Photo by: Maciej Lewandowski

Bright Child with Asperger's

Photo by: Maciej Lewandowski

Advocates for Asperger’s/gifted (AG) children are eager to have them appreciated as wonderful, special children. The presence of dual exceptionality always casts a shadow over this goal. So much of Asperger’s Syndrome echoes the behaviors of healthy highly gifted children that some of the first discussions of AS in the gifted community are cautions not to mistake giftedness for Asperger’s Syndrome.” From http://www.hoagiesgifted.org/eric/fact/asperger.pdf

In the 3rd grade, my little Aspie struggled with school. “Needs Improvement” and failing grades were common. She would forget to bring home assignments, she’d forget to take them back, or forget to even take them out of her backpack. She’d work extremely hard, only to accomplish a third of what her classmates were completing in the same amount of time.

Can you imagine our surprise when we received a letter congratulating us on our bright child and welcoming her to the ACT Explore program’s equivalent for elementary grade children?

Truly, that was one of the major things that lead us to pursuing the proper testing and diagnosis of our daughter. How could she be so creative, so artistic, struggle so much in school and with common sense, but then score one of the highest scores in her grade for reading competencies?

The child bounces between reading Pokeman and Journey to the Center of the Earth, though, now she’s reading the Lightning Thief series.

Consistently, her teachers told us how bright she was. How quick she could be, but on paper, test after test, she would fail. It wasn’t until we started understanding how her mind works and discovering where she is so talented and where she struggles.

It took a qualified pediatric neuropsych. professional to properly evaluate, test and then diagnose our daughter. I can’t tell you of the confusion, angst, and frustration we have experienced over the years before we properly understood her type of mental pattern.

“In addition to the clinical syndromes outlined by Dr. Webb, Asperger’s Disorder is another that is becoming commonly mis-diagnosed in gifted youth. Although there can be similarities between a gifted child and a child with Asperger’s Disorder, there are very clear differences. Thorough evaluation is necessary to distinguish gifted children’s sometimes unusual and sometimes unique social interactions from Asperger’s Disorder. In the same way, thorough evaluation is also necessary to distinguish Attention-Deficit/ Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) from behavioral problems and inattention that result from other causes such as anxiety, traumatic experiences (e.g., abuse), inappropriate curriculum, or even poor parenting.” From http://www.sengifted.org/articles_counseling/Amend_MisdiagnosisOfAspergersDisorder.shtml

She is a delight and a joy and our lives are much easier to manage now that we have the information we need. Luckily, our school system was very supportive and after running a whole slew of their own tests, they narrowed down the items that are most troubling to her in school. With our IEP plan in hand, we begin the 4th grade with a sense of excitement, anxiety, and hope.

Here is to a year where she will feel success and confidence!

Chef Eureka is cooking up the chaos of today’s family life. Includes all the ingredients of a delightful dish. I’m the mother of two daughters, a soon to be 12 year old and a 9 year old. My older is embracing tweendom and my younger has been diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome.

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I am the parent of a 10 year old son, who also has this syndrome; however I find my self taking great offense to the term "ASPIE". Does no one else realize how demeaning that is and sounds?

My son, do to our efforts as a family unit, is and has been mainstreamed since preK...

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As I was about to comment my son runs down stairs and even though his dad was on the phone and conveying a message to someone else in the house he commences to say "Dad I think I left my game in your car" multiple times until his dad has to stop and remind him that he is on the phone! My child was diagnosed with Asperger's when he was 10. It took us so long to get him tested because we ourselves had no clue. We just thought he was not focusing and being the class clown...

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That is so great that you finally know. My son is three and has just been diagnosed with Autism and I really know what you mean about excelling at some things and just not getting others. For example he can unlock the front door to go outside and play at my mom's but he can't tell me how his day was yet. But he will!
I just wanted to say I am very impressed at your outlook for your daughter's future. I think that is so important and will help her go so far...

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My Aspie boy is 11, and in the 5th grade. He's bright, loving, creative, manipulative, emotional, obsessive and is as organized as a tornado. We live in rural northern Nevada where services are slim to none. We have an IEP and a few staff members at school who are willing to work with us. My biggest issue is the organizational problems, never turning in the homework, etc. and putting pencil to paper...

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My 4 yo daughter has autism and I feel she is bright at music. I was looking into homeschooling programs for special kids. Any recommendations? I live in Texas

My son is 11 and diagnosed with Asperger's. Thank you so much for covering this topic. I have tried homeschool/private school and for the first time, public school. He has a 504 plan in place but all is still a work in progress. His sibling, younger daughter makes it a challenge at home due to his frustration toward her. He said she has a perfect life so he hates her. He has reached anxiety levels causing him to pull out eyelashes, brows and on to his hair now...

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Thanks for sharing the info about the books. I have a 20 yr old daughter and I am wondering if she has Aspergers and the books will help.

I have a son with extreme ADHD and I always wondered if he has Aspergers too. He We are currently doing the Learning Breakthrough program and I noticed on their website that is for Asperger's too. We both are doing the program and we are seeing a lot of nice changes after about 4 months of doing the program...

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