Hi K.,
I understand your concern. I feel that sometimes we get caught up in gender roles and what to expect from each. Is it typical to find a man in a daycare setting? In the past, I would have "no", but as times change there are more and more men with occupations involving children. The same can be said about women stepping into what was once a "males" job. My husband does commercial plumbing and last week I saw two women on the job site in hard hats and jeans working along side the men.
My favorite teacher in school was Mr. Brown and he just had a natural ability with children. My oldest daughter, in Jr. High, adores her prinicpal and science teacher who are both males. They just have a way of reaching her, relationshipping with her, and helping to shape her
personality all while aiding with her academic success. Most importantly, they are GREAT at it!! I have known some men who are stay at home dads, because they cope better with the situation and truly enjoy being home with their kiddos while mom is the "breadwinner". I find everyone's passions/goals in life are different, but it's not based on their gender. My friend is the leader of her son's Cub Scout troop. In the beginning, she faced some animosity from a couple dads. Over time, she has proved that she is just as capable if not more so (and more creative) at helping the boys develop, grow, and achieve their goals to earn their various badges (including archery)and now she has their full support and assistance when needed.
If the issue is the fact that he is man and it is not something your comfortable with you may want to consider some of the great advice already posted about meeting with them personally, popping in unexpectedly, or just getting to know them on a more personal level. I don't mean to pry, but could some of your hesitation be coming from an experience of loss you may be feeling? It appears as if you had a great relationship with the former owner, but in the beginning you didn't know her and it took some time to get acquainted and to feel at ease with her as a person. Maybe you could give it a chance to get to know them, ask questions, and develop that relationship. It would mean your lovely daughter could stay in an environment that she is familiar with as well as her playmates/friends.
However, if it is just a creepy feeling you get on a regular basis trust your instincts! I always try and give everyone the benefit of the doubt, but sometimes we know better then anyone else that something just isn't right. I wish the best for you and your little girl! Your mom and you know what's right and in the best interest of you and your daughter! Best of luck!
J. F.
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