J.B.
LOL...I had to laugh because I am one of those parents who has an undisciplined almost 4 year old daughter. My daycare person tells me all the time straight out that I'm the parent and I need to take control of the situation... She is super nice but very strict, which is AWESOME for my daughter as she needs that. But my daughter doesn't listen to me. She does what she wants -- she is so strong-willed and independent that I don't have the energy to fight with her. She's well-behaved when she's not around me. My daycare person has discussed her concerns with me and she won't give my daughter a nap so that she is able to fall asleep earlier. My personal opinion (as I am the other mom) is that you need to discuss your concerns with the parents. She might be offended...but thats on her. I was offended the very first time the provider talked to me and I balled because she basically called me a bad mother --but then I came to my senses and realized was I am a horrible mom and she gives me advice on how to change things and she helps out by telling my daughter that she needs to listen to me and what not. It has helped...but my daughter still has her moments. You really just need to sit down with the other mom and act genuinely concerned about what is going on in their life and tell her what changes you have noticed.