I may have phrased it wrong. I don’t encourage her NOT to share. I just don’t feel like she should have to give up every single thing she plays with as soon as she picks it up, especially when younger children are encouraged to do the opposite should my child want the toy. In real life, would you expect an adult who just sat down at his computer to give it up immediately when his office mate wants it? No! Would he give it up in 3 minutes? No-he’d give it up when he was finished with it (or maybe not). My child is an only, but so are the other two and she attends preschool 5 days a week and is often regaled by her teacher for being friendly and easygoing with her friends. I just want to be able to keep my friendships in tact and help the kids get along better without negating my daughter’s feelings-she was really regarded as a bully and brat the whole trip, when really she’s just a regular 4 year old who was annoyed by littler kids taking all her stuff and getting all the attention.