Why Do I Feel Guilty About Getting Plastic Surgery?

It is a decision between you, and your Hubby and he seems to support you in it.

Your sister is being judgmental. That is her problem.Unless she actually has a caring reason for judging you about it and your financial situation.

Sure, money can be spent in many ways. But it is also about how you feel, and your body image. And you are not being impulsive. But research it and the different types.

Ultimately, it is your decision. If your sister has always had a way of putting you down and being overbearing.. then chalk it up to it being HER personality flaw. Not yours.

Sometimes, there are removable inserts that you can try wearing in your bra... to see first, how it feels if your breasts are larger and how you feel and look that way. Maybe try that too.
Some lingerie stores, carry these inserts. Try checking it out.

ANd you can always find someone else to babysit while you are recovering after surgery. Or your Hubby can too.

All the best,
Susan

My discussion group this week considered this common moral/ethical dilemma. All of us contribute in some physical or financial way to meet the desperate needs of children, the infirm and elderly in a world in which the gap is widening between those who have and those who don't. In case it will be useful, here's what we realized.

We agreed that there is nothing wrong with using some of our resources, time and energy to meet our own needs. It is tricky, though, to be clear about what is an actual need, and what is a less necessary desire.

The understanding we reached is that needs are always valid and essential, and can be satisfied, even if only for a few moments (like the need for oxygen). Needs don't keep coming back in a magnified form. For example, hunger will be relieved by a decent meal, and your next meal will be as satisfying as one that met your needs a year ago.

Desires, on the other hand, are more nebulous, and unless we discover what the deeper soul need is being expressed through that desire, it will never be completely satisfied. On the contrary, satisfying a desire usually gives rise to a greater desire in the future.

For example, people who desire greater security, wealth, prestige, power, or beauty are often (probably not always) trying by those means to meet a spiritual need that they simply don't recognize. Because the material thing they seek doesn't actually address the spiritual nature of the need, they may well have to try even harder next time.

So if a person gets an expensive car that he feels gives him greater status, it won't help him feel more honored or any more worthy of real respect. He'll continually want more and bigger symbols of his "worthiness" until he discovers what his real need is, and learns to live in ways that respect himself.

If you want to relieve your guilt over your wish for perkier breasts, it might help you to identify the underlying need, and whether there is any other way to meet that need that costs less, carries less risk, has less effect on your children. What are you really hoping to feel as a result of surgery? Will it affect your ability to love and serve your family in a positive or negative way? Are you convinced that women lose value as they age or show the effects of living? Do you feel beautiful on the inside? Do you think surgery might eventually lead to some other wish for a more beautiful exterior, like a tummy tuck or face lift as you age? Would less focus on your own appearance be desirable or possible? Do you think that the trend toward purchasing external beauty is helpful or hurtful to humanity? Anyway, do we even owe anything to others?

I'm not suggesting by any of these questions that I know what your answers "should" be – every one of us is unique. And nobody lives a stainless life, no matter how hard we try. If you come to the conclusion that you are emotionally and spiritually comfortable going ahead with the surgery, then that should be your decision.

What you choose is not your sister's business. Her business is to deal with the discomfort of her own judgement and decide for herself whether to help with your children. My best to you. I hope whatever you do serves you well.

I have a three yr old child.

I got breast implants and have had a tummy tuck as well.
I felt guitly at first but then I did it for me. I felt like I needed it.

It helped me feel sexy again it helped me get my confidence back.
I don't regret it at all.

If you are saving money aside for it and are not taking away from normal finances that you would need for the kiddo's then go for it.

You have worked hard as a mommy. The Pain for the Implants last maybe a week and your hubby can help with the kids. Maybe shes jealous she can't get the implants or maybe she hates plastic surgery all together.

Do what makes you and your Hubby Happy!! Thats what really matters here!

Do what makes YOU happy (& your husband :).. Its not your sisters $$ or place to say what you should do with it. My Mom always told me, "do what you want to do, but whatever you do hold your head high!"..

I am jealous. I just turned 50 this year and trust me everything is going south. I really really want to do a lift but I just can't find the time for recovery. I own my own business an I do everything from office worker, cook, director, you name it I do it. It is fairly a new business so I am worried about taking time off. However, I am thinking of going for a consult this summer when I can maybe get the time off. Remember you are not just a mom you are a woman first, and if it will make you and your husband happy then I say go for it. I have learned in life not to share to much information with people it leaves to much room for judgment. I am sure your sister means well but it really isn't her business. Good luck and let us know how it goes.

Your sister and I are alike in some ways.

We're both jealous that you're doing this and that your boobs will look fantastic!

The difference between your sister and I, is that I'm genuinely happy for you and glad that this procedure will most likely help you regain some of your confidence...and for a mama who's been through a lot raising young children, that's an awesome thing!

Let what your sister says roll off of your back and enjoy something that you're doing for YOURSELF for a change (instead of always sacrificing for your family).

Good luck and enjoy!

Certainly there are "more important" things you could spend your money on, but in the end, it's your money and if you and your husband are both in agreement, go for it. Your sister is jealous and given the same opportunity would probably get implants, too (not that she'd EVER admit that ;-)). Tell her "I know you think this is a bad idea, but it's something I REALLY need to do for myself. We're sisters and I'd be there for you in EVERY situation, and I hope I can depend on you to be there for me, too. You're always so good with my kids and I know they'll feel reassured to have you around while I'm unable to completely take care of them." BTW, I was also a small A. I'm now a large C/small D and it's one of the the best things I ever did...even though MY sister STILL gives me grief about it. \(>_<)/

I am sure your sister will watch your kids. I don't know your economic situation or your sister's but it sounds like your sister is just thinking of your kids. Honestly, can't 8,000 be spent on your kids rather than on boobs? Or how about putting that money away as a safety net? In today's economy, you or your husband can lose your job or become disabled. Then what? Since you are "saving up" for these boobs I am inferring that you are middle class, like most people, and don't spend thousands at a drop of a hat. Maybe some mom's are "jealous" but I think that is what lot of women just like to say to make themselves feel better. I totally think that moms should feel good about themselves but you can do that through fitness, happiness, and a really good push up bra.

Maybe you feel guilty because deep down you think your sister is right?

I'm all about doing what you feel is best for you and making yourself feel good, but I guess I have a bit of a problem with so many women thinking they need to have bigger breasts. I don't know that I've ever looked at another woman and thought, "Oh, what a shame, she is so flat-chested. She'd be so pretty otherwise." I think all the boob jobs just play into our culture's obsession with appearances and sexuality, and it's not something that I personally care to go along with.

That being said, if this is truly something you want to do, just do it. Would your sister really refuse to watch your kids just because she didn't agree with your decision to have the surgery? If so, would that be a big enough reason for you not to do it? Couldn't you find other childcare? People, including your sister, are going to have their opinions about whether they think you should get this surgery, and it's up to you if you want to let these opinions affect your decision. But if you do decide to do it, make sure you feel good about it.

You should not feel guilty about this at all. Some people spend a lot of money on nice clothes, expensive haircuts, gym memberships, etc. all to help them to feel better about themselves. If this is an area that makes you unhappy and you and your husband have the means to make it better, I say go for it! Unless you owe your sister money or something I don't see one reason why you should feel guilty! Sounds like she might actually be a little jealous :-).

I would however, think about another option for helping you after the surgery if this is her attitude. No one needs to be around such negativity when you're recovering.

Good luck,
K.

I had this procedure done back in '98. I had my daughter in '03, and breastfed, which led to the left one becoming..well, disfigured! I'm having it fixed in May of this year, and my sister also disapproved when I had it done. The best I can tell you is HAVE IT DONE! You deserve it, and you deserve to look and feel good about yourself. You could tell your sis that your not looking for her approval, but rather her understanding. If she still has attitude, well that's about her! Find friends to watch your kiddos for you, if you can. Can hubby help out?

Sounds to me there are many people on here who are a little jealous that you have the money and support to have this done. I haven't worked in 13 years, since my son was born. I cashed out my retirement a few years ago and spent it on having some "work" done. I am now a full "C" cup and loving it. My body is in proportion, I have no problems working out or doing anything else I enjoy. My husband loves it, mainly because of the confidence I have now. Yes, I could have spent that money on a vacation or college fund or whatever. But, I didn't and that's my business. We, as a family, haven't missed the money and all is good.

I don't know how old your kids are. But, I was fine just after a weekend's rest. You will not be able to lift them, but they can crawl into your lap and be fine. My husband took off one day of work and then I had friends help.

Don't let anyone guilt you. Moms have enough guilt, as it is.

It's your money to spend and if you and your husband are ok with it and can afford it then you should go for it. I have the opposite problem so I can't share implant pain with you but I had a reduction 9 years ago and yes it was very painful but so worth it. I went from a DDD to a full C and was off work for 1 1/2 weeks. I was tender for a while but if I had to do it again I would. It was part for myself and part to releive my back pain. I hated the way I looked and wanted to be smaller. I could never buy the same size top and bottom because of it. I am happy I did it.

A quick note to anyone that is or knows anyone thinking about a reduction, try to wait until after you are done having kids if you can. There is a chance you won't be able to breastfeed if you do. I am one of those that couldn't. I produced very little milk because to many glands were removed during surgery. That is my only regret. I only got to for 1 month while supplementing with formula. After a month it was strickly formula.

Having said that, who knows how big I would be if I hadn't. They grew with both pregnancies and I went from a C to a DD. YIKES!

You need to do what feels right for you, if that means implants then get them. You have responsibly saved for them and deserve to treat yourself at least occasionally. Yes it is all about the kids, but you need to do things for you too. =)

I was always a B cup. After 2 kids,I was a slightly larger de-flated B cup!! I will be 40 soon. I have been working out at CURVES and you would NOT believe the change in my breast. I see the most improvement in that area in the 6 mos I have been going. They are firm once again so therefor look a little larger.
My children are 14 yrs apart and I breastfed both of them. So,just saying that excercise will help firm but not the en-largement you are looking for.
If I had the nerve to do plastic surgery I would do a tummy tuck cuz no amt of exercise is gonna give me a flat stomach again!! I think I will always have a pooch above my c-section scar! GOOD LUCK!

RyansProudMama could not have said it more perfectly.

You do what is right for you and don't worry about what others think. If you were a little closer to me, I'd help you with your children.

EDIT: thanks to a complete hysterectomy in 2001 and going on the HRT patch, my nice C's have become DD's. I'm having a blast. It is harder finding clothing since I wear a size 0-2 pant and have a skinny waist......but, I love my DD's. (So does hubby).

Hi S. W-

Before kids I was an A...maybe a small B cup. My mom was convinced that I was 'always pregnant or breastfeeding' for the clevage...lol. After I was finished with 'all that', I swear I only needed two bandaids!!

Now that I am menapausal, my body has 'shifted'...and I am now a very generous 'C'!! Go figure!! So far...nothing has 'headed south'...so maybe consider waiting a bit!

Having said that...I say, if you have the $$...and ya want to do it - Go For IT!!

Good luck!
Michele/cat

Hi there, my story is very very simailar to Patricia H from Dallas. I could not say it better than her. PLEASE do all the research you can! Ask ask ask many questions. Go for as many free consultations as possible. Look up info online. I say all this because I wish I had done more research before I got implants. Just like Patricia I WISH I NEVER DID IT. I actually look forward to removing them as soon as I can. I had a B cup before and wanted a D cup. I really want to see my natural breasts again. Please think long and hard about it. Forget others thoughts and do it for yourself. Whatever makes you happy now and in the future.

You shouldn't feel bad about it! Your sister should be supporting you and your decisions. And if this will make you feel better about yourself and less insecure, and if will make you fell normal..Then why should you feel bad about it?

More then likely your sister is jealous. If you can afford it and your husband is on board (really make sure) then GO FOR IT!!! I will say, I am 2 months post surgery and very happy. However, I didn't expect the long recovery. I was in pain for 2 weeks, but could not take the pain meds because I have 3 kids, 4 and under. I would plan on having help with cleaning and kids for a FULL 2 weeks! Good Luck! If you are in OK, look up Dr Hein...he's fabulous!!

well,I will say,someone should do whatever pleases them, as long as they don't harm anyone.....
but I also know, that things can go wrong,the ultimate price is death.
It does happen.......I wouldn't care about the money or your sister.
I couldn't do it, knowing of the risks and doing it to my family...............
and trust me, my boobs after 3 children,not pretty...I really don't like them...
My husband loves them, I don't know why...,but I focus more on my other good features I still have left.
But I wish you the best of luck, whatever you decide to do....

It's none of your sister's business as long as you don't make it her business (i.e., don't plan to rely on her post-surgery).

I want to do "some work" once my kids are grown up. Until then, I won't risk my life for something that's not medically necessary.

We had a teenager die in our town (she was actually correcting a breast issue - was not solely cosmetic) after she had a rare allergic reaction to anesthesia. It was terribly sad.

Please understand the risks involved - otherwise good luck! Don't worry about anyone but your husband and kids!

I say if you have saved and are raising your two kids which is the Hardest (and most rewarding) but THE HARDEST job ever, You definetly deserve it! I am in your boat with the complete difference from pre prego to post prego. What the heck happened to my breasts?... It will definetly make you feel better and you deserve to feel your best. Plus I know how hard it is now to find bras and swim suits that fit! ugghh! Ask your sister to hold her comments and please support you so you can feel good about yourself. Thats what family is for right? Go for it girl. I dont think its much more than a week that you cant lift anything over 8 lbs anyhow. Ask hubby to help for a few days and some friends. ;) Goodluck!

I think you should go ahead with the surgery. If it will make you feel better about your self there is no reason why you shouldn't. You have done the responsible thing by saving up for it and waited for the surgery until you could afford it. This isnt a whim, you obviously have thought about this for a while. Saving that much money can take a while. Maybe your sister is projecting her own money issues on you. Don't feel guilty.

Your sis sounds a little resentful. Even if she doesnt think plastic surgery is a valid thing to spend your money on, she should still support you. People act out for the strangest reasons. You never know, she may resent that you are getting something she secretly wants or may just be bitter that you have some extra cash around.

Tell her that it is a decision that you and your husband have decided on and have been saving for. It's really no different than if you wanted to spend money for a cruise or go on a vacation - some people think those are purely frivolous too.

This is your decision to make, and don't feel guilty! I want to tell you this though, as a person with large, heavy breasts that working out is a challenge. I have been a C in highschool and I didn't like them then either. Now I am larger than that, and it stinks. They are only good for a little clevage, and ANY woman can get that with a nice pushup bra.

I would only be concerned about getting them if you plan to have more children in the future. Once I have all the children I want, I might do the same thing. Good luck and do what makes you happy. Just make a safe and informed decision.

JEALOUS! JEALOUS! JEALOUS! I would't hang around your sister too much. You have earned it and if it will make you feel better ... I say GO FOR IT!

Do not feel guilty! She is more than likely making you feel that way because she is jealous! You need to feel good about yourself. With that being said I was in the same situation. I couldn't find nice clothes to fit and if they did they fit through my waist then the top was huge. I went from a very small A to a full C. I look more proportioned than ever. With my husbands push I went ahead and had the tummy tuck as well. After 2 c-sections the pooch never went away until the tummy tuck. I had both procedures done at the same time. My boobs just had a numbness/tingling feeling. My stomach on the other hand did hurt bad! It took 3 weeks to get over the tummy tuck and it was mainly my back from having to bend over because my stomach was so tight.

If you just have the boobs done I really don't think you will have much pain. I guess it really depends on your pain tolerance. Just start telling your kids now that you can't pick them up and make an honest effort to not lift anything heavy. I had my surgery when my kids were 2 and 4. My sister did keep my kids for 2 days but that was due to the tummy tuck. I had the silicone gummy bear fill implants put in. The scar is under the breast and barely noticeable. I choose these for the way the feal and they do not make the slushy sound like the liquid implants.

You do what you feel is right for you! Good luck and if you need to talk I know a great doctor.

As long as you are being money smart and can afford it, which it sounds like you can, then you should do it. If you want an experts opinion, email Suze Orman's Can I afford it? segment and see what she says.

If you do go ahead with it, schedule it during a time when hubby can take vacation leave. Then you won't be dependent on sis for help with the kids.
M.

I don't have your answer, but I do feel the need to defend your sister. So many have commented that she is just being jealous and, yes, it's possible, but there are other possibilities. One is that she loves you and thinks you are worth more than what you look like. She may just be frustrated because she doesn't want you to base your self worth on what's riding on your chest. Or, something I can relate to, she may be struggling financially and maybe she can't relate to spending that amount of money on boobs when she's struggling to pay her bills. Something else that came to mind is that I've been to Africa three times. I've seen extreme poverty and, while I don't think it's wrong to spend some money to take care of yourself physically, seeing something like that will change your views on spending. Trust me, I DO make selfish purchases using money that could've been used elsewhere. But, everyone has a different level of comfort when it comes to how much they are willing to spend on themselves. Some consider it splurging when they buy a new shirt at Target. Some consider it splurging only when they buy a luxury vehicle.

Anyway, to dismiss her as "jealous" is, I think, small-minded without considering that she just may have a very practical head on her shoulders and this just doesn't make sense to her.

That being said, she sounds like she loves you and has been there for you before. I can't imagine she wouldn't be there to help if you really needed it, whether she agrees with this or not.

Dear S.,

When something is right for you you won't feel guilt. Your sis may feel like you are just right the way your are...and as for the pain...she is right...there is so much pain and recovery time involved after plastic surgery, not to mention the possible side effects, it is well worth rethinking.

Your kids need a full time mom, your husband won't enjoy the extra large boob if you don't have the time, energy or inclination to let him play.

Blessings....

Updated

Dear S.,

When something is right for you you won't feel guilt. Your sis may feel like you are just right the way your are...and as for the pain...she is right...there is so much pain and recovery time involved after plastic surgery, not to mention the possible side effects, it is well worth rethinking.

Your kids need a full time mom, your husband won't enjoy the extra large boob if you don't have the time, energy or inclination to let him play.

Blessings....

Trust me I have two kids and I was never big up there anyways but after them um yeah bye bye to anything I had. I would do it but like you I feel guilty god made me this way and this way I shall stay! My sister in law got breast implants done before her last baby but she did it to just get attention. You do what you feel is right! Good luck.

I don't blame you for having it done and you shouldn't feel guilty. But nor should you expect your sister's help if she disagrees with what you're doing. You could wait till the kids are older. As someone who's been an A my whole life, either decide to wait till you don't need her help or trust me, you can live with it a little longer.

you know what?
i am like you. everything i have (and sometimes even don't have) i spend it on my kids. i have wants and needs and i have yet to voice them. breastfeeding did nothing for me, still a B cup. i don't wear a bra, have not worn a bra in years. i just don't need one. i would love a plastic surgery on my nose though. i used to be told by my dad that eventually i will love my national nose. i am 34 still waitint to fall in love with it :).
maybe i will come to that point to want one, and when i do, i can assure you i won't be asking anyone for advice, or permission.
my mom always tells me that i am letting myself go, and then one day i will wake up regretting for not taking care of myself. i think i agree with her. i just don't have the darn time to do it, and when i do, i don't have the energy.
so thanks for letting me talk, now you go get one. be careful you don't get too big for your frame as you will deal with back pain afterwards (i hear). don't discuss it with your sister. what? is she not going to help you because you got a surgery for yourself? don't let anyone change your mind. i am glad to hear you hubby is on board.

hi there
well two and three sides to any story... ok, on the one hand, sure you could spend that money on other household items and necessities, that is ONE way of looking at it... BUT the more important issue here is why you may want implants. you say to look "normal" .. normal is so subjective and what what is normal to one may not be to another. I won't say to get implants or not, that choice can only be made by you..... and as far as your saying your sister makes you feel certain ways, I will add that no one can make you feel anything. with all that said, why not before going through with the surgery, ask yourself, why isn't it ok with you to have smaller breasts??
often women (and men) want what they don't have... to tell you the truth as someone who does have larger breasts, I often think, wow..... smaller would be better, I have at times looked at smaller chested women and thought, they can wear many cute summer blouses and or dresses that in my oppinion wouldn't look as good on a bigger chested woman. (my opinion of course) but at the same time, I haven't gone out and gotten a breast reduction (no judgement on you) but what I have done is decided that you know, it's ok to be whatever size I am and I will no longer let society dictate to me what looks good or not..... Of course, you will do whatever it is you choose.. However, don't think that plastic surgery is a long time fix... what leads people to plastic surgery in my opinion is an underlying dislike of themselves.. ok some will say, the implants were the best thing I ever did for me.. might be in some cases, however, if most told the truth, I don't think any kind of surgery is a 100% resolve...... I would just really delve into why who and what you are at this time is not good enough?
whatever you decide, best of luck..

As long as you realize that you will have a painful recovery, and that there are always risks associated with surgery, I say go for it! I've always been topheavy, and while it is a hassle at times (there aren't a lot of cheap 34DD bras out there, so I have to buy expensive bras), I do like the way I look. Even now that I'm definitely heading south, I like having a tiny waist and a big top. The good bras keep me lifted during the day and I don't give a darn at night. :)

I'd say you feel guilty for the same reason the rest of us might feel guilty when we splurge on a massage or a facial or a manicure. We know we could spend that time and money on our kids, but sometimes you just have to do something for yourself. If you really want this and you are ready for the challenges of surgery and recovery afterwards, just let your sister's comments roll off your back. Best of luck to you!

I agree with to each their own... and if this makes you happy, so be it...

But you do feel guilty, because you know that your sister is right! This is an unnecessary expense, and elective medical procedure that is for nothing else but your vanity.

It still think she should help you though - you're an adult, your body, your decision... if she doesn't spend the extra $$ for a mother's helper for a few days.
Good luck!

You don't sound like you are doing this to go super busty or anything like that, you are simply repairing the damage that happened while you were meeting your infants most basic of needs. I say go for it, you gave your body to your babies when they needed it, now you need it back and it's your right to enjoy looking your best. As for the pain, what the heck would your sister think if you had to get a root canal? She is either there to be supportive or not, dont allow her to tell you how to feel. Use a reputable surgeon and have the procedure done in a hospital to minimize risk, then let hubby lend a hand during recuperation. Good luck!

I'm sorry your sister is not supportive. That must be hurtful above all else.
I’m sure that’s why you feel guilty if that’s the right word here, because she’s family, your sister. We should be able to count on family before anyone else (except husband right?) so when that person turns their back on you, says hurtful things, is unsupportive, it can be distressing. Don’t feel guilty really! It’s not like you’re taking a huge chunk out of your bank account to do this. You have been saving for it. Just like people have a vacation fund, you started a boob job fund LOL If it will help you feel better about yourself then by all means you should get it done. I fully support your decision! =-)

Best of luck and remember, you get what you pay for! Get a good Doctor!

Siblings have a way of really letting us know how they feel and we have to have a way of letting it slide off our shoulders. That is just how families who care about each other work. But I would definitely NOT plan to have her help you with your children after your surgery. You need to find a way to do this without her since you are too sensitive to her remarks. If you can't afford a sitter, find a friend that will trade hours with you...she babysits for you X hours during your surgery/recovery time, and you, in exchange, will babysit X hours for her spaced out over a period of time after your recovery. Lots of folks will jump for that. You can even start your babysitting for her before your surgery so she knows you are serious.

VickiS

Hi,
To each their own and if you can afford it then go for it! I can't so i went to the health food store and came across a product called GroBust. It enhances your breast naturally. Was desperate after nursing my babies because i went from a FULL C to a FULL A. :( Not happy, rather embarassed for my husband to see my with the lights on when we had relations. so anyway, i tried it, followed directions, very easy and went up to my full C again in about 2 months!!! I am now nursing my last baby ( i am 40) and when i finish nursing, if am small again, i will surely go back to Grobust.
here is the website, doesn't hurt to look into it!! have a great day!
www.grobust.com

Do not have the surgery until you are guilt free. If you have the surgery with any doubts you may end up regretting it. Please do a ton of research! Look forward regarding your finances. If you think for any reason you will actually 'need' this money for something else - don't do it. As kids get older the expenses get higher and higher. As a parent of a 9 & 12 year old - the money just keeps going out the door. It just changes from diapers to clothes to activities to clothes to education to clothes and so on. Don't worry about your sister though, she has a right to her opinion and that should be respected but it is just her opinion. Of course, allow her to help, she is your sister - if she truly loves you and respects you, she will help you - I'm sure she is just venting. We all say things we don't mean. She's just trying to change your mind by being so dramatic. And if she doesn't help you, you've seen her true colors and know not depend on her going forward. Good luck!

Does your sister have children? Before I had kids, I was very anti-plastic surgery. But now that I'm a mom, I can totally understand why people would want it. It's not like you're looking for attention. You just want to look your best. Don't feel guilty. As long as your husband is on board, it's no one else's concern. Good luck with it!

It's a free country and what you do with your money is up to you, but it seems that very few posters save one are concerned with the risks of surgery. It's a very small risk but it's still there -- mostly related to anesthesia -- but sometimes people die in surgery. If you have never had general anesthesia consider whether you want to risk it on this elective procedure. If you already know you can tolerate it, then it may be less of a concern but it's still there. In any event, if you really count on your unsupportive sister to babysit then I would grow a skin of teflon between now and then, or save a little longer so you can pay a sitter for a week or two.