S.S.
Hi Amy,
it's a loaded question - I'm sure you'll get a lot of strong opionions on this one!
Here is what we did. I grew up getting all vaccines and thought that it is irresponsible not to use all available vaccines.
Then we had our first daughter, who received all her vaccines on time. She was a colicky, moody, difficult baby (not sure I can pin this on the vaccines, but I did wonder after doing some research). Then we had our first son - a very calm, mellow little guy. He pretty much never cried, slept through the night at 3 weeks, just easy as can be. We vaccinated him with his first full set, and he cried and acted upset and not himself for days. This got me thinking and researching. I talked to various people, ranging from friends, to nurses, to our pediatrician. Did some research on the Internet. Came to the conclusion that the "standard" vaccination schedule is just what the US government is pushing to ensure that all at-risk populations are covered - it's not what's in the best interest of my child's health (and "standard" schedules vary by country - why? Aren't all babies the same?). Stopped vaccinating my kids, son #2 never had a shot. All of my kids are healthy and have great immune systems. I'm not a vaccination opponent; if we were to move to China or some other location where e.g. polio is still around, I would vaccinate my kids against it. But here in the States, good hygiene, good nutrition, plus the lack of many of the diseases we are vaccinating against (polio is pretty much extinguished in the western hemisphere) makes the risk of overloading an immature immune system with a cocktail of antigens, preservatives, and who-knows-what else not a good risk in my view. My kids know to wash their hands after using the bathroom, and before eating. They also use their utensils instead of their hands (I'm from Europe and sometimes amazed at the "habits" of kids here).
So - no clear answer, but I would at least look into the reasons for each individual vaccine and not do the "cocktail" (e.g. MMR). Rubella (the "R") is for example a disease that usually does not harm kids - the only reason they push it is to prevent pregnant women from catching the disease. Is it your infant's responsibility to protect pregnant women? I would at least advise to give shots individually, carefully monitor the effect, and conscientiously decide at what point in their life the child really needs the vaccine.
I'll be curious to see what answers you get - and good luck in your decision. It's not an easy one, and I occasionally worry if I made the right choice. But there is also a reason the government established a multi-million dollar vaccine damages fund...
S.