Writing Each Others Vows...

I LOVE that idea. Go for it. What a great idea.

Love the chocodile (whatever that is) idea too. Weddings should be fun, not just all serious.

i think its fun although I would want to know what is included before taking them. I would go over them with one another before hand just to be safe.

I had to write THE ENTIRE CEREMONY... MYSELF!!

Because no one else was checking on what I was doing, I added stuff between the mushy parts. My husband didn't even know (HAHA!)... in between the mush, he had to repeat 'I promise not to eat sardines in the house'... YOU SHOULD HAVE SEEN HIS FACE!!... and somewhere in mine I had to promise 'to get in the kitchen and make you a sandwich!'... definately surprised EVERYONE... we were laughing the whole time anyway, the whole thing took about 5 minutes. Short, simple, sweet, and very much, 100% 'US'.

I've never heard of that and my initial reaction is how can you tell someone else what they are vowing? But the way you describe it, it sounds darling. My only suggestion would be to have a nuetral 3rd party as moderator that proof reads both sets of vows before hand. That way you can be sure noone is getting out of hand or that one person isn't going to go way above and beyond what the other is doing.

If you don't want any sincerity in your vows then go for it. What you are proposing to do is make light of the guidelines for you committment. So like I promise to brush my teeth every night so you won't have to deal with morning breath? Is that really what you want in a marriage?

There was plenty of laughter at my wedding but we still respected that it is a serious committment.

Adding to the actual vows is cute but making them complete nonsense, just no.

I think that is a fantastic idea. What a good way to tell each other what you need in your marriage. However, I might not do the unvelining at the wedding. That would scare the heck out of me. Who know what he might say? Or imagine you write 10 pages and he writes 10 words. Yikes!!

Hi BG, Since you asked - To me, the vows are the one part of a wedding that is sacred. You are making a legally binding commitment to each other, don't forget that! There are plenty of other parts of the wedding ceremony (or reception) that you can 'have a ball' but during vows, I would think you might consider taking it a bit more seriously. But of course, it's not my place to judge your choices - if it feels right for you and your fiance, then go with it :) Congratulations on your upcoming marriage!

Love it!

Rachel- The sandwich line is too funny!

I think both ideas are cute, assuming you trust your husband's judgement.
I agree with another poster that you could have someone you trust to read them both and make sure they're compatable. Maybe you should establish some guidelines. My husband and I wrote our own and afterward compared length and style (like serious but not poetic). Or maybe you can both end them with the same actual vow- like 1 sentence you both agree to (like a version of the traditional 'through sickness and health" promise.)

We wrote our own vows, but we wrote them together. They are still posted on the refrigerator nine years later....and we still honor them.

I think it would be weird to write each other's vows. Doesn't that pretty much negate what a vow actually is?

But then again, I think you are going for something comical, so the vow you read could end up saying something like, "I vow to have sex at least twice a day and to never nag you about taking out the garbage.'

But what is one went silly, and the other was more traditional, then would it just be awkward?

So, if that's what you are going for then cute idea. If not, then I would say to stick to writing your own.

OR>>> do the write each other vow thing, then at the end of reading it, add on a few words of your own vows.

As for the Choco-dile cake idea, I think it's brilliant. You could just put it on a fancy tiered order server. Look at this hostess wedding cake:
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It's your wedding day, you have to do what you want. Don't worry about what other people think - as long as your fiance goes along with it. I love the Chocodiles idea. I don't think expensive wedding cakes taste very good and you might as well have a cake that you love and spend the extra money you save on the honeymoon. I refused to spend money on flowers for my wedding so I had the hotel pick wild flowers from around their garden for my bouquet and the tables. Instead of spending thousands on a wedding dress, I went to the mall and bought a lavender skirt and top for $200. I walked down the aisle by myself dancing to Staying Alive. Everyone loved it.... Good luck!

My husband and i wrote our vows and didn't hear them until the rehearsal. It was nice and very personal. I think it is a great idea.

Why not do this apart as part of your toast to each other. If we had done that at our wedding, our minister would have walked out. As it was I tried to trick him (mu husband) with a fake ring, which was much bigger than the real one, and our minister got all upset during the ceremony and prayed twice to bless the rings, dumb I know... but oh well.
Congrats and enjoy your day! and YES HAVE FUN!!

I think it sounds like a really bad idea. Writing your own vows is nice, but writing them for each other???? I agree with Bunny D., keep the wedding serious, save the hilarity for the reception.

My gut reaction is that it is a bad idea. Something just tells me that it has too much room to go wrong, be hurtful without intending to be, and/or one of you would write a better version than the other and someone could feel slighted. I think marriage is a serious decision and should be handled seriously. The funny stuff can happen later at the reception, if you want.