What Was Your "Push" Present?

I think a "push present" is the most distasteful thing I've ever heard! Did anyone get their husbands a "prick present" for getting them pregnant? Whatever happened to having the baby being the gift? Geez!

My push present was that both my kids had 10 fingers and 10 toes!! I've never head of such a thing.....................and with the rising cost of diapers, child care and all the clothes they grow out of the first year, I'd save my money towards something more practical!

S.

My child was the push present.

He could always get a vasectomy for himself so she doesn't have to worry about getting pregnant again? :) (I'm just kidding...)

I got a baby. I cant imagine wanting more than that.

Oh great. Another manufactured occasion for gifts. We could use more of those.
Seriously, I though flowers were traditional. I think a WONDERFUL present would be a weekly maid service for about 6 months.

Personally I think they are crazy and unnessary but if he would like to do something nice for his wife to make things easier when she gets home tell him to sign them up for delivered dinners for the first 3 months that way no one has to worry about it while you settle into your new roles as parents of 3.

Like a few other moms, perhaps I'm totally old school, but my son being born alive and healthy was all the present I needed. My husband's constant support during my pregnancy and labor was wonderful, and true to his usual self. Being able to look into his eyes as I labored and his active presence during the birthing was more than I could have ever wanted, and was integral to my having such a great birthing experience.

While the idea of a token of esteem is nice, I personally feel the phrase "push present" just seems devoid of the spiritual aspect of birth, focusing on the material. If I were to put my husband's 'present' in material terms, I'd say his willingness to agree to my spending the last three and a half months of my pregnancy at home was a biggie. I'd been working pretty solidly since I was 16; at 36, this was the longest "me" time I'd ever had. And he put his foot down with his employer and took 3 weeks of vacation time off to be home for the birth and first weeks. THAT was the best thing I could have asked for, support. With three kids, your brother-in-law might consider taking family leave and/or hiring some great caregivers or a doula.

Who thought THIS simple question could cause controversy?! This board is getting kookier by the day.

In both my husband's and my circles (we both had business careers), the custom of a special present given by the husband to honor the new Mom was the norm. Not required...but a really nice thing to do. I've never heard the term "push present" but it's just a silly, cutesy name (and I had a c-section.)

I'm surprised so many Moms here would voice such disgust (and even judgement) about another family's custom.

We're talking about a gift -- not about a child absue issue.
High horses, ladies...time to dismount! :)

Push Present??? WTHeck??? I didn't push, so I guess my "reward" was the 57 uterine sutures, 65 muscular sutures and last but not least...the 17 skin staples! ;) Seriously though, I've never heard of such a thing. I've always thought the baby was the prize at the end of the marathon. Thats how I always looked at it.

EDIT: For what its worth, I wasn't trying to be snarky...hence the ";)" in my comment. I was sliced and diced and thrown back together FOUR times in less than 9 years, so I guess I was/am a bit taken aback by the term of the gift, not so much the idea of the gift. The idea indicates that mom deserves something special for all of the sacrifices entailed with pregnancy and delivery. The name however, indicates that unless you've "pushed" out a baby, you didn't really do anything special. That rubs me the wrong way. Not your fault as the OP, and nothing personal against you, it is just what you know it as. I suppose anyone who has experienced a CSection will understand EXACTLY where I'm coming from, even moreso if one has labored for hours on end only to end up sliced from hip to hip.

He should take care of cooking and cleaning (and not drop his clothes on the floor) for at least six months.

I'm not sure of the ettiquette of the push present, is it given before or after the work is done? If it is given before and the wife doesn't like it does she just refuse to push until a suitable gift is given? jk

UPDATE: I think the reason many women are annoyed by the "push present" is because they recognize that this is an idea created by the jewely business to increase their sales. Just as the idea of 3 months salary for an engagement ring was created and became accepted, it would appear that receiving a gift "just because" is much nicer than getting a gift because of grown up peer pressure (which is what advertising amounts to).

I got a baby and got to watch my gorgeous husband turn into an amazing father.

The baby was my push present!

First child -- Jewelry!!!
Second child (14 months later) -- too tired, exhausted and broke to even care about a gift.

Never heard of it.

We've been married 22 yrs, have a 16 yr old daughter. My "present" was enjoying and being thankful for my healthy baby.

I never dreamed of asking my hubby for a "push" present.

He is the most generous of most husbands I've ever heard of that when i told him of this he also thought absurd. Be thankful for a healthy child.

Diamonds and cars are later down the road.

My kids are 7, 5, & 2....and I didn't get any "push" presents.

~Well hubby did sneak home with the first one and cleaned up the house and got everything ready for our arrival? Maybe that was mine? :)

Nice to see the mommy wars are in full swing today. My husband bought me a beautiful pair of diamond earrings. They aren't super expensive just a nice reminder of our beautiful baby girl. He plans on buying her a matching pair for her wedding day. I don't know how you could find that distasteful.

We didnt do gifts. Didnt think it was necessary. We were happy with our healthy babies.

So many mean, bitter mamas out there :(

I'm not a huge fan of the name but what could possibly be wrong with a husband wanting to get his wife something nice as a memory of the whole pregnancy/birth experience? For our first daughter, my husband got me a beautiful silver heart shaped locket that I wore with a picture of my baby on one side and my husband on the other side. For our second daughter, he got me another silver necklace with a charm on it. And anybody who thinks I love my jewelry more than my wonderful children is an idiot.

I never got a push present.
Didn't know they did those things.

Tell her Husband, that www.etsy.com has great "Mommy jewelry." Things like pendants/chains with the kids names on it etc.

But for me, an ideal push present would be... that the Husband... is right there at the front-lines.... (not just at birth), but everyday, helping with the kids.... FOR the Wife.

all the best,
Susan

Can HER husband call MY husband and tell him of the existence of such a thing as a "push" present? He's at least 8 years overdue on giving me mine...

I can't believe so many women are repulsed by the term 'push' present. I mean, really? So what if you gave birth by C-section. Maybe it would be less offensive to be called a 'Get sliced open' present? Get over it!!!! Everyone is missing the point!!!!!

The point is this woman's husband wants to give his wife a gift to celebrate the life they created together-come push, slice or dice- and I think that is awesome! I also think that some women, deep down, are jealous that their husbands didn't think of it, or maybe they couldn't afford it (and that's okay-it's the thought that counts), and didn't get anything.

If he can afford to celebrate this new bundle of joy and wants to give his wife something to symbolize that- GO FOR IT! I wish we could have afforded it!

The first time I ever heard the term "push" present was a couple of years ago. I remember finding the phrase pretty distasteful at the time. I still do. Of course, my kids are older, so I guess I'm just showing my age. I never expected to receive a gift for successfully delivering my children - the idea just seems foreign to me. Maybe if I knew there was a big prize waiting for me, like diamond earrings or something, I would have had more than 2 children (JK). Times have certainly changed!

I guess my husband is lame and stupid, because he gave me a "push" present with boy of my children. oh, and I had c-sections with both. hmmm. its a shame how people can just be so nasty some times. My husband took great joy in giving me those gifts. He went to a jewler and designed a necklace with the jewler both times. With my second baby, my husband had our older child bring the gift into the hospital room and hand it to me. it was really cute and sentimental. What is wrong with a husband being thoughtful? Y'all are all bashing a man for being nice to his wife???? I don't understand that. Of course the baby is the MOST important thing and its what is goign to bring you the most joy. But you ladies are actually sitting here and saying its tacky or lame or stupid for a husband to do something nice for his wife? Wow.

People are so funny! Ok, so the term "push present" is a little silly, but YES guys are getting into this now and I'M ALL FOR IT! Basically what the writer is asking is for assistance in helping her brother in law do something nice for her sister. Would people be balking if this was a question to honor someone's birthday or christmas?!? I don't think so.

Jewlery of course - so many wonderful sentimental options available now as mentioned below. I instantly thought of pendants with 3 circles or stacking/eternity bands. My favorite "mommy jewelry" site is www.thevintagepearl.com if you want to go more literal/specific with names or whatever.

Of course there is housekeeping services, spa. My hospital (Evanston) offered a "dinner for 2" one night after baby's birth. They included the husband and it was more of a "plated" dinner - like fancy room service. It was such a treat to sit up at a table and enjoy some "real" food, with just my husband (and baby was in room too, of course), and t was great to do this before baby was home and everything got crazy with the 2 kids. If her hospital does not offer this, maybe he could stage it with some super fancy food he could bring in for the evening (while you or someone is back at their house watching the younger kids)

Fantastic/fashionable handbag (could be for diapers or not....actually my vote would be not :) but a good-quality luxe item she'll have forever.

Finally, how about photography services? Some places do in-hospital room w/whole family (i think the company is called bella something or other...) or, my friend has a wonderful photography business - she's in glen ellyn and can travel whereever. she does amazing work! she loves to do newborns just a few days after being home. see www.bridgetsternphotography.com.
she gives you a cd with full printing rights (and she's fast too), perfect way to capture a newly "completed" family! i treasure the photos she took at our newborn session!!

Um, the baby?

Totally not bitter, just think the whole idea is stupid. No offense intended to those who participate.

Note to self: remember to tell soon to be hubs that if I get pregnant (as we're hoping), not to bother with a *push present* (not that he'd have a freaking clue what that was)... save the money for something practical...

Sorry, I know you asked for suggestions, but I don't have any. Felt compelled to post anyhow.

I didn't get a push present when I had my son, but I don't deny a momma getting one as long as it is appreciated and NOT expected. I had a very wealthy client, when she had her 1st child she got a push present of a canary square cut 5K ring. Then she had twins and hubs gave her a $75,000 diamond rolex watch and she was pissed becasue she felt with twins it should have been double the price , the $150,000 Rolex. When she said it to me I nearly feel off my chair. I think it's a beautiful gesture of her hubs or anyone who wants to do it.

not sure how much he wants to spend, but what about a pandora charm bracelet. You can make it a personal gift with all the kids initials, they have baby charms and all sorts of other cute charms. And you can add onto it as time goes by. I started mine with about 4 charms and am up to about 10 now. You can get a bracelet with a few charms for like $200 or so. I love mine.

I have never heard of this but I did get some pretty amazing gifts after my sons were born. My first was born the day before my birthday and my husband brought flowers and my best friend and my mother got me my favorite cake and champagne. My second was born the day before Valentine's day and my poor husband tried to call my favorite florist and order flowers....they thought he was nuts trying to call on Valentine's Day to order flowers, but then he explained why and they created a beautiful bouquet for me. Here is the real present I got from him: Helping me try to breast feed my first born who had jaundice. He got up with me while I nursed and then pumped and he washed everything. With my second, who had very bad colic, he got up, without complaining and dealt with a screaming new born when I just could not do it. Then, he wore a sling and carried that colicky little baby while working from home because that was the only thing that stopped the crying. I could not wear the sling because the baby just did not like the way I carried him in it. My husband did that while working from home (I am talking 8 hour days on the computer while wearing the baby in the sling so that he would sleep) for about 12 weeks. That was a huge, huge gift.

I think gifts of all kinds are great and would never judge other folks. Jewelry is wonderful, but I will never, ever forget what my husband did for me in those early days with our babies.

I've never heard it called a "push" present, but that is really cute! It made me smile. Anyway, my husband bought me a beautiful gold charm necklace w/ the mother/child together...but it wasn't for having his baby and he only did it w/ our 1st....it was because I asked for one...for becoming a mother for the 1st time. I love it...and for those who think it's "stupid", well, to each his own. Everyone does things differently and if this family has the ability to buy a lil extra gift, and they are sentimental, then they should! My parents are sentimental in that my mom loves to get flowers...I think flowers are kind of a waste of money, but it sure is a nice gesture when I get them! :) Your bro-in-law will find something...congrats on your new niece or nephew!

This is as stupid of an idea as they come! Really?! Give me a break. Totally lame.

Diamonds, necklaces, sapphires! Wish list - were there push presents when I was having children? Smiles!

Dawn

I did not get anything... but one of my friends got a ring with the birth stone of the baby's month. I liked that a lot but it was too late for me because I already had a child by then, so I told my son when he was old enough that he will buy me a jewelry with his birth stone when he is grown up, acomplished man, and feels like he wants to thank me for raising him. And he remembers that (he owes me a garnet) and tells his little brother that he owes me a diamond :))))
I hope the day will come and I will get my "push presents" from my boys :)

Hi M. P.,

I love the idea of giving a gift to someone who has worked so hard throughout pregnancy & then endures labor & delivery. I didn't expect a gift, but my hubby gave me a pair of small, 1/4 carat diamond earrings. What touched me even more, though, was his gift to our son. He had gone out of his way to buy our little boy his first Bible, and also gave our little guy his own beloved set of books, Chronicles of Narnia. Those two gifts meant so much to me, that he would put so much thought and care into giving something so special to our son on his "birth" day.

Best of luck to your sister, and ignore all the naysayers!

T.

Could someone tell my boyfriend about this idea? lol I think I would be happy enough with just not being pregnant anymore and having my baby in my arms :)

But, I would say you can never go wrong with jewelry. Maybe he could find something with the baby's potential birthstone in it (if she's not like me and do at the end of one month/beginning of another). I don't know though . . .

My husband got me a new camera, it was a Cannon Rebel Ti, lol, it was unexpected but he knew it was something I had been wanting so he saved up and got it for me.

I love the necklace idea, with the birthstone of the new baby in it.

I think all the women who bashed this question are rude! If you don't like the question, don't answer. You all know the saying, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all". Everyone knows that the ultimate gift is a healthy child, but if your spouse wants to buy you a gift as a thank you for carrying and delivering your child, there is nothing wrong with it. The fact that you don't like the name "push present" doesn't mean that it's not just a genuine thank you.

That said, my husband bought me a chain and a charm from our local jeweler. Since we didn't know what we were having before the birth, we went together to pick out a little girl charm a couple of months after my daughter was born. But, I think anything from a simple gift certificate for a mani, pedi, or other spa treatment would be nice. Jewelry is always good, even a lovely bouquet of flowers would be nice.

I didn't read answers yet, but someone probably already said this, but I think a watch is a nice gift. It's sentimental and practical (especially for a busy mom).

OK, I'm editing my answer because I just read the responses. So sorry so many mamas have to be so rude. If they don't want a push present that's fine and that's there business. My husband and I didn't do gifts because of financial constraints, but I think it's a lovely custom. I even had a gift picked out that I would have given my husband if we could have afforded it. Obviously the baby is the true reward, but a strong marriage will allow for each partner to honor and respect the other, and sometimes a gift is one way of showing that. We give gifts for most major accomplishments in life, and having a baby is about the biggest accomplishment you can have, so why not then? People are so crazy!

WOW! That's all I can say, WOW....some people are SOOO STINKIN' NEGATIVE!
Tell your brother in law that anything he puts thought into will be treasured by your sister. Also let him know I'm proud of him for being so loving toward his wife and recognizing the hard work she's put in this past year!

You give a gift because you want to not as a reward.I think the name is awful! It seems that nowadays the people need to be rewarded for everything that they do! I'm sorry but I agree with the majority. Be thankful for having a beautiful healthy child, much more lasting than any material object!
If he wants to do something to help her then take more time off work after the baby comes. Paternity leave in the US sucks, in Europe it is 2-3 weeks. It sure helps to have that hubby around in the early weeks. Arrange for a cleaner to come regularly, that was the biggest help for me after having my 3rd.

My hubby always just gets me flowers and a necklace with my daughters birth stone in it. Pretty sweet if you ask me. A good way to celebrate the birth of a new baby.

I would have LOVED something for carrying all 3 of my babies for 9 months each and the first two were tough pregnanices. The last we knew was the last so it would have been GREAT. We were tight financially then and it was not an option, but I think it would have been GREAT. I'm not sure what gift would be good though....

I never heard of this until my SIL (my husband's brother's wife) told us about it when I was pregnant with my first. GOD LOVE HER!! lol Do I or did I expect anything for having our baby...no. But, let's face it, it's nice to have a present that reminds you of that special occasion. My husband picked out a beautiful ring that he gave me in the hospital the day she was born. Let me tell you ....I felt I deserved it ...and more!!! LOL A little back track... she was born in March, the December before (I was 6 months pregnant AND it was our first Christmas as a married couple) husband thought it would be a good idea to get me wooden steps (they matched the bed) so I could get up in to our sleigh bed!!!! Oh and I got a pizza cutter!!! UGH! Regardless, the ring was beautiful and every time I wear it people tell me how nice it is and I tell them that my husband gave it to me after the birth of our first daughter. Our second daughter ...diamond earrings. They aren't big, nothing over the top. Every time I wear them, I think about the reason that I have them. We did not know what we were having with either daughter so jewelry was perfect for me. So bottom line...it's nice to have something that reminds you of the event. We all have material things from our past that reminds us of an event, why shouldn't we have a gift from something as big as the birth of a baby. I think no matter what he picks, she will always remember why he gave it to her and it will always bring a smile to her face......just tell him not to get her stairs for her bed!!! lol

LOL Mamapedia posters--such pomp and circumstance! I personally didn't expect a push present for the simple reason that I don't expect or even want birthday gifts, holiday gifts or anniversary gifts anymore and neither does my husband expect or want them from me.

For those who find it so offensive--lighten up and realize everyone's circumstances and beliefs are different. Willing to bet those husbands that give great "push" presents also do well at other gift giving moments. Those who don't are great at giving gifts. Some of the offended may think it is silly to waste money on it because they cannot financially afford it. That doesn't mean others can't do it. No need to be bitter if someone has more money than you!
The name is a little offensive and ironic in an age where 30% of women have C-sections some necessary and many not necessary (don't get me started on that phenomenon)

Grrr- I wish everyone could be a little less judgmental on this site about a variety of issues including FF vs. BF, diapering, CIO vs. attachment. It is not your way or the highway for everything and you would think that everyone had the only answer to child related problems! I'd want a massage or spa certificate personally and help around the house while I airdried my bleeding nipples personally!

I would have loved to get a "push" present. But really the best gift ever was to hold and love my precious newborn with my husband right by my side. To all the ladies who have recieved them--- feel lucky! Every marriage is different and the way the relationship works is too. I am lucky to have a supportive hubby who let me have my process during labor and delivery....

M

It's unfortunate that so many are so negative about the giving the new mom a gift. It's hard for me to understand. My husband has gotten me gifts after the births of each of our 3 children. He has done it for several reasons:
1) to thank me for giving him a child
2) to acknowledge all of my hard work and sacrifice over the previous 9 months
3) to honor me as the mother of his children
4) to make me feel appreciated
After the birth of my first child he gave me a 3 stone diamond ring he affectionately calls the "baby makes 3" ring. Each diamond was respresentative of one of us. For my second child he gave me a beautiful cross pendant necklace and after my 3rd I received another diamond cross pendant necklace. Never did I ask for or expect a gift, and the true gift was having the beautiful new baby in my arms as symbol of our love for each other. But I can tell you that having the gift from my husband always makes me feel even more loved and cherished. Our children will inherit the jewelry given to me to commemorate their birth.

I would suggest asking the women in her life, mother, sister, etc. for good ideas. This would also earn him points with his MIL, if that's something he strives for.
When I first heard about "push" presents, I thought it was another horrible exaggerated holiday developed by the diamond industry. Then I hit the 3rd trimester with all the heartburn and leg pain and decided I deserved a push present. I had just fallen in love with the show Friday Night Nights on NBC. I asked him for all three seasons on DVD and watched while I was breast feeding. For the next kid, I'm thinking about The Wire, but I'm guessing I should watch with earphones.

First of all I am sorry so many people have left such rude responses! Not everyone partakes in this "gift" but that doesn't mean they should criticize anyone for asking for ideas! Wow.
Of course a healthy baby is a true gift! It's amazing each time a baby is born. Recognizing the mom is a lovely.
It doesn't have to be expensive. Sentimental is best! I've seen really cute
inexpensive necklaces engraved (stamped) with the husband and all children's names. Meals are great but that doesn't last.
Congrats to your sister and her family on the impending arrival! You're a great aunt/sister for helping!

I can't believe how many hateful responses you got! Wowee is this board judgemental. Holy cow.

Anyway, I'm about to have my 3rd child any day now, and I have to admit I would LOVE a push present (although I doubt it will happen since it didn't with my first 2!). It has been a long, hard pregnancy, and it would be so nice to have a special little something from my husband to show that he appreciated the sacrifice of carrying a baby for 9 months, and birthing her. Of course the baby is the most precious gift in the WORLD, but a thoughtful gesture from a husband is icing on the cake. In fact, how can I hint to my hubby that I want one lol?

That being said, I think professional house cleaning services would be AMAZING. I would also love a mani/pedi gift card, or a cute little sweat suit to wear home from the hospital that is comfy. I'm not really one for jewelry, and I wouldn't want my husband to spend a whole bunch of money, so that's kind of out for me.

How sweet of you to help him out with ideas. Your sister is a lucky lady :)

K

I hate the name, I like the idea of a gift - but the best gift a husband can give a mom after the birth of a child is to either help with the care of the child or of the home or of himself so the new mom can get some freaking SLEEP! So if daddy wants to give her something, a gift certificate for Downtime would be great.

I didn't get a push present, but a friend (who loves to sew) got a new surger from her husband for "damages and time served".

I didn't read all the responses but I was kind of blown away by all the negativity in some of the ones I did see. I had a c-section (so I didn't "push") but was in labor prior for 27 hours with no medication to speak of. My hubby gave me beautiful memento bracelet with my daughter's birthstone and a heart engraved with "we love you mommy" and her birthdate - it was so special to me and I wear it everyday. Every time I look at it it reminds me of my beautiful baby and my gorgeous family. Some people need to lighten up!

Conceiving, 3 healthy pregnancies,delivering 3 healthy babies naturally having a loving husband who took me to the hospital stayed by my side till the end took care of the house work before mom & baby come home being there all day lending a helping hand making sure I was comfy well feed showered & rested...
Why would someone get a push present other than baby is it given after pushing the baby comes out then the present is presented that is kinda rude all eyes should be on baby making sure baby has all 10 fingers & toes breathing & is healthy not on some piece of jewerly..Just my view I never thought about getting a push present sicne I can get whatever I want when I want...As a sentimental gift a mothers ring,necklace,a wall collage for all the babies pictures I wouldn't want it presented to me till after I was settled in after having baby or at home.

what a sweet man. lucky girl! i have heard of it but uh..yeah. never got one. my husband isn't the "thoughtful" type. congrats to sis!

sorry if people got snippy with you. what a dumb thing to get a nose out of joint about. now i am off to read what they said :) have a great day!

hahaha... okay i read some. wow. i think it would be wonderful for a dad to show some appreciation for all the hard work his wife went through to bring their child into the world. what on earth is wrong with that???? seriously, like someone said, some awfully bitter mothers out there. i like the one that says she wants 5 kids and a house so she didn't want money spent on a gift. that speaks volumes. my husband could have spent a dollar or two on a sweet thank you card and i would have bawled like a baby, and saved it for the rest of my life. lol! get a clue, ladies!

My husband got me a beautiful necklace when I delivered our daughter last February. It was two hearts together to represent both of our children. It is very special to me.

A push present. A push present. Here’s an idea, I will give my beloved a baby and watch him as he holds our bundle of joy. I will ask for nothing in return. Then, I will get him his turkey sandwhich for dinner after I launder his suit pants.

What, no flower?

I think you should call it something else. Not everyone has a vaginal delivery. While I did not push my child out I still received a very nice girft from my husband that was also my christmas, anniversary, and birthday gift for the next year. It was more of an all-in-one gift. I was a bit surprised at the responses to this question. Surprised that people were offended a woman was getting a gift for giving birth. It's hard work regardless of how you deliver. If my husband had done it I would have gotten him a present too. And yes the greatest gift of all is a healthy happy baby, but not all of us get that either.

i was so sad that i didn't get one. so my husband bought earings in my childs birth stone. the next was also jewelry related : )

My first was a diamond journey necklace that we will present to our daughter at the right time. (I am thinking wedding or something...)

My second was a set of Teddy Bears from Steiff that came in a little collectors tin since now we had "two". I collect bears and I just loved them!

Now, I am anxiously awaiting the arrival of the third and I was thinking of turning the tables on him and getting him a gift. I just haven't figured out what yet... Hmmm, sounds like a new post!

The ideas in the "So What Happened" are great and very beautiful! I love the letter idea - no one ever writes down their feelings any more.

Thanks for the post.
~C.

I'm due next week and had asked my DH to get me a Wink Belly Blaster to help get my belly/body back fast. My mom's coworker and her sisters swear by them. http://www.winkbellybands.com/shop/post-pregnancy/belly-b...

I know, I know! I'm a bad girl for asking for a push present AND asking for a specific present. But we don't have a lot of money and I wouldn't feel right buying it for myself. In the end, I actually told him not to buy it because I found a good "sucker" compression garment in my closet that I had used under my wedding dress. Anyway, I don't know if you sis would take it the wrong way if he bought her one, but I think they'd be a great present for any new M..

For my first I got a diamond eternity band to replace my plain one for my wedding set, although now I wear them both. For the 2nd, I knew it wouldn't be quite so extravagant, and I REALLY wanted a double BOB with a baby seat adapter that cost almost $700, so he got it and put it together -but that was basically the present!

The person recommending Etsy.com for mom jewelry is right! They have gorgeous things and I have several pieces of mom jewelry given to me from there that I love. It really depends on their finances. If they can afford it, most women are not going to hate lovely diamond or pearl earrings or a diamond band or their favorite gemstone set in a necklace or ring. If that's out of the price range, do check out etsy!

Oh my! You've sure gotten some 'colourful' answers. lol

My first came a month early, so no materialistic gift for me (hint of sarcasm here). I did get my husband a gift for taking such good care of me during my pregnacy though. He collects swords, so I bought him one around month 7 when my cravings were in full swing!

My second came the week before mother's day, so I got a beautiful pink sapphire ring with 2 hearts, symbolizing my 2 girls.

For my third, and our last, he got me a new ipod - for listening to music while on the treadmill working off the baby weight :) Something I *asked* for.

I shake my head at those women that accuse other mothers of placing more value on a gift than their new babies - shame on you for being so petty.

I didn't get a gift at my wedding from hubby, so I knew I wouldn't get one for pushing 2 kids out...
I love my hubby and he is great in many ways, but so not in this area {sigh}
What a wonderful idea however!

Perhaps something that has all the kiddos birth stones on it??

Ummm---mine were my kids. I want 5 and we were saving for a house-- so no extra presents for me. My husband did buy me a gift certificate for our anniversary or birthday (1 mo after baby #1; 2 mos after baby #2) to go get a spa treatment and watched the kid/kids....so that was nice :) Most of the men I work with buy JEWELRY!

I think the whole idea is pretty lame and stupid. Kind of reminds me of women on welfare having more babies to get a bigger check from the government.

That said, I would consider something like a massage or manicure that the mom could use when she needs to de-stress.

Oh, and Allison - I love your answer!

WOW! I had no idea there was such a thing as "push present". Mother's Day was only about 3 weeks after our first was born and he did buy me and Mother/Son necklace that I will forever treasure!!
It does seem like a nice gesture. Your BIL sounds like a very sweet man and has chosen some very nice gifts!

I like the rings or necklaces with birthstones of all her children.

My friend's push present was a really nice Nikon camera...like the ones that cost $1000.

I love the idea...

I got roses for both of mine, but jewelry is great if finances allow.

You mean my C-section delivery present (LOL)?

Dear hubby didn't get me a gift (totally okay, did not expect one) but my mother did because I felt so crummy and depressed post-partum. She gave me a chalcedony ring and said, "I know that beauty is supposed to come from the inside but sometimes our outsides need a little help, too." DH and I aren't able to have another baby, so the ring is all the more appreciated. So, go with some trinket or keepsake, especially if this is the last baby.

Most push presents are jewelry from what I've seen. I didn't get one.

Wow whatever happened to ''If your not going to say anything nice don't say it at all''? So MANY haters on here! Anyway doll, I'm currently 31 weeks pregnant and I love the idea of a push present. We do endure alot during these 9 months it would be nice to receive a token of appreciation and affection:) I would LOVE some nice jewlery! I like the idea of diamond stud earrings. They are truly timeless and classic!

With my first all I got was some flowers from the gift shop! It was an appointment that turned into an unplanned c-section. With my second I got nothing, geesh.

I'm going to go along with the mothers ring or necklace idea, you can order some really nice ones from Jewlers.

Wow, there is some interesting answers! I went through 5 hours of quick hard labor with no medications or epidural. My husband didn't even get me a card or flowers. I had gotten him a Willow tree angel that said new dad and a nice new father card. I had these in advance. I was a little disappointed becuase I am not sure of a "push" present, but a card and flowers or a little special something would have been thoughtful as a new mom!

Wow! Are you tired of responses to your question yet? I hope not 'cause here's another.

First, I've never heard it called a "push" present. But that's super-cute.
Second, as a first-time mom who was full-steam-ahead ready for my new life of living, doing, and being for someone else, it was really nice to get a gift from my husband. He bought me a charm necklace. My new life is a full-time mom that I wouldn't give up for anything (God bless my husband). This means there's no money for things other than bills, gas, food, and diapers. And we could both care less.
Third, it's not the cost of the gift, it's the thought. Many women don't like jewelry. I have a friend who hates to get flowers because "they just die anyway." Your brother-in-law seems to be great at gift-giving. Besides, a husband that listens may be the greatest gift of all!

Take care!

How sweet and thoughtful! Ignore all the haters!! haha

My husband didn't get me a push gift, but for my first mother's day he gave me a plain wedding band (mine has diamonds on it). After caring for the baby for a few months I noticed that my band would catch on fabric, scratch the baby, and just get dirty so I stopped wearing it! I asked for a plain band that I could wear since diamonds and desitin don't mix haha.

Congrats to you and your family on the new addition!!

Didn't get any "push" present for any of the four babies. :(

LOL - My hubby said the baby was enough. Lucky sister you have!!

I would love a cleaning service or a massage! It doesn't have to be something "material" either. He could clean or cook for her, etc. I'd love it if my hubby just didn't drop his clothes on the floor or leave hair from shaving his face in the sink for a few months!

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I've never heard of a "push present". But after our 2nd was born my husband did surprise me with a gift. He said it was a thank you gift for giving birth to our beautiful daughter. It was a gift certificate to a clothes catalog I always drool over. :) It was very fun picking something out. I thought it was sweet of him - he really surprised me.

This must be something fairly new. I had my son 12 years ago and I never heard of a 'push' present before.
After 4 years of trying to conceive we had a fairly perfect pregnancy. By the time the 9 months was up, I was just glad to hold my child in my arms (and finally get my bladder and kidneys back for my own personal use again).
How about a happy family charm (2 parents with 3 kids)?
http://www.lifetimemothers.com/prodinfo.asp?number=317331

My husband bought me diamond earrings for the birth of our son. When we had our daughters, he got me a ring with all of our kids' birthstones in it separated by diamonds (so it was 5 stones - one for each person in our family). I wear it everyday and it just reminds me of the beautiful children we brought into this world together. It's just a sweet gesture - don't let anyone tell you otherwise.