When Did You Tell People You're Pregnant?

I told everyone immediately with both my kids. Literally started calling people as I saw the second blue line appear :)

I was so excited that I told everyone I could the day I got a positive test at 4 weeks for both of my kids. Congrats to you!!

We told everyone we were pregnant about a week after a positive pregnancy test with all 3 of my children. It is such exciting news it is hard to hold in.

Congrats!!

Tell them now! I did the same thing, blabbed IMMEDIATELY, then miscarried. But I agree, it's not such a bad thing to have that support from the ones closest to you. And like you said, you don't want to live in worry so GO TELL! Congratulations...very exciting!

I tell everyone right away before I even go to the Dr. - did it with all 4 of my kids - it is too exciting to keep in. For me anyways! LOL Sounds like you are the same way. Congratulations!!

I have always told everyone right away. If my test comes back positive my family gets the call. I had a miscarriage between my 2nd and 3rd babies at 5 months and it was and incredibly sad time. I don't know what I would have done if I didn't have the people I love to share with and lean on.

I am 32 weeks and on #4 right now and found out before I even missed a period, yet called everyone. I say go for it, if you miscarry (which I doubt you will) then you have everyone to lean on. Friends and family are there to share with you for good and bad, don't bother going around thinking doom and gloom. Just enjoy the moment!

Enjoy #4 and congrats!

With number six we waited about 3 weeks because my dad was ill and in out of the hospital but once he was better we told everyone. But with the others we told everyone within a week of the positive home test.

I am a blabber mouth and told everyone!! Before I even went to the doctor! lol The home test came back positive and my husband and I were on the phone with our parents within minutes.
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Well, I really wanted to wait until after the first trimester and testing and whatnot, but by 6 weeks everyone knew. We like to go out and have drinks with friends and my girlfriends and I have lots of wine nights and whatnot, so when I was about a month (I had told my best friend who had also just found out she was pregnant), a bunch of us went out to dinner. My best friend hadn't told everyone, but some friends had suspicions, so when she didn't order a margarita and opted for water, people were really focused on her. I was hoping that would take the attention off of me! I told my husband to just go to the bar and ask for a sprite with lime in a cocktail glass, but we had the speediest of servers that night, so when she asked me what I wanted, and I told her I would just have some water for right now -everyone started making little comments! By the next week everyone knew because we then had a girls' night, and of course I wasn't drinking. I should have known (being known for my love of wines and microbrews) that I wouldn't be able to keep it a secret long unless I left town!

We've waited with both kids until we saw a heartbeat on the ultrasound at 8weeks. Statistically, once you can see a healthy heartbeat, the rate of miscarriage drops by 95%.

Nothing is ever guaranteed, of course. But that was the decision that DH and I made.

There is no right or wrong here. It is whenever you feel comfortable telling. With my first I was so excited I told everyone right away. With my second I told family....like my sisters, Mom and Dad right away but waited to tell everyone else until I was 12 weeks. With my third pregnancy I had a miscarriage and like you I told my family so I could have all that support. Now with my fourth I again told my fam right way but waited until I was around 15 weeks before telling everyone else. So again it's whatever you want to do.

I told a few people after the first ultrasound (immediate family and a couple of close friends), but waited until 12-13 weeks to spill the beans to everyone. For my second pregnancy, we even waited to tell our son (almost 3 at the time) so he didn't tell everyone.

Since your kids know already, chances are it won't stay secret for long.

Congrats!

K.
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We told our parents and siblings after the first doctor's appointment b/c we were so excited! Both of our mothers were pretty strong on not telling people outside of immediate family until after the first trimester. As my mom said... only tell people about the pregnancy if you would be okay telling them about a miscarriage. If you have family and close friends who would support you should something happen, then go for it.

Outside of that circle, I would wait until you are safely into the second trimester. I have a very dear friend who had numerous miscarriages before this pregnancy. We knew after 6 weeks (family and "bridesmaids")... she waited until almost 20 weeks to share with the rest of the world!

I am 14 weeks pregnant and have not told my family yet. I plan on telling them around the beginning of the next month (so I will be about 16 weeks). I have told a few close friends and my sister. I plan on waiting to tell everyone at work until after I tell my family.

My reasons for waiting was getting past the first trimester and also because I feel pregnancy lasts a long time and when people know it seems to me to last even longer.

Funny I actually didn't tell my husband for almost two weeks after I found out because I wanted to surprise him and my props took awhile to arrive. The funny part is I am not a good self-secret keeper so it was really tough.

Congrats!!!!

Well, in theory, I have always said that until the first trimester is over you shouldn't tell anyone you would be uncomfortable talking about a miscarriage with. However, in practice, I told people well before with both pregnancies. I have such terrible round-the-clock morning sickness that I can't keep it a secret. People see me running for the bathroom and losing weight and they all can guess. It was 6 weeks with the first and about 7 weeks with the second.
Congrats on baby #4!

We told immediate family and close friends right away.... and everybody else when we found out the sex which was 13 weeks.....

I recommend after the first trimester. When I got pregnant for the first time, I went nuts and told EVERYONE...a decision I later regreted for months. I ended up having a miscarriage. Needless to say, it was heartbreaking months later getting asked when I was due. I finally had my adored dd two years ago and waited to tell everyone. Should I have another, no one but me and the daddy will know until week 20 when you get the in depth ultrasound.
Congrats on your pregnancy and prayers to you.

I did not tell anyone except my husband until I hit my 2nd trimester. I swore him to secrecy as well. I even faked some non-pregnant habits. For example, since friends were used to seeing me sipping a wine when they came over on the weekends, I pretended to do so by sipping juice out of a wine glass to avoid suspicion :-) I think my parents/in-laws were a bit thrown off when we finally told them and they asked me my due date and they realized that it was only 6 months away ...but they got over it quick since they were so excited.

Just do whatever you are comfortable with and Congratulations.

Congratulations! It's amazing how similar our situations are! I too am pregnant with #4 and miscarried before #3.

I too wondered if it was a good idea to tell everyone when it was so early in the pregnancy. I finally decided to tell everyone. I would need their support if something were to go wrong. I started with telling our parents and a few close friends. At about 8wks I told everyone else. So far, so good!

I wish you luck and again, congratulations!

With my 4 pregnancies we told people right away. I lost my 1st pregnancy at 18 weeks so really there is so safe point in a pregnancy.

WIth my first we told everyone who would hear as soon as we found out. Same with our second. I got pregnant a third time and we waited to tell people. We told people the day before we were going to be going to Disneyland with a huge group because we knew it was going to be hard to keep it secret when I couldn't go on some thing and such. I was about 8 weeks along. I started spotting 2 days after we announced it and miscarried a couple days later. When I got pregnant a fourth time we told everyone the second we found out again. The 3 children I have are the ones we shouted to the world the minute we found out. The one we lost is the one we waited. I have become a bit superstitious and if I ever become pregnant again we're shouting it from the highest mountain the second we find out again in the hopes I never loose another one.

With my first we waited until after I was 13 weeks. With my second pregnancy...we ended up telling our families sooner. I found out early I was carrying TWINS and was SERIOUSLY ill. We were going to be around familiy for Thanksgiving and figured it was better to tell them I was pregnant then have everyone think I was exposing them to some horrible puking flu.

It's hard when you've gone through a baby loss of any kind. I have a several friends who have lost a baby. Some didn't tell ANYONE until well into their 2cd trimester. Some, chose some very specific people to tell earlier ... and as you said.... because they were a source of support.

This is my personal opinion....but I think not telling anyone at all would be much harder. 1) you have no one to celebrate your joy with and 2) IF you were to end up with another tragic event then you would have no one outside of your husband who would be a support for her.

My best friend's baby died 2 months after she was born last year due to a birth defect. She's now pregnant again. She chose a very small few to share her news with. We have been supporting her, encouraging her, and rejoicing with her through this. She's now told her family.... and even though it's obvious she's pregnant she hasn't really gone public with it yet. Which is fine. She's letting people in as she feels comfortable. I think it's a good way to do it. You NEED people to share your joy ... and they will also be the ones who will offer their shoulder if things fall apart.

Hoping for the best outcome for you!!!

With the first, I told my grandmother on her deathbed, but she couldn't tell anyone, and we told everyone else shortly after only because I was down there for the funeral and we wanted to tell them in person. I had wanted to wait longer. For the second, I think we waited until the first trimester was over. Most people wait because they don't want to have to deal with the, "how is the pregnancy going" questions if something does happen. It sounds like you aren't wanting to avoid that, so it doesn't sound like anything is stopping you. Tell away.

I told my mom and my best friend, when I took the pregnancy test (I was about 6 wks along) and was going to wait to tell everyone else, but my told my aunt who told my uncle and so on and so forth....there are no secretes in my family. my cousin (who is the best friend I told) went through the same thing, wanting to keep it secrete then having every tell everyone else...I told her if she wanted to keep it secrete she should have learned from my mistake lol