I got thinking back to almost 2 years ago when I miscarried at 5 months. I asked a question asking if anyone had gone through that type of situation. I received the most wonderful responses and sympathies...from random strangers. I often go back and look at those responses and it fills me up when I feel a twinge of sadness at that loss.
I recently read a response to someone else's question regarding feeling uncomfortable in a swimsut. I still laugh when I think of the response ..she said as long as you aren't wearing socks with Birkenstocks then you are fine. Very witty...very true!!
Sooo, what do you hold dear as a favorite piece of advice or encouragement. Any particular response standout to you?
Thank you all for sharing a little piece of yourself with me.
Mom LK and Toni S (hey old timers...I miss you!) both helped me through the dark chapter(s) of my life known as colic. They were strangers at the time, yet spoke to me with such caring and confidence that made me feel like A) I was not alone and B) this too would pass.
Miss you girls :D
1.) to schedule breaks to avoid burnout (single mom here)
2.) to brush teeth at the same time as my kid to get him to do it
3.) a swat on the legs/butt won't hurt when he's wiggly/writhing all over the place during diaper change (one of the grandmas told me that one)
4.) i should do the best i can to foster a relationship w/his sorry a** dad
5.) marriage has lots of yucky in it, just like singledom does (not a fairytale is what i mean!)
6.) how to get rid of gnats
7.) lots of referrals - flylady.com, meetup.com, & cool articles they cut/paste
GEEZ...obviously a LOT! and that's only to name the ones i can specifically remember doing, but i'm sure there's a lot i thought about just didn't follow through with but keep in my "mommy rolodex". love this site most of the time...hate it when i'm harshly judged (downside to everything, right?) but mostly love it here & would need *classes* to help detox fr it if it every went away! :)
So, many:) and when I need encouragement...I will go back and re read some of my questions/and answers..:)
I have found great people on here that are very supportive and always willing to help..not matter how silly the topic:)
It is ok to disagree.... everyone has an opinion. Hear what they have to say and learn something out of it. :)
There are so many, but from this site I learned what Singulair was doing to my son and he has been much better lately, thanks to the ladies on here who clued me in.
I tell my hubby and kids about you ladies all the time, we try recipes, I say the mamas say to do it this way with all sorts of every day things. I love the "my kid said......" posts.
I pray my responses help someone out there.
How to forgive! The answers were to someone else's post, but I read each wise answer. The most helpful for me was: "The definition of forgiveness: To give up ALL HOPE for a better past." Not condoning, accepting, forgetting, repeating, or in any other way saying "it's okay". Just not living in the past. I have shared this with so many others. Amazingly true. Peace.
When my husband first got laid off. (We're on time 2 right now) Being the stay at home mom, I was terrified. What would we do? Would we lose our house? Just the fear of the unknown. What was going to happen down the line. It was very scary.
Lisa C from Dayton replied. Her words were comforting and reassuring and also informational. She gave me ideas of how to get the help our family needed. Also how to step back and not look at things so close. I remember quite well sleeping much better that night. It was her words that kinda shifted me into 'get it done' mommy mode. As opposed to 'woe is me' mode.
I don't see her any more on this site. There is another with her name, but it's not the same woman. I do miss her wisdom. I even asked her to be my life coach. If we had ANY disposable income, I'd pay her for it.
So, not really a mom related bit of advice. But definitely one that I needed at that time!
i love all the answers i get when i post a question. my husband and i will have a question, and we say, let's ask the mamas!
I'm a man. Some women resent a man being on a "woman's" site. When it came up in a question it was phrased very hurtfully. I felt really bad. I didn't answer or try to defend myself until I received several messages in support and encouraged to write a defense.
I wrote a defense and I received over 50 flowers and private messages of support stating that I was welcome on mamapedia and that my advice was valued and appreciated. Some ladies said bad things about those that critized me and noted that they were very much in the minority.
I went from feeling like I was down a deep well to feeling vindicated and high on cloud nine.
Thanks for asking. Good luck to you and yours.
