Just be there for her.
Listen and help in any way that you can.
It's the small things that count.
As a recent breast cancer survivor, the hardest part for me was being there for my kids. I could take care of myself after surgery, chemo, and radiation, but taking care of my 2 and 5-year-old was hard because emotionally, I needed to focus on myself. I know you don't live very close, but maybe there is a way you could help out with the baby one or more weekends.
Food, cards, flowers, small gifts, and a house-cleaning gift certificate were all thoughtful gestures that were much appreciated. I updated my story on www.carepages.com. This allowed me to vent and keep my friends and family up-to-date on my status. I even posted pictures of my hair cutting/shaving experience. You could start a CarePage for her if you think she would not be opposed.
I did not like reading cancer books, but my friend gave me one book that made me laugh, which was somewhat of a relief. It might not be for everyone because the author's humor can be quite crude. It's called, "Cancer on $5 a Day"... http://www.amazon.com/dp/0738211583/?tag=googhydr-20&hvadid=2785922357&ref=pd_sl_31bov480fg_e
Hope this helps. I wish her the best of luck through this journey. By the way, I'm doing fine, and should be fine for a long, long time.
Check out "The Gettsyburg Address of Love" at Adventures in Breast Cancer http://adventuresinbreastcancer.blogspot.com/
Carol
Go to www.humantribeproject.com and start a free Tribe Page for her. You both can blog and keep everyone posted on her condition and friends and family can show support by purchasing personalized Tribe Tag necklaces. They are only $20 and $15 is given back to her to help with medical and household expenses. Plus, the support of her friends and family will be evident when she seems them wearing her necklace!