J.G.
What your daughter is expressing is tension, apprehension, insecurity, abandonment and more as a result of you and your husband arguing in front of her and his refusal to play with her. You and husband have no business arguing in front of her. Do you think for one moment that she does not pick up on the energy, the 'vibes' that you two emit? CHILDREN NOTICE EVERYTHING. THEY ABSORB EVERYTHING. She cannot handle the tension you all are creating in the home. If you and your husband cannot discuss your differences sanely in front of her so she can see how problems can be solved sanely, then you need counseling. You must cease and desist from arguing in front of her ever again. Your husband's refusal to play with her is a childish/adolescent response and damaging to your child's sense of security and love no matter what. It is not your child's fault that you argue. Yet he is taking it out on her. He needs to check himself out; his response is a serious issue.