My boyfriend and I have been fighting a lot lately, and its this repetative cycle where he will stay out drinking and come home as it suits him, and then I get mad at him and kick him out and then we make up. I am not sure what is going to happen with us and if our relationship is worth resussitating, but I do know that our daughter has picked up on it, and its starting to affect her. I think that the smartest thing to do for our daugher and I would be to get something put in writing of his financial responsibilities. I feel that it will save us both a lot of screaming and arguing. What is a fair amount to ask for. He makes over 3x what I do. Not sure where our relationship stands, and I am hoping that this is just a rough patch, but I also want to make sure out daughter is taken care of.
Here's a child support calculator for CT:
http://www.alllaw.com/calculators/childsupport/connecticut/
I was going to say you can go online and find a child support calculator. You can find one specific to your state but the one Denise linked to is a good start, actually she pulled the one for your state, win win.
Well, you didn't ask, but my first comment is why are you wasting your life being unhappy with someone who clearly doesn't care about you?
Now, to answer your question, google "child support calculator CT". There is probably one online that you fill out and it will tell you what amount is DUE, not "fair". Even if its $20 per month, your boyfriend will think its too much. Do not allow him to pay less than what he owes. And while you're at it, get a visitation schedule in place too thru the courts. You can find out what to file at your local county courthouse and its only a few bucks to pay for it. Good luck.
It's impossible to answer this question as you do not supply any information. What are the costs for the child each month? Does he make $2,000 a month or $8,000 a month?
You could try searching online for child support calculators.
Yes, it's extremely important to get everything in writing. Make sure it's a legal document, it should be signed by both of you in front of a notary public.
Better yet, contact an attorney and have this settled by the court.
You don't ask for a certain amount of child support. You petition the court for child support and the judge determines how much. Usually it is a certain percentage of the person's income. You will also want to file for custody. Good luck.
The court has a formula that they use to figure child support. Look up what it is for your state.
1st thing is find out what the law requires in your state. For instance, in CT, its considered a "share state" in which both parents share the financial responsibilities of the child. Then once you consider that, you must also consider that (again depending on the state) what is the minimum the non-custodial parent can be left with on a weekly basis. You should also factor in such costs, like uniforms for school, activities, daycare, out-of-pocket medical expenses; and either put this in your figures or leave it on the side. Now, if you decide these should be additional expenses on the side, you should agree to somewhere between 50%-75% on the split for those expenses on a monthly basis (this would be in addition to your regular child support). Finally, once you have come to a decision on what the weekly support will be and whether or not the additional expenses are included in that cost or kept monthly; you should draw up some type of documents, with this broken out, and how long this will be for, as well as when you would like to revisit the financial situation again (ie you guys getting back together, change in financial situations or even adding or deleting expenses). Once you have both signed it, get it notorized and submit it to the courts...if you don't want to submit it to the courts for record, make sure you both have copies and keep it somewhere safe until you need to go to court for further actions (if that is the case).
Hope this was helpful!
Good luck,
O.
As far as I know. Its not what you ask for, its based on his salary. The judge will decide that.
You need legal advice, contact a lawyer. You should also be able to get a child support calculator from your state courts website. Just call the court house information number if you can not find the site.
You don't get to choose, the judge awards child support based on income and the situation. You can go to the local child support enforcement office and ask them for help but chances are unless you apply for state aid, then they do it for free, you have to hire an attorney to file the child support papers.
He is never going to change his behavior until you change yours. He knows that you will take him back regardless and you are teaching your daughter that this is how grown-ups are supposed to act in a relationship. The smartest thing to do is to kick him out and KEEP him out.
First and foremost is your responsibility to your child. You can get another bf. Don't go into child support decisions based on your feelings towards the bf. It happens all the time. If he makes 3x more than you Domestic Relations will factor in the amount he should pay you regardless of the relationship status.
You might want to get full custody too. Beware, some fathers try to get shared custody in order to offset their support obligations.
Well you will have to figure out how much time each of you will be spending with your daughter. You should make sure he is as much a part of her life as he currently is. As long as he's a good dad.
In AZ its 20% of their income. It also depends on if he has her on insurance. That gets deducted. Overnight visits deduct too. Good luck.
