My husband has an adult daughter from a previous relationship. She has 2 children (his garnd kids ) It was never an isue before but now that we have moved to Georgia and they stay over on the weekends...what should they call me. They of course call my husband "grand pa" but they know I am not their moms, mother so of course they shouln't call me grand ma...what is appropriate for them to call me
Thanks so much for all the responses...I think I will go with having them call me Grandma S. and see how that goes...
Have a Blessed Day Ladies!!!
Ask your step daughter what she is comfortable with. Also try asking the grandkids what the want to call you. From day one my stepdad has been grandpa or papa to my littke girl. I think alot if it depends on your relationship with the daughter.
I understand your situation from a flip side. I have two boys and one of them is not my husbands but from a previous marriage. When my ex husband married his new wife he moved away and hasn't had much to do with my little boy, but at first I thought they might have a relationship and my little boy being very young was confused about her kids calling her mama but that I was his mama. We agreed he could call her
Mama Arleigh, which is her name. It didn't bother me cuz he knew who his mama was and it made her feel better not being just Arleigh to him. Try Grandma S., and if they are real small I know they'll make their own name for you anyways just trying to say you name, like "sanny" or something. You're sweet to care about being a part of their lives. It takes a good woman to love not only her own grandkids, but others as well! So I'm sure it will work out! Take care and good luck!
K.
When my mother-in-law re-married and her new husband had grandchildren, she faced the same question. The grandchildren call her "grandma Linda" and now they love her just like their other grandparents. Do what feels best for you.
I have a step daughter and although she calls my by my first name, she calls my mom Nana, which is what she is knownto all of the other grandchildren. It's never been an issue for us.
HI S. -
I have 2 children ages 7 and 4; they have 2 "step grandparents" (my parents divorced and now both are remarried). They call both of the "steps" by their first names. They call their grandparents by a "grandparent" name (we call my mom Nana and we call my dad Gramps), so they know them as "Nana and Jim" and "Gramps and Leslie." They have always called them that and to us it seems normal. You may not be comfortable with that, but this is what works for us.
Good luck!
N.
