We have lived on a septic tank system for many years. 14 years in SoCal, 4 years in Germany and 7 years in Arkansas. I never had to have one pumped out because we always made sure we didn't flush harsh chemicals down the toilet. No 2000 flushes or that type of cleaner. No draino.
We would flush yeast that we started down the toilet if we accidently put a harsh chemical down the toilet. It kept the bacteria in the septic tank active and consuming the waste flushed. We used regular toilet paper and didn't use our garbage disposal very much, but we did use it at least twice weekly.
You already know that all feminine products belong in the garbage, not the toilet. We used whatever laundry detergent was on sale. My wife and I are allergic to Tide, so I can't comment about Tide being OK or bad.
Most people tell you to have the septic tank cleaned out every two years and others say every three years. When I was in high school, we lived on a septic tank system and we never had it pumped out. I lived on a septic tank system in Arkansas for 7 years and never had to have it pumped out. I lived on one in SoCal for 14 years and never had to have it pumped out.
I had a plumber rotorooter out a line because it was clogged (roots). He sent a camera down the line and looked at our septic tank because he wanted to pump it out and charge me a bundle. He looked at our septic tank and said we could probably use it for another 18 months before pumping it out. I asked him how long did it appear we had been since it was pumped. He said a septic tank should be pumped out every other year and it looked like we had had it pumped out 6 months to a year ago.
We had lived in that house about 7 years at the time. We lived there another 7 years and it still didn't need pumping when we moved.
Don't plant a bottle brush plant or a weeping willow tree anywhere near your sewer lines or septic tank. They're roots are very invasive and will clog your lines and fill your septic tank with roots.
Good luck to you and yours.