New doctor. Find one who doesn't give the shots himself or herself, but delegates that to a nurse. You always want the doctor to be the one the kids see as warm and supportive and giving of stickers.
I'm really tired of people thrown gout the "autism" label any time a child has a tantrum. Most people say it can't be easily diagnosed especially in young children. But you can't look at vocabulary or intellect and say that's proof one way or the other. Kids learn at different rates - the "low vocabulary" kids are advanced in other areas, the "can't count" kids are often exceptional in fine and gross motor skills, etc.
I think you, like all parents, will want to work on tantrums for not getting their way - that's usually dealt with by taking them home and not giving in to their kicking and screaming. Just right into the car seat or, at home into the room or the crib, until they calm down.
So I'd say to get off the internet, and find another doctor - new office, new surroundings, new individual. Before you visit, call or send a note saying your daughter had a tough time at the last 2 appointments and you need a new strategy. Most doctors will do a "get acquainted" interview ahead of time if you ask before you choose the practice.
Then focus on the tantrums and pick 3 main triggers, and work out a strategy. Kids need to have their feelings validated and there are plenty of techniques like getting down to their level and helping them voice their feelings when they don't yet have the vocabulary. Structure is important for any kid, autistic or not. But there are so many configurations of autism, you can't panic about it now. Just implement structures that will help you no matter what.
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New doctor. Find one who doesn't give the shots himself or herself, but delegates that to a nurse. You always want the doctor to be the one the kids see as warm and supportive and giving of stickers.
I'm really tired of people thrown gout the "autism" label any time a child has a tantrum. Most people say it can't be easily diagnosed especially in young children. But you can't look at vocabulary or intellect and say that's proof one way or the other. Kids learn at different rates - the "low vocabulary" kids are advanced in other areas, the "can't count" kids are often exceptional in fine and gross motor skills, etc.
I think you, like all parents, will want to work on tantrums for not getting their way - that's usually dealt with by taking them home and not giving in to their kicking and scramming. Just right into the car seat or, at home into the room or the crib, until they calm down.
So I'd say to get off the internet, and find another doctor - new office, new surroundings, new individual. Before you visit, call or send a note saying your daughter had a tough time at the last 2 appointments and you need a new strategy. Most doctors will do a "get acquainted" interview ahead of time if you ask before you choose the practice.
Then focus on the tantrums and pick 3 main triggers, and work out a strategy. Kids need to have their feelings validated and there are plenty of techniques like getting down to their level and helping them voice their feelings when they don't yet have to vocabulary. Structure is important for any kid, autistic or not. But there are so many configurations of autism, you can't panic about it now. Just implement structures that will help you no matter what.