@ What Age Do You Let Go and Let God

I don't understand your last sentence.... is she saying for YOU to take the baby and she is leaving, or that SHE is taking the baby with her?

If she wants to leave the baby, you have a lot of legal issues to deal with.

If she wants to take the baby and leave, I wonder if there is really anything you can do. As long as there is someone out there willing to take her in and support her financially, she has no reason to come home to you. I went through the exact same thing when I was 18 (went to live with other relatives and wanted nothing to do with my parents) but I didn't have a baby. But after just a few months, I was able to get the partying out of my system and decided to come back home and go back to school. She has to face up to being a parent and the responsibilities that go with it.

If you do decide to take care of your grandson at some point...PLEASE see an attorney and have the proper paperwork filed. It would be sad for your daughter to return for the sole purpose of taking the child back so she can collect assistance or child support, but not really take care of the child.
If your daughter agrees to stay with you, then great. But I have to say...she got pregnant as a teen and is partying her life away in college...not a good track record yet to show that she is actually going to take being a parent seriously. I hope she turns things around for the better and uses this responsibility to make her a better person.
If you need to speak to an attorney about this further, please send me a message. My husband is an attorney who specializes in juvenile dependency here in Orlando. I would be happy to set up a time for you to talk to him, or I could recommend someone in this area of expertise.

It's hard to say what I would do in your situation since I am not currently in it. From an outsider looking in, it seems to me that the best option would be for you to care for her baby, your grandson, if you are in a position to do so and are willing to take that responsibility. If this is not something you are willing or able to do, maybe the baby's father or his family would be willing/able to raise the child. Aside from that, try other family members. As for your daughter, you can not force her to take intervention if she is not ready and willing for it. You can point out how her behavior is destroying her life in specific ways, but drugs often cloud a person's judgment and ability to reason. That doesn't mean don't try. It just means don't have high expectations she will turn around. It is the drugs that are controlling her life, behavior, perception, etc. It is not the same reasonable daughter you once had. If you are a praying person, that is probably the best you can do - and still love her, and be prepared to pick up the pieces when she is ready and willing to kick her bad habits. Until then, all you can do is let go and let God, in my humble opinion.
Good luck! I will say a prayer for your strength and courage, as well as hers.
J.

You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink. I would tell her that " I loved her very much & when she is ready for help you will be here for her". She needs to know that even though you don't agree with her choices, she is still loved. Then I would pray, pray & pray some more. In the meantime if she left her son with you then I would get some legal advice from a lawyer about getting guardianship. Hopefully she will come to her senses & decide she wants to be a Mother to her precious little boy.

Good luck & God Bless!