My dad is very sick with lung cancer and we are not sure how much longer we have with him. Fathers Day is just about here and we know that this could be our last one with him. Buying gifts for him right now just does not seem important- we have so much else to concentrate on with him. I know spending that day with him would mean much more than anything we could buy him. So, my question is...Is this enough? What would you do? My initial thought was a card and maybe bring him dinner, but right now he barely eats- nothing sounds good. I want to do something nice but he is unable to do anything or leave the house. My brother lives out of town so comes when he can. But my dad has not seen his 3 kids all together in a long time. Maybe I could get the 3 of us together and spend the afternoon with him? Any ideas moms? This is a very hard time right now and I want it to be the best that it can.
I think you are on the right track with giving him the gift of your time. It would be totally awesome if all 3 of you could be there together. I am sure that would mean more than any gift. I know this must be a difficult time for your family. You didn't say but is he receiving hospice care? If so Hospice can help with ideas as well. I have prayed for your strength and peace for your father.
C.
Certainly being there is enough! If you could get all your siblings together that would be awesome.
A little token will be alright though. Something to distract him for a moment. Something that might put a smile on his face. Does he have a sports team he loves? Can you get him a special baseball cap or T-shirt? Something inexpensive but that he loves. He might enjoy something like that.
I know how hard lung cancer is. My thoughts are with you and your family M.. You are a thoughtful daughter.
M.,
That sounds like the best gift ever, talk with your siblings and do get together on father's day. Maybe do a pot luck, everyone can bring something, think of what was his favorite when you were growing up.
God Bless
When my grandparents were in the nursing home I sent 8x10 pictures of my son. It gave them something to look at and wasn't expensive. When they were both gone my mom took the pictures.
If you really want to give him something then why a picture, then spend the day with him.
Hello M.,
Sorry to hear about your dad. Besides spending time with him (all 3 kids) also get him a digital photo frame and upload pictures of the last 40-50 years. that is something he can look at. and about him not eating much... still make some of his favorite food and maybe he'll have a bite or two. try and comfort him as much as possible. a good foot massage is always welcomed. if $ is not an issue, new soft bedsheets (high thread count...not slippery) Good luck and wish you the best with your father. ~C.~
Hi M.,
I recommend writing him a letter from the heart with detail about some good memories you have growing up. I recommend writing a long letter with lots of "thank you's" written in it to him. For example: "If I never told you.....thank you for working hard while I was growing up and providing everything I needed. Food, clothes, home, love, etc." I recommend reading the letter out load to him. Maybe ask your siblings to write a personal letter too. Just an idea.
Get together with your siblings and father and watch family videos, go through photo albums. Reminisce about family vacations, pets, whatever, talk about the good times and thank your father for being your daddy.
