I'm not going to give you additional sources because I don't know what ones you have already looked at. :)
I have five children. I make my decisions on vaccinations based on what I consider to be an individual risk assessment for each of them. Three of my children have never had a single vaccination. One child received vaccinations while in foster care that I would not have given and has received none in the past four years. I have one I willingly vaccinate against a few select illnesses because I feel that his unique medical conditions warrant taking the significant risks of vaccinations, because he faces an even more significant risk of death if he contracts illnesses like the flu.
So, what I will do is give you some tips for dealing with the world ahead of you as a non-vaccinating family. This is based on years of experience:
1.) Research the medical community in your area to find care providers who are friendly or willing to accept non-vaccinated patients. It doesn't mean they have to agree with the decision, but that they recognize the decision is not theirs to make, but a parent's decision, and can work respectfully with a nonvaccinating family. Even if you have a homeopath, there very well may circumstances in which you need a routine M.D. or D.O. for your child. Be proactive and know who this will be beforehand.
2.) Never, ever, EVER discuss your reasons with the routine medical establishment. This is not because your reasons are not valid, this is because entering into a discussion on vaccines with a medical professional who is pro-vaccine is not really a discussion--- they aren't interested in hearing your reasons, all they want is an opportunity to attempt to convince you to vaccinate. The vast majority of medical professionals, *including* pediatricians, are NOT educated on vaccines in medical school. They don't know much beyond what is on the CDC sheet. Therefore if a medical professional asks you "why" you do not vaccinate, you tell them "We have made an educated, purposeful decision to not vaccinate. I am not willing to discuss it beyond that. Now, about Johnny's ear pain?" You never answer beyond that. Period. Because that question is really a challenge of your authority as a parent to make that decision and if you open the door, they WILL trample right through it like an elephant.
3) It's all about your attitude. Never be defensive, nor offensive. You must exude confidence. When you tell them that you will not discuss it, you must be calm, be pleasant, and be willing to agree to disagree. If they sense you are not completely comfortable with the decision you have made, they will prey on that.
4.) Never volunteer the information of your children's vaccination status, period. Not unless you are speaking with someone who is genuinely seeking information on vaccination. Don't bring it up at play dates, don't go around telling your parents, don't volunteer that information at the mom's meeting at the park. If everyone is having a conversation about how they just took Mary in for her four month shots and everyone else is sympathetically swapping stories, smile and remain silent, or be reflective "Ooooo, that sounds like it was hard, I'm glad it's over!"
5.) Never lie about it when directly asked. If the same mother at the park asks you "How did Johnny do with his shots?" You respond cheerily "Johnny has never had any." or "We've chosen not to vaccinate" or "Johnny's not vaccinated". Then you change the subject "So, I only overheard half of that conversation, how did dinner go last night?" If your in the E.R. for some reason and they ask, you tell them "That's not pertinent to this visit" if it isn't, or "No, we exercise our right under ______ (insert your pertinent state law and statute) not to vaccinate." and you move along.
6.) Know the laws of your state in regards to vaccinations. Know how you can legally claim an exemption for your child. Even though they're school related, understanding your rights are vital and lets medical professionals know you didn't just get lazy, you made a conscious choice. Understand the legal ramifications of your choice as it relates to the ability to participate in private day cares, or childcare, or group activities, or school. Know when they can legally deny your child access to an activity and when they cannot.
7.) Keep well-documented health records for your child/children that are not vaccinated. Every doctor's visit they have, the reasons for those visits, and the care plan that comes from those visits. This will protect in the very unlikely circumstance that you get CPS called on you for your refusal to vaccinate.
8.) Discuss your reasons only when they will be truly helpful to someone. A person you know who is wrestling with the decision. Another family that you know doesn't vaccinate. But it keep it confined to those places where it will actually be useful and or you are in friendly company.
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The above is borne from much personal experience. All of my children have medical and special needs, so avoiding the medical community has never been an option of ours. My children are routinely and regularly shuttling between the pediatrician's office and a bazillion specialty clinics. The above rules have allowed us to maintain a professional and respectful relationship no matter how much we disagree with each other. I am not in the business of attempting to persuade anyone over to my own point of view. I'm too busy and have too much to do to be wasting my time pitching a speech that my audience isn't interested in hearing in the first place.
I did make the mistake in the very beginning of discussing it. When I was asked "WHY?" by some stunned nurse, I actually answered. All that bought me was several conversations that turned disrespectful and an attempt to call CPS on me. Thankfully, that quickly went nowhere because I could easily disprove any charges of medical neglect with his medical records. I innocently bought into the idea that when people asked, they really were genuinely interested in the answer. They aren't. They, really, really really aren't. I can't stress that enough. And it doesn't matter what they say or what kind of pitch they make for vaccines, you are not obligated to prove yourself. The bottom line is that you have a RIGHT to make that decision, you *know* that it is your RIGHT, you aren't going to be intimidated out of your RIGHT, and therefore, you have no need to explain anything to anyone.
If you can develop that attitude, you will make life much more pleasant for yourself over the long run!