My husband and I are on our third baby and I am terrified of a miscarriage! I had two text book pregnancies and just wanted to know if anyone else has went through this. I am five weeks pregnant and trying to B. extra careful.
Hi C.! Here's a great book that I recommend:
Preventing Miscarriage, The Good News by Dr. Jonathan Scher, M.D. (2005 edition)
Congratulations!
A.
Good Morning Mrs. C., B.
Please to not be alarm but be concern. You should contact your physician indicate all concern. And be sure to write these concerns down before the visit. If, you cannot get a appointment right away, you should go to your hospital emergency, where checking your status of concern will contact your doctor. C. each pregnancy is different. And your body & mental status is different as well. You are dealing with other children vs. more resposiblities now. Your stress level is extremely higher. Stress can effect your pregnancy is a large factor. Please take all of these points with consideration in mind. I have experienced this 3 times in my life. And it is an important issues that should be dealt with caution and care.
You will problably be put on a High-Rish pregnancies status from your physician. And then, you will be put on a disablity for duration of your pregnancy. And truly relax, don't worry,be happy and eat appropriate. And post your baby picture on our Mama source so we can tell how cute she or he is. Good luck baby!
Please take the your doctor advice serious to heart C..
S. A.
First of all, CONGRATULATIONS!
Second of all...the worst thing you can do is put you and your baby under undue stress. I think with first children you just are in awe of the magic of it all... and then with subsequent pregnancies we all realize just how much of a miracle it IS to conceive, carry and deliver a full term healthy baby.
So, do what you can to take care of you... just like you did before! You obviously know what you need to do to take care of yourself.... and say your prayers at night. :) What's meant to be will be. :)
I went through this fear with both of my pregnancies eventhough I had very healthy babies and pregnancies. I do not think I can go through being pregnant ever again, It's too stressful for me. LOL. I actually rented a fetal heartbeat monitor so that I could check in on my baby whenever I wanted. Hearing the steady beat of their heart really helped sooth my fears. If you are interested check out www.heartbeatsathome.com
congratulations on your newest pregnancy!!!!
Hi Christy,
I think every pregnancy carries with it some worry. We lost our first one to a miscarriage and it's important to remember that you really can't "do" anything to cause a miscarriage (unless you're intentionally trying to end a pregnancy, obviously, there are ways). It can happen because of hormonal imbalances in the mother (mine was ovarian dysfunction), "programming errors" in the fetus, or some other totally uncontrollable factor.
Talk to your doctor about your concern and try to get in for an early sonogram. It should set your mind at ease. Then focus on the two kiddos you've already been blessed with. Also, you can beef up your prayer life. Asking God to relieve your worries actually works! Your life and the baby's life are in His hands completely.
Hi Again C.!
Yes I know what you are feeling! I was afraid that since I had already had 2, why would I have the blessing of a third (andf then a 4th) without any problems???
If Christian or Jewish faith is part of your life, read through Psalm 139. That helped me quite a bit.
All the best D.
What would make you worry about a miscarriage? You've had two, normal, uneventful pregnancies. What would make you worry about the third? My advice is to take it easy. Miscarriages are a chance we all take when we decide to have kids and unfortunately, there's not anything we can do to prevent them. But stress is not good for your body either. So, don't put unneeded stress on your body. Breathe, relax and enjoy baby #3!
Hey C.!
If you get the early sono and it's still inconclusive and looking grim, I'll listen! I am now 16.5 weeks and swore this miracle wouldn't make it! I bled red, cramped, and had an irregular gestational sac, and the hb didn't show til 7 wks. It wasn't until 13 weeks or so that my ob said ok, I think it's a go now. I had sonos every week from week 5-9 and then one again at 12. They also did blood work to check hcg and progesterone. I am wondering why you're worried. If it's bleeding-I was really worried too. My first pregnancy, like yours, was textbook and easy, and this one I have had every possible symptom/problem it feels like.
Try the babycenter forums for threatened miscarriage. Also go to www.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com-the are so kind and helpful. You can also email me if you need more support.
R.
I think this must be normal. I have never had a miscarriage and had two healthy children, but with both I had the same worry. I think it probably makes you worry more if like me you are totally addicted to watching the baby shows on tv. I used to watch maternity ward (which is nothing but high risk pregnancies) and a baby story. After watching these you realize all the things that can go wrong and I think that is what made me worry. If you have had no problems in the past I am sure you will be fine. Try to busy yourself getting ready for baby and getting her kids ready for baby so you don't have as much time to think about it :) Good luck and I wish you a smoothe pregnancy.
Sounds to me like you are experiencing what is sometimes called "third baby syndrome". Moms have two normal, healthy pregnancies, and then freak out on the third. They think, I've been luck twice, when is my luck gonna run out? It doesn't always happen with the third (for me it was the fourth), but it's a really common fear, especially if you've had friends who have had losses.
There is no reason on earth why you should be classified as a high risk pregnancy or treated any differently just because of this. If you are a religious person at all, it's an excellent time to build your faith. This website has a lot of neat info:
http://christian.birthingnaturally.net/
If you really feel the need for an early sono, then have one in a couple of weeks. But it won't be that much longer after that before you'll be able to hear the heartbeat anyway. Hang in there, and try not to worry! (I know, easier said than done.)
L. King, CCCE, CLD
www.ajoyfulbirth.com
express your concerns to your ob and ask for an early sonogram. you can see the heartbeat as early as 5-6 weeks. once you see that, your risk of a misscarriage goes down drastically.
