What Happend to My Sleeping Princess??

Updated on June 16, 2010
K.G. asks from Auburn, IN
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My almost 11 month old dd has done a complete 180 on us here is her old sleep schedual

7pm bed no fussing
1am and 5 am bottle
7am wake play in crib play until around 8am
10-11 nap 1hr
230-3 nap 1.5 -2 hr

now its
7pm bed after 5 min crying wants to be rocked to sleep
3am bottle up for an hr wanting to be held and rocked
6am up and no more hanging out in crib
10-11 nap 30mins if lucky
3pm nap 2 hrs and she is a beast trying to get her to go down and she NEEDS this nap it gets bad real quick

so what has happened? she was like clock work, her little eyes are tired and puffy so I know she needs the sleep but she is putting up a good fight. I have darkening curtains up, white noise her music (soft classical). nothing has changed the way i do things. so any ideas will be a big help.

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update--- June 17 she is sleeping through the night since I posted this question. I think she knew I asked..lol. No more nighttime feedings, if she wakes I do change her diaper because she is usually really wet ( not leaking through). she has been going to bed around 6:30 and sleeping until 6ish. She is not ready to give up her morning nap she comes to me clingy and whining around 8:30 and she sleeps for about 1.5hr. and has an afternoon nap around 1:30 and sleeps till 3pm. I am not complaining this is working out great. thanks for all of the advice.

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M.P.

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What really happened is that the princess is growing up a little and beginning to understand that "good Stuff" happens while you sleep. She may be ready to give up one nap of her naps times and be ready for one afternoon nap. Some quiet time in place of her morning nap will allow her to unwind and rest but not necessarily sleep. She also may have some separation issues holding on longer to the routine of rocking and holding. The resistence is normal, I think. I suggest keeping the routine consistent, talk about "time for bed" giving her lots of warning that it is coming. Hold, rock read for a reasonable amount of time and then crib, love you, nighty night and let her learn to comfort herself into sleep mode. It is sometimes very difficult for babies, as they become more active, to unwind and settle down. They are a lot like the energizer bunny who keeps"going, and going, and going"

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M.B.

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Aren't they fun! She's just mixing it up for you. Try weaning her from her 3 a.m. bottle and cutting her naps down to just one. Be patient and stick with the plan (it's harder than it sounds). The aquarium idea is great but it's 50/50 in our house. One loves it, he's had it from day one in the NICU and he's nearly 4 (I know, it's way overdue for taking it off of his big boy bed but we just haven't done it yet). Our second could care less but it's worth a shot!
One last thing, is she getting her molars? That's rough when they start coming in and mine always need extra cuddles and rocking. Good luck!

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V.B.

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She's testing you! I cry - Mamma and Daddy come running - and I get held. Actually, as a mother of 3 and grandmother of 3 - I've been through this - it's normal. Be lucky you had a few months of wonderful sleep time. She's more alert and so much is going on in the world that she doesn't have time to take it in. How bright is your nursery? Take some of the things off of the wall, remove any mobils, etc from the crib, if you have bright paint on the walls, change to a neutral or a pastel. I know everything is about "stimulating" the baby's senses; but enough already - make the nursery a calm, soft place! If you keep distractions down to a minimum it will help. Also, she's feeding off of your anxiety try and be calm and relaxed around her. Take her to her dr and make sure that there's nothing going on (ear infection, etc), then just perservere!

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L.S.

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At 11 months, they know what they want. They want you. She is definitely testing you. This is when I would go in and pat baby on the back and sing him back to sleep and leave the room. After a while they understand that this is sleeping time and you are not going to pick her up. My son was a cosleeper until 11 months old so I know what this is like. He was the worst sleeper and then became the best sleeper. So no more food in the middle of the night. No more rocking her to sleep, etc. You may want to give her a bottle of water instead. Give up one thing at a time. First give up the food. This is causing her to rely on you to fall asleep in the middle of the night. She can wait until morning or at least until 5 am to eat again. Then give up the rocking in the middle of the night. She will get it and you will have a perfect sleeper again. Also, she may be teething. So try to Tylenol or Generic brand because it was recalled. Don't worry, she'll get, but you must be consistent. Give up the first feeding first. Water for her at 1. this is a habit waking, yes she is hungry, but water may just get her through until at least a few more hours of sleep. pat her back. Tell her it is sleepy time. etc. Good luck!! if you have questions let me know. my son woke up every 2-3 hours until 11 months old. Then slept 13 hours straight. I agree with other poster, do not rush right in everytime she cries. Sometimes they will just do a little crying and fussing for a few minutes and put themselves back to sleep. Unless she is screaming... which is a little different.

M.M.

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Sounds to me like she's ready to go down to 1 nap/day. She also doesn't need that night time feed at all, she's just working the system knowing that you'll go in there and play with her whenever she wakes up.
We've always done CIO with my son when he starts night time waking patterns, and it's always worked very quickly. She needs to learn that night time is for sleeping.
The 6am wake up - well, I have no advice for you. My DS is 2 and wakes up anywhere between 5:30 and 7.
But he did drop to 1 nap/day at about 10mos. He wasn't ready for it, but there was no forcing him into 2 anymore, so we just went with it. Try for some quiet time instead of that morning nap, move up lunch time and get her down in the afternoon between 1-2. You may have to battle it for a bit, but it sounds to me like she's ready for a schedule change.

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S.D.

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Have you had her checked for an ear infection or anything else?

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S.B.

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Around 11months, my daughter's sleep habits changed. She didn't need her morning nap and we had to move up her afternoon nap. When my kids are overtired it is REALLY hard to get them to sleep. If your daughter isn't getting much sleep in the a.m., she may be overtired by 3 and hence making it difficult to get her down at nap time. That combined with the fact that she is learning what she wants like the other posters mentioned, no one is getting enough sleep. I know around this same time, my daughter would no longer play in the crib. When she wakes up she wants out.

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K.J.

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ok, at 11 months old your baby has you wrapped around her little finger. First of all she shouldn't need to eat in the middle of the night anymore. That should have stopped at 6 months. Put her to bed and let her cry. If she wakes up in the middle of the night and cries, check on her but do not pick her up. It will take two to three nights of torture for you but she will sleep through the night. For naps do the same thing, put her in her crib and let her cry. As my dr. told me she is not going to die from crying. Do not give in, she WILL fall asleep. Three days and you will be in heaven!!! One more thing, it should be about time to wean from the morning nap, that will also help with the afternoon nap. Hope this helps-I'm a mother of 4 so I have been there!!!

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L.W.

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Sounds like she is training you vs you training her. She is old enough to know that when she crys, you will come in. By 11 months she is VERY capable of sleeping through the night. my DD was doing 10 hours each night by 7 months. You need to encourage sleep. If you dont believe in the CIO method, then use another one like Ferber. Or when she cries at 3am, go in and tell her "its night night time, we need to go to sleep", give her a kiss, and leave. she will cry, but need to try to ignore it. it will take about a week (at the most) but do NOT pick her up.
On a side note, I bought my DD one of those aquariums and strapped it to her crib. she turns it on all the time and puts her self back to sleep. it may help.
one last thing too..My DD goes to bed at 730 each night. her naps, I NEVER let her sleep past 330-or 4pm. you may want to move your afternoon nap up to 2pm.

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A.J.

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I haven't read all the other posters so excuse me if I am repeating. But it was about this age that my 1st son went to one nap. I gradually just moved his morning nap up later. It just worked so much better and less of a hassle, and nicer for me. He was sleeping a good 3-4 hrs at that point. Once we did that he well rested and went to bed a lot easier at night too. As far as the night time waking, is she cutting any teeth or anything, she may just need the extra comfort! I really don't have any suggestions for this part. I did continue to tend to my 1st at night until about 11 months old. Although it was at this point that just out of the blue my 1st son was a bear for me to put down. So there was one day where he so grumpy, but nothing I did could get him to go to sleep. So I put him in his crib wide awake, he cried for about 5-10 minutes, but I refused to go in there, and wouldn't you know it he was out cold. From that point on I just him in his crib and he drifted away on his own. This also transferred to bed time, and it was like a miracle he put himself to sleep= no night time wakings....It was also at this point that I transferred the bed time putting to bed to Daddy. I bathed and got him ready but Daddy read him a story, gave him his sippy cup of water, and put him to bed. So I don't know if that changed the whole dynamic as well. Good luck it could just be a phase and in a week or two it all change....Hang in there it does get better in the end

G.R.

answers from Dallas on

hello

i thnk she is test you i mean she cry you will come my little boy did that 1 week but nobody came and he stop doing it also i think she is ready for 1 nap maybe you can change the nap time around 12 or 1 pm and she can have 2 1/2 to 3 hours nap

when i am very busy i let my kids be in the pack and play and when they start crying if i don't pick them up they ended playing with something.

you no need to rush everytime they cry i let them cry for about 5 min ususally it stops around that time .

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