Don't believe the naysayers. There are some people who love to diss Tacoma, but the reality is it has the same good and bad as any other metropolitan area. I moved to Tacoma five years ago and LOVE it. We live in a three story, 100 year old Craftsman home with a view of the water in the North end of Tacoma. The same house would have cost us twice as much in Seattle. We walk to the market, walk to several neighborhood parks, walk to breakfast on Sundays. Lots of families in the area. We meet our friends for dinner and cocktails in the neighborhood. Its fantastic. People are super friendly too. I always tell people that Tacoma is a big "small town." People know each other.
Puyallup and Bonney Lake both have lots of new construction, but personally I hate dealing with the traffic. Gig Harbor is gorgeous, but you have to be willing to cross a bridge and pay a toll every day. Still, its gorgeous.
If you want new construction, University Place and Fircrest are fantastic. There's also Brown's Point, which is in between the cities of Federal Way and Tacoma. The only downside of those cities is you have to drive everywhere. If you like an old, established neighborhood where you can walk most places, then neighborhoods like the North End of Tacoma and the Proctor district are perfect for you. There are amazing houses with views of the water and many that flank the grounds of a gorgeous, private university with gothic, tudor style buildings - University of Puget Sound. So there are always cool cultural events going on. There are also great private schools right in the area like Charles Wright academy, Annie Wright, and Bellarmine Prep.
Depending on your price point, check out "Day Island" too. Its a little neighborhood within University Place/Tacoma with breathtaking views of the water and amazing homes. Its a hidden gem!
Prospect Point, Old Town, and Proctor district are fantastic neighborhoods within the North End of Tacoma. Even if you don't move to one of those neighborhoods you'll want to visit for the fun shops, great restaurants on 6th Avenue, a weekly farmers market, boutiques, etc. When you get here be sure to check out the following:
1) Ruston Way waterfront great for jogging, walking, biking. Awesome fourth of July festival each year.
2)Pt. Defiance Park is magnificant. Personally, I think its the most beautiful park in North America (yes, better than Central Park in N.Y.C.) and rivaled only by Stanley Park in British Columbia.
3) Proctor District and Broadway Farmers Markets
4) Have dinner and cocktails and check out a band on 6th Avenue
5) Definitely go to dinner at Pacific Grill followed by a performance at one of the theatres in downtown Tacoma. Exceptional food.
6) Museum of Glass and Tacoma Art Museum are both fantastic too.
There's way too much to list. A couple of local Web sites I love that will give you the scoop on things are exit133.cin abd tacomamama.com.