Photo by: Maciej Lewandowski

Bright Child with Asperger's

Photo by: Maciej Lewandowski

Advocates for Asperger’s/gifted (AG) children are eager to have them appreciated as wonderful, special children. The presence of dual exceptionality always casts a shadow over this goal. So much of Asperger’s Syndrome echoes the behaviors of healthy highly gifted children that some of the first discussions of AS in the gifted community are cautions not to mistake giftedness for Asperger’s Syndrome.” From http://www.hoagiesgifted.org/eric/fact/asperger.pdf

In the 3rd grade, my little Aspie struggled with school. “Needs Improvement” and failing grades were common. She would forget to bring home assignments, she’d forget to take them back, or forget to even take them out of her backpack. She’d work extremely hard, only to accomplish a third of what her classmates were completing in the same amount of time.

Can you imagine our surprise when we received a letter congratulating us on our bright child and welcoming her to the ACT Explore program’s equivalent for elementary grade children?

Truly, that was one of the major things that lead us to pursuing the proper testing and diagnosis of our daughter. How could she be so creative, so artistic, struggle so much in school and with common sense, but then score one of the highest scores in her grade for reading competencies?

The child bounces between reading Pokeman and Journey to the Center of the Earth, though, now she’s reading the Lightning Thief series.

Consistently, her teachers told us how bright she was. How quick she could be, but on paper, test after test, she would fail. It wasn’t until we started understanding how her mind works and discovering where she is so talented and where she struggles.

It took a qualified pediatric neuropsych. professional to properly evaluate, test and then diagnose our daughter. I can’t tell you of the confusion, angst, and frustration we have experienced over the years before we properly understood her type of mental pattern.

“In addition to the clinical syndromes outlined by Dr. Webb, Asperger’s Disorder is another that is becoming commonly mis-diagnosed in gifted youth. Although there can be similarities between a gifted child and a child with Asperger’s Disorder, there are very clear differences. Thorough evaluation is necessary to distinguish gifted children’s sometimes unusual and sometimes unique social interactions from Asperger’s Disorder. In the same way, thorough evaluation is also necessary to distinguish Attention-Deficit/ Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) from behavioral problems and inattention that result from other causes such as anxiety, traumatic experiences (e.g., abuse), inappropriate curriculum, or even poor parenting.” From http://www.sengifted.org/articles_counseling/Amend_MisdiagnosisOfAspergersDisorder.shtml

She is a delight and a joy and our lives are much easier to manage now that we have the information we need. Luckily, our school system was very supportive and after running a whole slew of their own tests, they narrowed down the items that are most troubling to her in school. With our IEP plan in hand, we begin the 4th grade with a sense of excitement, anxiety, and hope.

Here is to a year where she will feel success and confidence!

Chef Eureka is cooking up the chaos of today’s family life. Includes all the ingredients of a delightful dish. I’m the mother of two daughters, a soon to be 12 year old and a 9 year old. My older is embracing tweendom and my younger has been diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome.

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67 Comments

Unfortunately, a lot of people tend to classify Aspies with being retarded or autistic (in the sense of Rain Man which is what most people tend to associate with the word "autism"), but it's not the same, though it is in the same spectrum as autism. These kids are not stupid or slow. Aspies are very intelligent, but tend to be socially isolated and do repetitive tasks...

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I have a son who is in 2nd grade with a dx of aspergers syndrome. You are very lucky that you have a supportive school system. We had to pull our son out of public and put him into private because the overcrowding in classrooms and children with much more severe needs left him lost in the shuffle and highly frustrated all the time in the public setting. He is not in any sort of special program at his private school and is thriving...

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This article was encouraging to me. My son is in Kindergarten and has a seizure disorder with an unknown cause. We've spent the first half of the school working on behavior, which is affected greatly by his medication. Now that he's improving in the behavior area we are really focusing on academics. In one day he learned our phone number and address in 3 tries. Another day, his mind is foggy and he gets frustrated over the alphabet. It just depends on the moment...

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I really appreciate this article. I have a son that I am in the process of going through the testing for Asperger's right now. He is very bright and just cannot seem to process the information from the brain to the paper fast enough for the schools. We finally got him a para-pro in the classroom with him as he also has Sensory Integration Disorder on top of it all. He is also a visual learner and so need checklists for absolutely everything...

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My sister - not asbergers but possibly an in utero stroke was labelled. It was very tough. In a test she could verbally answer you, but write it down in multiple choice the answer would not go from brain to hand. Glad to hear parents are able to be stronger advocates and the Doctors are now able to better diagnose. My mother fought with the doctor and school. Mom fought for her - but they were the "experts" and told us that sister was lazy...

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Hi Erica-
Your daughter sounds lovely, and she is lucky to have such a terrific mom!
You are very blessed to be in the school district that offers so much for you daughter! Many don't and are not as accommodating. I have an Aspie son who is now a junior in high school.He is an extremely gifted young man, who devours books, and he has an amazing wit. He is also disorganized and very literal and socially awkward at times...

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My son is in 5th grade this year & his school has been wonderful in working with the accommodations he needs. I marvel at his intelligence but, again, can get so frustrated at his inability to just follow the simplest directions. It is a struggle every day but he is a blessing! We have found lots of success with Occupational Therapy. I am very anxious about starting middle school next year, however. It's a whole new world...

What are the typical signs of Asperger's?

I also have a special son. He has Tourette's syndrome with anxiety and some OCD. He does very well in most subjects but struggles with reading comprehension in a few other subjects which really frustrates him.

I would be interested to hear from others with similar situations in the Sacramento. Especially regarding which Middle schools and high schools worked well for your children. My son is in 6th grade now.

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I would like to know where you can find out about getting the testing for Asperger's syndrome. Do you go to a mental health facility?

A note of hope for families with a child with Asperger's. My son now 24 suffered Asperger's, PDD (pervasive development disorder), bipolar as child, frontal lobes at birth lack of oxogen, problems at birth caused this. Many years of therapy, in-home, hospitalizations, difficulty in learning, all of it. High school was so very difficult, alternative schooling did not help...

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I have 5 y/o son who was diagnosed with ADHD and Tourette's a little over a year ago. All though now his Phsyciatrist believes he has Asperger's..So which one do we treat? How confusing.. My son is really smart, some things come easy and other things like motor skills(tieing shoes, riding a bike ect.) and orginizing his body,he cant do. He is exremely literal and does not understand jokes or sarcasm...

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I am so glad your daughter was diagnosed early. My brother (born 1977) was not diagnosed until he was 28. In the meantime, he was put on a constantly rotating drug cocktail that led to hallucinations, twitches, ticks, and loads of bizzare behavior. He was in and out of mental institutions (where he was abused by the staff) until he was 13. It breaks my heart thinking about what his life would/could have been like with an early diagnosis...

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My son is 22 - diagnosed with asperger's at 10 years old - not very well known in the school dist. back then. He has had an IEP since first grade. We had a great special ed. program in grade school, so - so in jr. high and great program in high school. He is at the community college right now. He has struggled some with college - but has had 3 successful semesters now and is 3 semesters away from his associates...

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@ Janissa Boswell
Hope this helps....We have 2-year-old twin girls who were tested at a facility in Chicago called the Erikson Institute. This institute actually trains therapists (Occupational, Developmental, etc) and it was recommended by our Pediatrician. Both girls have severe speech delays (they are now 29 months and have not strung two words together - recent eval. gave them a ranking of 6-9 months) which is why we chose to obtain a medical diagnostic for both...

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