mustang (which was the 3rd he built from frame) and the 29 Ford Mod. A (which we are currently building). Since we are building it I say okay to parts for it all the time, which can get expensive, but he loves it and works hard for it.
We often discuss what our next dream car should be. I know what he wants, and I hope to be able to afford it by his 40th b-day, which is a 32 Ford Roadster....they can be 4-10,000 just for the body...no engine, etc. I would love to surprise him with it. =)

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S.S.

answers from Chicago on

My first husband bought a camaro. It was stolen off of a car lot driven around by the thieves then totaled in a car accident. Then he bought a Mustang. We got divorced.

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K.B.

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My husband got a Porsche 911 convertible three years ago. He drives big work trucks 99% of the time, so he wanted a weekend car. I wasn't too thrilled, but I didn't argue about it. The 2nd summer he had it, he was driving it on a back road way too fast, hit a dip in the road, and he bottomed the engine out (his guardian angel was with him that night and he was not hurt at all). $20,000 in repairs later, it now sits in our garage, while we make an extra $100/month in car insurance payments on it (car itself is paid off). I think he might have driven it 5 or 6 times this summer. He finally agreed to sell it because we could use the extra cash right now (and it doesn't get driven), but he drug his feet and convertible season is now pretty much over. Hopefully he'll still be willing to sell it in the spring! So, it was fun at first, but now, he never drives it and it just costs us $$.

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K.J.

answers from New York on

Well, I'm not a car girl, but a beefed up mustang? Yes! Lol. You've got the "family car" so it's not like he's trying to cram the kids in there. It's the louder part I wouldn't go for lol. Anyway, I agree with Grandma T, enjoy it now. Your boys will love it for sure. Plus they could "work on the car" with dad. :)

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C.M.

answers from Detroit on

Sounds like it's already a done deal. The only thing is what you said...the snow. My husband has had more than one dream car. One was a two seater Mercedes and the other the two seater Cadillac XLR. He did have a bit of trouble in the snow, so I just asked him about it and he said the Mustang is a bigger heavier car and shouldn't be a problem in the snow. Your concern about it being a "chick magnet"...no worries, it's just a guy thing!

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G.T.

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Enjoy the fun cars while you are young, eventually you'll be driving a conservative, comfortable vehicle.

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K.U.

answers from Detroit on

Ah, boys and their toys...

As long as he is as good of a husband and as good a provider as you say he is, AND you can afford it and you are not stuck driving some sh*t-box, I'd say let him have it - God knows there are worse things he could want.

My husband got himself a brand new Honda VTX 1800 motorcycle when they first came out 10 years ago - he had had a bike before but then saw this and had to have it. Granted, we weren't married yet, just dating, so it's not like I had as much say in it like I would now, but he loves that bike. He's talked about selling it if we got desperate for money but I know it would break his heart.

This past summer, he found a 2001 Camaro convertible for sale at a used car lot with low mileage for a very reasonable price. He's always been a muscle car fan, more Chevy/GM. He's been driving a 1997 pick-up truck with over 100K miles on it and he had been thinking of trading it in and trying to get a newer used pick-up - and instead he ended up getting the Camaro and paying cash for it. And I have to admit, it's a lot of fun to drive in the summer with the top down. We took it to the Woodward Dream Cruise when it was going on. I still have my car, a 2006 Chevy HHR, that I bought new 6 years ago (now paid off), and we have a 2010 Lincoln MKT that we inherited from my mother when she passed away last year (and she had paid cash for it, so no car payments there either) so that is our "family" car. So we sort of have "his", "mine" and "ours".

I really think that sometimes you both need some things that just make you happy and as long as it's not causing financial issues or any kind of rift in your relationship, happy people make for a happy marriage. I could almost care less about what kind of car I drive, as long as it is comfortable, quiet and reliable. But there's other things I care more about the same way my husband cares more about cars. It's all about balance. My husband and I have a really solid marriage and I'm not particularly worried about some hottie going after my husband because of his car or motorcycle. If anything, I think he's MORE likely to stay faithful to me because he's happy being married to me, because I let him have some "toys"!

We were a Ford family growing up - my dad was an engineer for Ford and now my brother is too. Would love to get a Mustang myself some day but it's not high on my priority list right now. Have fun and happy driving!

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L.C.

answers from Washington DC on

I had a mustang years ago and I absolutely hated it. It was pretty decent in the snow, though.
That said, if that's what he wants to drive, so be it.
I'd like my husband to get something a little bigger and heavier than the Civic he drives, but he loves the gas mileage...
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S.J.

answers from Boca Raton on

T. I have three words for you selfish,self-centered and egotistical.
Are you trying to imply that you don't work just as hard as your husband? Do you not deserve a "womanly"car of your dreams? As a married woman with small children you would never dream of being so selfish. You would be practical and logical.
I am a car enthusiast myself. We own several collectibles, but we only started buying the cars of dreams after we had two practical family friendly vehicles first. We also both agreed together what cars to buy.
Some things to consider:
1) Gas guzzler
2) HIgher insurance rates
3) Do you need a babysitter so you can be in it together?
4) Has your husband made any other rash decisions or changes lately?
I point out and ask you these things b/c my first husband and I went through something similar.
We wanted another vehicle something more sporty yet practical. We looked at a BMW M3. It was fast and we could all fit in it as a family. Instead he comes home a week later with a red 350 z. No back seat, terrible on gas, and insurance premiums through the roof. Needless to say our marriage fell apart soon after b/c the little red car was the first sign of things to come. He was cheating with college girls that he was picking up in his car. He felt young again and all of his priorities went out the window.
I'm not sharing this with you b/c I think your husband will do the same, but you asked for others opinions b/c deep down you have some genuine concerns.
Some other red flags are him trying to sell you on stupid reasons like he's getting it in automatic "for you." As far as your boys are concerned they have the rest of there lives to build a passion for muscle cars.
He should not have to convince you of something if it is a good idea to begin with.
Good luck and drive that car every chance you get.

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S.H.

answers from St. Louis on

Cynical S. checking in:
yes, it's a totally impractical purchase...one which does not suit your family nor your locale. If he drives a lot, the beefed-up version sucks at mpg.

That said, HAVE FUN! Mustangs are a blast to drive, handle beautifully, & I've been known to rent a drop top Pony when I want a fun wkend. The only reason I do not own one as my primary....is because I have to have 4wd to get out across the riverbank to "our" spot! ++ I haul 2 80lb dogs!

Another thought would be: if your DH wants your sons to develop a love for muscle cars.....buy vintage as a "perk" & drive practical daily. Our older son's 1st car was an 84 Mustang....it was a BLAST! & our younger son's 1st car is a 92 Camaro....woohoo! But then again, my 1st car was a Camaro & my 2nd was a Corvette....... :)

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