YIKES! The Toddler Have Teamed Up! UPDATE!!!!

I agree with the others. Take everything out but her mattress.(Long weekend coming--perfect time.) Tell her that's all she gets until she can be a big girl and be nice. Clothes in boxes, toys in the hall,dressers in the hall, lock on the closet door, knob cover on her room door so she can't wander the house, whatever it takes-- it won't last long. Also, find something that you DO approve of for her to do when she wakes up---read books, have a snack that you've left for her, whatever. She has to have something else to occupy her so she doesn't tear the place up. Good luck---she sounds like a pistol!!

Remove EVERYTHING from the room, including the 1 year old.
Separate them too.
What if the 1 year old gets hurt... to me, it is a safety issue.
The 1 year old can be somewhere else.... and is probably still in a crib or in the toddler bed..... and the crib/bed can be put in your room.

You have to remove everything from the room that she can climb on and move around. EVEN the beds. Because she already moves the beds too.... and with your 1 year old in it? That is totally unsafe...

I assume you have talked to her about it, scolded her/punished or what have you.
But as you see, she does not have total impulse control to leave things alone. So you have to take everything out of that room.
She could also get seriously hurt etc.

My next wondering is:
Does she do this after she wakes in the morning? Is she stuck IN the room? Meaning she can't come out? Or is she just doing this to make trouble and does so whether or not you are awake yet or not??? I'm sure... she must make NOISE as she is doing this... thus can get caught in the act?

all the best,
Susan

Can the two of them sleep with you in a "family bed" for a little while? This behavior sounds like acting out of stress and maybe even trying to "move back home" for a child who is too young to articulate well what she is feeling.

I know it may be inconvenient to bring them into your room, but is that really worse than dealing with this every day? For her, it may bring the security and loving connection that will help her through what is one of the most stressful transitions known to human beings--moving--and for your 1 year old, it will provide safety as well.

Keep talking to her about why you moved, THAT you have moved, and that this is her new home now. Maybe allow her to have a part in how the room is decorated or set up as you gradually get her back in there after a time of family comfort sleeping.

Think of the whole thing like a campout in a big tent together, if you must, and gradually put her back in her room only when she seems to have fully accepted that she is "home" in her new place.

It is completely inappropriate for a child of 3 to continually repeat something like this. I would have her evaluated by an occupational therapist who specilaizes in Sensory Processing Disorder. This type of behavior is bordering on hoarding/OCD because she wants to keep repeating something without any regard for rules and boundaries. I have seen this hundreds of times because I work with these kids. Something is disconnected and it's your job to explore what is going on. I can tell you it is more than behavioral. Her need to push, pull, climb, and work is giving her body the much needed input it is craving. Try OT.

What about a baby monitor - so you can hear her when she gets up before you? My daughter is 6, and I still have one under her dresser in her room so I can hear if she needs me during the night.

Sounds like some one needs to wake up earlier to monitor her behavior:)

Holy cow.
Your 3 year old is managing to move furniture and do all this before you get out of bed in the morning?
She may be acting out due to the move or something but I would take all that stuff out of the room so she can't get into it. I know space is probably tough, but you can't let her keep doing that and coveriing the 1 year old in powder or risk hurting him.
If you wake up at 6, I'd start being up at 5 and in that room to see what she's getting into. If she's up horsing around, I would tell her to have her little tush laying right back down. And mean it. She needs to know it's not funny at all.
In the meantime, take everything out. Everything. Let her have a little sleeping bag or a couple of blankets so she's not pulling bedding off the beds and that's all she gets. No toys. Nothing.
I know it will be a pain, but you have to get up earlier than her even if it's to go in and check and make sure she's not wreaking havoc. You just can't let her do that. I would be afraid she's going to fall off of something or topple something onto your baby or both of them and that would be disastrous.
It's okay for her to know you are not happy with that behavior.

I wish you the best.

My middle child was a home wrecker as well, could not take my eye off him for one second! Your daughter may just be expressing stress over the new place, or something else she's going through and can't articulate. Maybe time to (temporarily) change sleeping arrangements. If she (and her sibling) live through it, she'll grow out of it soon! Good Luck Mamma!