Social Media and Teens—What Parents Need to Know

,

Introduction to Social Media and Teens

Social media use among adolescents is a growing concern for parents worldwide. With the increasing prevalence of smartphones and digital platforms, many parents worry about how social media might influence their children’s mental health, academic performance, and overall well-being. These concerns are valid, as adolescence is a critical period of development, and the digital world plays an increasingly central role in shaping teens’ experiences.

In May 2023, the American Psychological Association (APA) published a detailed report titled Health Advisory on Social Media Use in Adolescence. This advisory draws on extensive psychological and interdisciplinary research to provide evidence-based recommendations for managing social media use among teens. The APA’s guidance reflects findings from studies involving thousands of adolescents, highlighting both the opportunities and risks that social media presents during this critical developmental period.

While the recommendations are firmly rooted in existing scientific literature, the APA also acknowledges limitations in the research, such as the challenges of establishing causal links and the need for more studies on marginalized populations. Despite these gaps, the advisory provides practical, research-informed steps to help parents support their teens in navigating the digital world safely.

This blog post simplifies and organizes the APA’s report into a parent-friendly format, offering actionable insights and some additional suggestions or “tips” derived from a review of the report but not specifically in the report.  

Social Media: Neither Good nor Bad by Default

The APA health advisory highlights that social media itself is neutral. Its impact—positive or negative—depends on several factors:

  1. Content and Features: Teens are shaped by what they encounter online. For example, engaging with prosocial content can promote empathy, while exposure to harmful content may have the opposite effect. Features like “likes” or endless scrolling may either encourage connection or fuel anxiety.
  2. Individual Characteristics: Teens with strong emotional regulation may navigate social media well, while those struggling with self-esteem or mental health challenges may be more vulnerable.
  3. Context: Offline environments, including family support and school climate, influence how teens experience social media. Like every other experience in life, the context within which that experience is embedded and how it is understood make a difference.
  4. Recommendations for Parents:
  • Be aware of what your teen is consuming online. Encourage content that promotes positive behaviors, such as volunteering or learning.
  • Consider discussing with your teen how algorithms work to reinforce certain types of content, helping them critically evaluate their feeds.

Monitoring Use in Early Adolescence

The APA advises that parental monitoring is particularly important for younger teens (ages 10–14), a time when brain regions tied to self-control are still developing. During this stage, social media habits can form patterns that are hard to break.

  1. Why Monitor?
    Research shows that in early adolescence, the desire for peer approval peaks, and this sensitivity makes teens vulnerable to risky online behaviors. Parental guidance during this stage can provide a buffer against these risks.
  2. Recommendations for Parents:
  • What’s in the Report: Use a combination of rules and open conversations to set limits. For example, establish “screen-free” zones, such as during family meals. Balance monitoring with respect for your teen’s growing need for autonomy.
  • Tip: Consider tools like parental control apps to manage screen time but use these tools as a supplement to—not a replacement for—family discussions about online behavior.

Encouraging Positive Interactions

Social media has the potential to foster meaningful relationships and provide social support, especially for teens experiencing isolation or stress. It can serve as a platform for adolescents to explore their identities, especially within marginalized communities.

  1. Opportunities for Connection:
    Positive online communities can help teens learn about healthy coping mechanisms, discuss shared challenges, or find role models. For instance, teens with social anxiety may find comfort in the slower pace of online communication.
  2. Recommendations for Parents:
    • What’s in the Report: Guide your teen toward platforms and groups that align with their interests and promote positivity. For example, encourage them to join forums that focus on hobbies, education, or advocacy.
    • Tip: Encourage your teen to set boundaries about the types of communities they interact with, avoiding toxic or overly critical spaces.

Recognizing Problematic Use

Problematic social media use (PSMU) can harm teens’ ability to focus, maintain healthy relationships, and manage daily routines.

  1. Warning signs include:
    • Using social media compulsively despite negative consequences.
    • Spending excessive time planning or lying about online activity.
    • Neglecting responsibilities in favor of screen time.
  2. Recommendations for Parents:
    • What’s in the Report: Help your teen reflect on their habits by asking questions like, “How does being online make you feel?” Use these conversations to explore whether changes are needed.
    • Tip: Work together to set limits, such as turning off devices during study time or 30 minutes before bed.

Teaching Digital Literacy

The APA emphasizes that teens need training to understand the psychological effects of social media. Skills such as recognizing misinformation, managing social comparisons, and building healthy online relationships are critical for safe and meaningful use.

  1. Key Competencies:
    • How to assess the credibility of online content.
    • Recognizing and avoiding manipulative features, such as clickbait or sensationalized posts.
    • Understanding how algorithms amplify certain types of content.
  2. Recommendations for Parents:
    • What’s in the Report: Teach teens to question what they see online and discuss the curated nature of social media, such as edited photos or misleading captions.
    • Tip: Role-play scenarios with your teen to practice responding to misinformation or harmful comments online.

Minimizing Harmful Content and Cyberhate

Social media can expose teens to harmful content, including cyberbullying, discrimination, and material promoting self-harm or eating disorders. These exposures increase risks for anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues.

Recommendations for Parents:

  • What’s in the Report: Use platform tools to report and block harmful content. Discuss with your teen how to handle negative online interactions.
  • Tip: Encourage teens to practice digital self-care by taking breaks from platforms that feel overwhelming.

Balancing Sleep and Physical Activity

The APA strongly advises against using social media close to bedtime, as it disrupts sleep quality, which is essential for emotional and neurological development. Additionally, excessive screen time may reduce opportunities for physical activity, which supports mental health.

Recommendations for Parents:

  • What’s in the Report: Establish clear guidelines, such as turning off devices at least an hour before bed. Encourage outdoor activities or hobbies that don’t involve screens.
  • Tip: Make this a family-wide habit to model healthy behavior.

Special Considerations for Marginalized Teens

For youth in marginalized groups, social media can be both a lifeline and a source of harm. While these teens may find valuable support online, they are also at increased risk of cyberhate.

Recommendations for Parents:

  • What’s in the Report: Discuss how to identify and navigate online discrimination. Help your teen critique harmful content and find positive spaces.
  • Tip: Connect with organizations or counselors that specialize in supporting marginalized teens in navigating digital challenges.

Practical Tips for Parents

  1. Communicate Often: Create an open dialogue about online experiences. Ask non-judgmental questions like, “What’s been the most interesting thing you’ve seen online recently?”
  2. Model Balance: Your behavior sets the tone. Limit your own screen time during family interactions.
  3. Seek Professional Help if Needed: If you notice signs of problematic use or mental health struggles, consult a psychologist or counselor for guidance.

Conclusion

The APA’s 2023 advisory provides a thoughtful framework for understanding the complex effects of social media on adolescents. Social media is likely here to stay and children are engaging with social media at younger and younger ages. As parents, your involvement and guidance can help teens navigate this digital landscape safely and positively while avoiding conflicts over social media. By staying informed and engaged, you can help your child gain benefits from social media while avoiding its most painful pitfalls.

For more details, access the full APA report at American Psychological Association. This summary was created using the Health Advisory on Social Media Use in Adolescence (2023) as the primary source.

Join other readers on Mamapedia who are talking about social media use and their teens.

Social Media Fiend or Friend?

Teen Social Media Drama

Navigating the world of social media with a tween

Do I speak up about social media issues like this?

I’m taking away all of my children’s social media privileges?

Disturbing high school cyberbullying social media page, what would you do?

Article written by Lisa J Meier with support from Chat GPT.

American Psychological Association. (2023). Health advisory on social media use in adolescence. Retrieved from https://www.apa.org