You Proved My Point!

Deleting a post when they didn't get the answer they wanted or deleting every post after a certain timeframe/number of answers. If you are afraid to put it out there, then don't put it out there in the first place.

I really reallllly get annoyed by the "Could I be pregnant?" posts. I mean, seriously? Did you skip health class in high school? Do you really not understand how this process works? Ugh.

And then, there are the people who really don't want to ask a question, they just want to get on their soapbox and pontificate. Whether I agree with them or not, it's just kind of annoying. If you want a soapbox, go post on Facebook or Twitter. This forum is for questions/advice.

ETA: Just thought of another one. The people who report answers as "flaming" when all you did was disagree with them. Meh.

I hate the cliffhangers. You know the ones that go something like this:

My husband is chasing after me with a knife where should I hide?

And then they forget to fill out the SWH. I'm always left in suspense. ;)

Um. How about when someone asks a mechanical question and doesn't take the advice from the mechanic? :)

I get irked when someone posts something their husband/boyfriend did which was very mean or offensive, then people say they deserve better and suggest counseling or in VERY seirous sittuations suggest a seperation, and they then defend their spouse/boyfriend and say everyone is too judgemental and they dont want to hear it anymore.

I feel bad for them, but wish i could shake them through the screen and make them really hear what people are saying and really hear what they themselves wrote

I get frustrated when I ask for help and give a list of what I've tried already and someone suggests the exact same thing I listed. For example:

Question: "I need to get chocolate out of a sweater. I've tried soaking it in soap and water. Any other suggestions?"

Response, "Have you tried soaking it in soap and water?"

Another pet peeve is when people answer a question to let you know they don't have an answer for you. For example:

Question: "Does anyone have an awesome recipe for chocolate cake?"

Answer: "No. I only eat vanilla."

These are my pet peeves on this site...hate me if you want, ladies.

I hate bad spelling. I totally overlook the obvious (I'm typing too fast and I lef off a letter...see what I did there?) but I do not like seeing "We never go their, because they're food is terrible and there never going to change." You get the idea.

I hate unnecessary abbreviations. Is it so hard to type daughter, son, child, husband, mother-in-law, etc? It gives me a headache to read DD, DS, DH, MIL, etc. And honestly, it takes more time for me to hold down the shift key and type in an unnatural abbreviation than it does just to type the word out...even mother-in-law, hyphens and all. I figure, why can't we all type the way we speak? No one talks like that!

I don't like it when people assume that they're going to get a certain kind of answer and jump on backs before it happens. "Before I get any nasty trolls recommending bacon and eggs, we've tried that route. READ THE QUESTION, please, and answer accordingly." I'm sure we all remember that one.

Sigh. Is it Friday?

***OOOH, I have to steal one from Laura. Why can't people make paragraphs? Did we all not learn this in school?

***Scarlett...awesome. How long did it take you to type that? It's hilarious, and SO ON POINT. Love it. :)

***So many of you had such great answers, mine sound so petty! Hee hee!

***Last Update...Maybe*** Who is Denise? Another pet peeve...hating it when I'm lost and missing out on something that sounds fun. Unless OneAndDone's name is Denise?

Some day's a diamond, some days are stones.

Some days I can't believe the amount of support someone will get, like single mom having 2nd baby with mentally unstable BF, and everyone telling her she's going to be a great mommy.....Um, no, she can't choose stable people, so some mom's suggested adoption, and those mom's got called out.

And then another day, a mom posts a simple, do you sleep in the same bed with husband, and people call her judgmental, or something equally as lame...and I think, all she did was explain how she prefers to sleep, and so what if it wasn't worded perfectly, but people jumped down her throat.

I never know what to expect here anymore J...it's a lottery, for sure. It used to be supportive, caring moms who truly wanted to provide tips on how to get your 2 year down for nap, but now it's all over the map whether you'll get a snarky response or a compassionate response...

Talk to you later GF!!

@Theresa, would that be with or without some good Whiskey or Beer? And would you like me to introduce you to my dog?

ETA: Imitation is the greatest and most sincere form of flattery!! I love the FREE RENT FROM UNHAPPY PEOPLE!! WOOT!! WOOT!!
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When someone deletes their question(s) or edits it so it makes the people who first responded look like they had no clue what they were talking about....

or the ones who type a book - but forget to use grammar - spelling errors, no periods, etc. one long run-on sentence. I can't even do it. I can write a "book" but I TRY to write without stopping and using punctuation and i just can't do it!!!

The ones that make me want to reach through the screen? You already know that one!! people asking questions that they already know the answer to "should I do this"? or things like that...but then get pissy when people tell them that "gesh - I was just asking the question" - acting like a victim....

Oh well..some things will never change...there will always be people like that in the world!!

Thanks for the smile and the question!!

As someone who works from home, I just can't take seeing the posts from people wanting to work from home, assuming they can watch their kids at the same time.

People have a real misconception that they can do some sort of easy work while caring for their children and make good money doing it. That's just not how WAH jobs work. They're work! You need professional skills, just like any other job. You need childcare so you can focus on your job. It's a job, only your workplace is your home.

Ditto all of the comments, too, about punctuation, grammar, spelling and paragraph breaks. I'm a professional writer and many posts make me close out of them in seconds because they're a mess. I certainly make my own share of mistakes, but if people can't take the time to put some thought into their posts, I'm moving on.

i hate the questions "should i go to the dr"....if you have to ask strangers than yes you need to get to the dr.

there are many days that i can't go on this website because some the questions totally rub me the wrong way!!!

so i love this question because now i can vent!!!!!

My eyes start spinning when I see a loooooong run on paragraph filled with bad grammar and vocabulary.

If it is short and concise then I can glean through it..but if it super long then I just can't handle it and click out of the post.

I really have a hard time with moms that clearly are not putting the needs of their kids safety/health at a top concern and yet are more worried about the sleazy BOYFRIEND cheating on them and how to make them commit to the relationship. (Poor kids)

Mine are...

...when people give responses that border on being snarky while missing the gist of the question. Please read through, slowly if you must (sorry now I'm being a donkey lol), before posting your mean little response.

...those people who think their way is the way to do things best.

...those unnecessary hurtful responses.

...those qs I want to answer with "how the F* should I know?". Including but not limited to pregnancy qs.

The could I be pregnant posts drive me nuts!

So can a pet peeve be when:
the responder (for example, Me)... replies to a post and it is bitchy or abrupt or I am in a rush. But then I figure, people should KNOW that I am PMS'ing right now even if I don't say it. So they should just ignore my air-headed or terse replies or quaint questions and be able to read my mind and KNOW I am in a PMS'ing damn mood. Everyone should know my moods by now, RIGHT?

I did not see that flounce post about mean girls.

I get irked when, a person has a young baby and they say why doesn't my baby sleep? Or, my baby is sick with a BAD cough... what can I give her/him... I can't sleep and I am going nuts. My baby is 6 weeks old!
Or, things like they are asking others how to discipline a 9 month old and how come they don't have good attention spans or listen. Or how come their 2 year old is so active or contrary or doesn't stay in bed all night and isn't potty trained at night.
Egad.

omg!!! i got my panties all wadded up just reading the title of this thread!
and then i saw it was just you being wonderful you.
you stinker, you!
:) khairete
S.

Where are all these fu*king butterflies coming from all of a sudden?

I think several people told the poster that she proved their points too. No different than the SWH saying it, actually!

People came from different places in their responses to that post. Most were interesting to read, even when they didn't agree. The difference in this original poster and the "flouncers" people want to throttle is that her SWH that followed was actually thoughtful. It certainly was TAME compared to some I've read. AND she thanked everyone who wrote, which is not the "usual" flounce.

Nope, not a flounce. But it's her opinion, and yes, she can state her opinion without being a total beotch, just like those who said that's what they do when they disagreed with her premise.

:p

Hm...not too long ago there was a MP troll who was ALL ABOUT the "You Proved My Point!" in her SWHs.

My favorites are the questions in which the asker has already formed their own opinion, and don't care what your answer is...if it doesn't support their preformed idea, it's WRONG!

Uhm, if you already know the answer, why are you here? If you're looking for validation, say so and quit being a poseur, pretending that you want advice!

My favorites:

How to get the kid out of our bed. He/she is only been sleeping with us for 2 years or so and I am tired and can't get him stay in his bed because he cries I can't stand to have him/her do that.

-- Don't put him in your bed put him in a cradle or crib from day one.

I have never spent a night away from him/her and I am so worried he/she won't remember me if we go on that trip we planned (this could be infant or adolescent aged child to age 4).

-- Everyone needs a break to charge their batteries especially parents. You were a couple before you became parents and need to reconnect.

Should I take my 1 year old to Disney or leave him with relatives.

-- The time of year and your finances would/should dictate this one. The child is not ever going to remember the trip on through pictures. So wait until everyone can remember the trip.

The others have been covered by posters.

Oh, I can't get pregnant so you won't see that one from me. The plumbing has been disconnected surgically. If I should I will win the lottery and millions of dollars.

Off my soapbox.

the other S.

First off: I don't read everyone's answers to a question before I write mine (Sorry Rebecca F.) I don't have the time or the want to spend my time doing that...so I probably duplicate someone else' answers.

My BIGGEST pet peeve on here is when you post a question and you get answers from posters where it is obvious that the poster didn't read your whole post. It's like why do you even bother answering if you don't really mean to actually help...b/c if you did want to actually help, you could have at least read my whole post/question!

1. Tantrums when they ask for opinions but get ones that they don't like.
2. Questions that masquerade as a question but are really just a braggy, condescending, judgmental rant about how other people live.

People using "big" words (1-2 in a post) to try to get their point across, when they never use "big" words in other responses.

Using no paragraphs! I close out and go to the next post.

Reporting. Drives me bonkers! Get your panties on right and get over it.

Someone was told me " it's a wonder you have friends". Is that all you got? Is that the best way to hurt me?

What about when people change their question to
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Just because they didn't get the answers they wanted?

(annnd I just saw AV's post).

How about people that don't read all the answers and post a duplicate answer? Yeah...that's it.

I find it annoying when questions start with the poster's rules of how the question should be answered vs any alternate points of view...."nothing judgemental, no negative responses, blah, blah, blah." If you ask a question on a public board, you should expect a variety of responses. And, receiving a response that is not the fluffy blowing smoke up your butt response that someone might want does not make it a negative or judgemental response. An alternate point of view is merely that...another point of view.

I also tend to find it annoying when anyone feels that they are a victim, particularly when their situation is a result of their own choices that they refuse to own. I believe in accountability and then focusing on"what's important now" to recover from a bad situation. It's extra annoying to me when someone feels the that they are a victim but chooses to continue to be a victim and make the same choices over and over again. (In other words, they don't really want advice, just someone to tell them it's ok to make bad choices. That really goes back to my previous pet peeve, though.)

Finally, I find it annoying when a question is posted, receives answers based on the info and then the SWH has extra information (or excuses) to justify why the answers received don't really apply to the poster's situation. I always want to go, "and you left that point out because???? Oh, wait, you wanted a reason to not take the advice given...." which again probably goes back to my first pet peeve about people who don't want to hear any alternate points of view.

I only get annoyed when people YELL to make their POINT.

Ummm, so you just admitted your wordsmithing is so inadequate you have to rely on enhanced typeface to make your point?

I get lost on the questions I can't really decipher. Some of them are too hard to weed through to get to the actual facts, if they are discernable at all.

I'm not sure exactly which post(s) you are referring to, but I have encountered plenty where the original poster does NOT like the opinions of the responders. At all.

Opinions can be so varied and it seems to me that one might receive a multitude of differing opinions. On a forum such as this, you can't just assume that every single person will agree with you. If that's what a person wants or requires in order to make themselves feel better, then they shouldn't be reaching out to strangers who only get one side of the story.

This is just my opinion.

There are plenty who need to feel validated even if others don't agree with it.
I don't think a forum like this is necessarily the place to receive that validation, depending on the circumstances.

I've been on this site for a long time. For the most part, responders aren't mean or cruel. They may not agree with the poster, but that's not exactly a sin.

But, they do get offended by it none the less.

It's a fact of life that not everyone will agree with you at all times.

Realize it and woman up about it. Take advice for what it is or leave it.
No point in causing a stink over it.

Just my opinion.

When someone says that if you don't like a post you should "turn off the computer or walk away" but then says "i'm reporting this post" lol

When someone continually posts about the same topic

When people on here say all the shootings in our Nation are Conservatives; REALLY

When people ask questions for "Friends"! Either say it's you or tell your friend to get their own dang account. If you don't have advice for your own friend, then just don't give any.

Also, I ditto the poor grammar. Some of these people clearly spend alot of time online, they might as well take the extra few minutes and sound intellegent.

Hell on Heels - wouldn't this post fall right into that category ;-)

When this certain do-gooder know-it-all type mama always refers posters to counseling.

____@____.com!
(glad we had her party last weekend - it was butterfly theme!)