Photo by: Maciej Lewandowski

Bright Child with Asperger's

Photo by: Maciej Lewandowski

Advocates for Asperger’s/gifted (AG) children are eager to have them appreciated as wonderful, special children. The presence of dual exceptionality always casts a shadow over this goal. So much of Asperger’s Syndrome echoes the behaviors of healthy highly gifted children that some of the first discussions of AS in the gifted community are cautions not to mistake giftedness for Asperger’s Syndrome.” From http://www.hoagiesgifted.org/eric/fact/asperger.pdf

In the 3rd grade, my little Aspie struggled with school. “Needs Improvement” and failing grades were common. She would forget to bring home assignments, she’d forget to take them back, or forget to even take them out of her backpack. She’d work extremely hard, only to accomplish a third of what her classmates were completing in the same amount of time.

Can you imagine our surprise when we received a letter congratulating us on our bright child and welcoming her to the ACT Explore program’s equivalent for elementary grade children?

Truly, that was one of the major things that lead us to pursuing the proper testing and diagnosis of our daughter. How could she be so creative, so artistic, struggle so much in school and with common sense, but then score one of the highest scores in her grade for reading competencies?

The child bounces between reading Pokeman and Journey to the Center of the Earth, though, now she’s reading the Lightning Thief series.

Consistently, her teachers told us how bright she was. How quick she could be, but on paper, test after test, she would fail. It wasn’t until we started understanding how her mind works and discovering where she is so talented and where she struggles.

It took a qualified pediatric neuropsych. professional to properly evaluate, test and then diagnose our daughter. I can’t tell you of the confusion, angst, and frustration we have experienced over the years before we properly understood her type of mental pattern.

“In addition to the clinical syndromes outlined by Dr. Webb, Asperger’s Disorder is another that is becoming commonly mis-diagnosed in gifted youth. Although there can be similarities between a gifted child and a child with Asperger’s Disorder, there are very clear differences. Thorough evaluation is necessary to distinguish gifted children’s sometimes unusual and sometimes unique social interactions from Asperger’s Disorder. In the same way, thorough evaluation is also necessary to distinguish Attention-Deficit/ Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) from behavioral problems and inattention that result from other causes such as anxiety, traumatic experiences (e.g., abuse), inappropriate curriculum, or even poor parenting.” From http://www.sengifted.org/articles_counseling/Amend_MisdiagnosisOfAspergersDisorder.shtml

She is a delight and a joy and our lives are much easier to manage now that we have the information we need. Luckily, our school system was very supportive and after running a whole slew of their own tests, they narrowed down the items that are most troubling to her in school. With our IEP plan in hand, we begin the 4th grade with a sense of excitement, anxiety, and hope.

Here is to a year where she will feel success and confidence!

Chef Eureka is cooking up the chaos of today’s family life. Includes all the ingredients of a delightful dish. I’m the mother of two daughters, a soon to be 12 year old and a 9 year old. My older is embracing tweendom and my younger has been diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome.

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67 Comments

Thank you for writing this. I have a 3 year old who is bright and has always loved numbers and letters and can spell and read and write. He has a tendency to want things to always be in the same order and to do things over and over or else he really gets upset. His preschool teacher saw these tendencies and recommended that he be tested. The team of 4 specialists gave him a 3 hour test and deemed him not autistic, but with aspeger-like tendencies...

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I am so happy that you all are seeking great resources for your children.

I would like to make you aware of the DORE program that is available at The Cerebellum Center in Dallas. Although designed for dyslexia, the impact for those who struggle with Asperger's is impressive.

Improved eye contact, social skills, coordination, speech, academic consistency improvement - the list could go on.

It is a highly specialized and individualized program and I would love to talk with you...

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Wow! I am so comforted to know that there are so many families going through the same things we are. Our son is nine and was diagnosed at two with sensory integration difficulties, at six with Aspergers and at eight with ADHD. I've been told over and over again how smart he is, but can't seem to reason with him on relatively basic things such as turning off lights, toilet training and tying shoes...

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I have a 9 year old niece that I am so concerned about. She performs extremely well in school, but I have noticed behaviors in her that, when I thought about it, are uncannily similar to my mother's (her grandmother.) It has occurred to both me and my husband that both my mother and our niece may be on the spectrum of some form of autism, more specifically Aspergers. My mother suffered most of her adult life with her lack of empathy and inability to connect to others and read social cues...

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I would recommend a book called Disconnected Kids, by Dr. Robert Melillo. It is in an incredible book for parents that explains your child's brain and how come they have extreme strengths and yet they can have some weaknesses. The book has an assessment you can do with your child and then some practical exercises and nutritional recommendations to improve the overall functioning and communication between the two hemispheres of the brain...

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I had the priveledge of being a teacher with children who have asbergers and I have found that I was the most sucessful with them if they had a hobby that they liked. One child in particular is very good at magic tricks due to the great coordination in his hands. Anyway he is really good at it and it has helped him break through a lot of his social issues. He has been able to perform for other people and it is a way for him to connect with others...

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My younger brother who's now 24 wasn't dianosed with Asperger's until adulthood we where told he was just hyper he struggled but graduated with his class. Now my 22 month old nephew is showing signs of Autisim we won't know what form till he's at least 2yrs old. Early intervention a program for kids like him are already working with him teaching him simple signs and using a Multi sensory approach he's doing really well...

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My 8 year old son was diagnosed with ADHD in Feb 09. What's the differencore between that and Aspbergers? Is it possibel to have both?
And could the psychologist be wrong?
Thanks so much

Thank you for this article. My son is 8 years old and has been diagnosed with Aspergers for 4 years. The schools have been mostly supportive, providing him with an aide to help him stay on task, picture schedules, social skills class, OT for handwriting problems. We are finally trying ADHD meds which seem to be helping.

This is such a wonderful article! With our sons urging, we recently set the wheels in motion to formally have him tested for Asperger's. We are also waiting on results. Although we have felt for a few years now that this is his diagnosis, we now felt it crucial for a formal diagnosis w because he will be entering high school as a Freshman next year...

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Can anyone please advise me of any resources in the San Antonio, TX ares? Been looking for help with Aspergers, but if've found none that really specialize in this field.

Any and all help is most appreciated, Thank you in advance.

Cindy

Thanks for sharing. I recommend a great book, "Quirky Yes, Hopeless No" by Dr. Cynthia Norall. It has every kind of tip you could possibly imagine for kids with Asperger's.

I'm sorry to say this but I find the term Aspie as offensive as calling someone a retard. I have a child who was diagnosed with the disorder at the age of 3, I worked with my son as soon as I realized he was not developing the way a "normal" child that age should develop. We, (his immediate family) worked with him on socialization, adapation to change, and physical exercise. To see my son you would have to read his records to realize he has this disorder...

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These Asperger/autism spectrum kids are so fascinating. My son, now eight, is an unbelievable joy to have around; funny, inventive, creative and spectacularly brilliant. Our original diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder has improved so much through prism lenses, sensory integration therapy, dietary changes...I do believe, however, that the best decesion we ever made was to homeschool him. At home he is able to blossom and learn without the artificial pressures school can put on these guys...

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If you take school out of the equation, you have a bright, healthy happy producetive child on your hands...

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