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Bright Child with Asperger's

Photo by: Maciej Lewandowski

Advocates for Asperger’s/gifted (AG) children are eager to have them appreciated as wonderful, special children. The presence of dual exceptionality always casts a shadow over this goal. So much of Asperger’s Syndrome echoes the behaviors of healthy highly gifted children that some of the first discussions of AS in the gifted community are cautions not to mistake giftedness for Asperger’s Syndrome.” From http://www.hoagiesgifted.org/eric/fact/asperger.pdf

In the 3rd grade, my little Aspie struggled with school. “Needs Improvement” and failing grades were common. She would forget to bring home assignments, she’d forget to take them back, or forget to even take them out of her backpack. She’d work extremely hard, only to accomplish a third of what her classmates were completing in the same amount of time.

Can you imagine our surprise when we received a letter congratulating us on our bright child and welcoming her to the ACT Explore program’s equivalent for elementary grade children?

Truly, that was one of the major things that lead us to pursuing the proper testing and diagnosis of our daughter. How could she be so creative, so artistic, struggle so much in school and with common sense, but then score one of the highest scores in her grade for reading competencies?

The child bounces between reading Pokeman and Journey to the Center of the Earth, though, now she’s reading the Lightning Thief series.

Consistently, her teachers told us how bright she was. How quick she could be, but on paper, test after test, she would fail. It wasn’t until we started understanding how her mind works and discovering where she is so talented and where she struggles.

It took a qualified pediatric neuropsych. professional to properly evaluate, test and then diagnose our daughter. I can’t tell you of the confusion, angst, and frustration we have experienced over the years before we properly understood her type of mental pattern.

“In addition to the clinical syndromes outlined by Dr. Webb, Asperger’s Disorder is another that is becoming commonly mis-diagnosed in gifted youth. Although there can be similarities between a gifted child and a child with Asperger’s Disorder, there are very clear differences. Thorough evaluation is necessary to distinguish gifted children’s sometimes unusual and sometimes unique social interactions from Asperger’s Disorder. In the same way, thorough evaluation is also necessary to distinguish Attention-Deficit/ Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) from behavioral problems and inattention that result from other causes such as anxiety, traumatic experiences (e.g., abuse), inappropriate curriculum, or even poor parenting.” From http://www.sengifted.org/articles_counseling/Amend_MisdiagnosisOfAspergersDisorder.shtml

She is a delight and a joy and our lives are much easier to manage now that we have the information we need. Luckily, our school system was very supportive and after running a whole slew of their own tests, they narrowed down the items that are most troubling to her in school. With our IEP plan in hand, we begin the 4th grade with a sense of excitement, anxiety, and hope.

Here is to a year where she will feel success and confidence!

Chef Eureka is cooking up the chaos of today’s family life. Includes all the ingredients of a delightful dish. I’m the mother of two daughters, a soon to be 12 year old and a 9 year old. My older is embracing tweendom and my younger has been diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome.

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I would also like to learn from other families on how they have helped their child to be the best they can be, and also how to help them to be independent. So plese educate me on where to turn for help also. My e-mail addresse is: [email protected]

My son who is now 15, had learning problems ever since KG, he was tested in KG and found to have problems with language syntax and math comprehension. but he also had probelms dealing with people and other things. The Special School district was helpful and he made it through grade school with the help of some great teachers, but had behavioral problems due to not being able to deal well with his peers...

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I have an 8 yr. old Aspie girl. We struggle with her social skills. She seems to do well in school although she has to work hard to achieve it.
I have learned from other moms to focus on her strengths. She loves animals & I started her in a Special Equestrian riding program last spring. It is one of the highlites of her week. Also, she takes swim lessons at the elementary school, they have worked very hard for her to achieve success.
I would appreciate any tips from other moms.

Hi Erica and Glenda, I am a mother of a beautiful 7 years old boy with special needs (Autism) his autism is in Socialization and Communication, not that he does not like to be Social or Communicate on the contrary he loves to be with other children it is just not having the words come out, sometimes I wondered what is going on in his little brain, it really bothers me...Right before he started school at age 41/2 The School District (Child Find)did some testing on him and they told me he had (Educatable Mental Handicap)I was in shock to hear that my little boy was diagnose with that Label all I heard in my mind was Mental Handicap.....I kept on digging and went to three Neurologist and two gave as the Label of Autism, very mild Autism more to the speech than anything else, however with this Title I am able to place him in School where he meets his needs....However he would get sick too much and miss a lot of school was not too happy because in school he is learning a lot and the teachers know where his weak points are and also he needs to be with other children. Finally I was introduce to some vitamin supplements to boost up his immune system since he does not eat the right food, he only eats Hungry Howlies Pizza, McDonalds fries, sometimes putting, chips, cheetos and fruit loops, He used to get sick every month and some months he would get sick 2 or three times, it was really worrying us I used to live at the doctor's office, and hated to be giving him so much antibiotic, so far for the month of December and January He has not gotten sick Prase The Lord we finally found the right supplements and he does not mind taking them they come in a form of powder and all you do is mix it with water, I am also giving him something called OPC3 provides strong antioxidant defense and is also an anti-inflammatory this is helping him a lot with his speech, he is talking more and not just talking he is making more sentences and his comprehansion is much better, he is able to focus more too, we are so happy to see how he is doing with this product and to see his improvement on his verbal communication, we know that this supplements are not going to take away what our children have however if this is going to make their life easier I will continue to give it to him for life if necessary....

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my son, who is now 11, has been coping with his aspieness for about 5 years. i can tell you that with the level of acceptance you are giving your daughter she will not only thrive, but make it to the benchmark of living past aspie. where she will come to a more normative place and settle into the social aspects of living with grace.

we are the luckiest women on earth, us aspie moms. we are the gatekeepers for this amazing group of kids who are beyond exceptional...

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I have a son with Aspergers and he is an utter delight. Though we live in his world, he doesn't live in ours. It tooks years to get the correct diagnosis which is very important...

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This was very interesting to read. My son had a great deal of difficulty with many of the same issues when he was in 3rd grade. His teacher suspected he had ADHD but I felt sure this was not the case. I was about 90% positive that it was a combination of a bad teacher/student match and a learning disability.

I took my child to an educational psychologist to have him tested and found out that he had a processing disorder...

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As a mom of 2 gifted Aspie kids, it is always good to hear there are other moms who feel the same things you feel. The only way to help our kids is education, of everyone else. Teachers, administation, family and community all need to be made more aware of how wonderful and special our kids are. In the next 5 years the explostion of gifted children with other issues is going to make the education system rethink it's whole way of teaching. I hope they can keep up with our kids!

Please help me. I have a wonderful bright child with some very unusual antisocial personality traits. He does at time struggle with school, but most of the time his brilliance astounds me. He also has some OCD traits. The pediatricians all say that nothing is out of the ordinaryy,but I know that somethings are not as they should be.

Both my boys have Aspergers(8 & 6), it took us years to get the school to help us at all, but we finally have and now both kids get all but straight A's in main stream classes. Many years of tears brought us where we are today. I am so glad I never gave up.

great timing for me to stumble upon this, as I am in the process of getting a diagnosis at the moment. Each doctor he has seen has given him a different diagnosis...all revolving around ADHD of course. He has been put on all types of adhd meds, which only made his behaviors worse. I would love to hear from you parents what worked and didn't work for you.

This is our beginning...
Our two year old son,(3 in May)it is yet to be confirmed if it is Aspergers that he has. Testing is scheduled; Early Childhood Intervention will soon come to an end and we will enter the public school system. Although Aspergers is not confirmed; it is very helpful to read the point-of-view from others. I am better prepared for the challenges that lie ahead. Thanks for sharing-you help and make a diffenrence to so may I am sure. Thank you.

I have felt so lost these past months. I had never heard of Asperger's nor even knew what is was until the end of his 3rd grade year. My son who was already in the gifited talented program was on the verge of being kicked out due to his lack of social skills that keep him in the principal's office all of his 3rd grade year. I have been so amazed at his progress this year.....

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I am interested in this article because it seems to describe my 7 year very well. She is very bright but has trouble with simple things. She cant remember to bring her homework back to school or to figure out where she out her school three minutes before. Her artisitc ability is amazing and her reading skills are great. She is sensitve to noises and emotional undercurrents but other times the world can be going to pieces around her and she has no idea...

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My son was also diagnosed with Asperger's when he was in the third grade. As an only child we only saw him one on one with us and never new of the social difficulties he was having at school. Thanks to a very alert teacher (and following a meltdown) he was tested and diagnosed with high functioning aspergers. I will ever be grateful for his teachers and the staff at his elementary school...

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