What's stopping you from putting your foot down now? When my kids were tiny we all went to my mom's house on Christmas Eve, spent the night & all day Christmas there. Granted, my husband worked rotating shifts & was almost always working so it wasn't that big of a deal. Since then we've moved out of state, though only a couple of hours away. We eventually had to just put our feet down also & say that Santa comes to our house, we wake up in our own beds, open presents & stockings, etc., then get dressed & drive over there. This year we will not be spending that night there either, there's just not enough room for all of us & it's uncomfortable. My family is not the least bit happy about it, but that's just the way it goes.
For the longest I went along with whatever they wanted because I thought it was the nice thing to do, but then I would complain either the whole way there, the whole way home, or sometimes both & eventually my husband got sick of hearing it & told me I really needed to stand up for myself. He said if I wasn't comfortable doing that then he'd be happy to do it for me, but he definitely isn't the most tactful when it comes to things like that.
I'm an adult & it's my holiday, too, so while I obviously want to see my whole family, I'm not going to allow myself to be upset or uncomfortable if there's anything I can do about it.
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What's stopping you from putting your foot down now? When my kids were tiny we all went to my mom's house on Christmas Eve, spent the night & all day Christmas there. Granted, my husband worked rotating shifts & was almost always working so it wasn't that big of a deal. Since then we've moved out of state, though only a couple of hours away. We eventually had to just put our feet down also & say that Santa comes to our house, we wake up in our own beds, open presents & stockings, etc., then get dressed & drive over there. This year we will not be spending that night there either, there's just not enough room for all of us & it's uncomfortable. My family is not the least bit happy about it, but that's just the way it goes.
For the longest I went along with whatever they wanted because I thought it was the nice thing to do, but then I would complain either the whole way there, the whole way home, or sometimes both & eventually my husband got sick of hearing it & told me I really needed to stand up for myself. He said if I wasn't comfortable doing that then he'd be happy to do it for me, but he definitely isn't the most tactful when it comes to things like that.
I'm an adult & it's my holiday, too, so while I obviously want to see my whole family, I'm not going to allow myself to be upset or uncomfortable if there's anything I can do about it.