K.S.
My daughter was born 3 days before Thanksgiving & we went home the day before. As time got closer, I made it very clear that I was not cooking dinner. We didn't have the full meal like I would have fixed, but DH did a great job. The whole family (both sides) were completely understanding. Just lay down the law. If people don't understand, too bad. And, if people do come over, don't feel obligated. You just had a baby, you're not up for entertaining. Don't feel like you have to.