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1) For my first son it started falling out at around 8 weeks and began growing back in at about 16 weeks. For my second it started falling out at around 10 weeks and started growing back in at around 16 weeks. I had bald patches at both my temples, although the second time around the bald spots weren't quite as bad. I could still pull my hair back into a pony tail. The first time I couldn't pull my hair back for months. I know it's horrible while you're going through it, but I promise it will grow back.
2) I stopped swaddling with my kids when they escaping the swaddle while they slept. I then moved them to sleepy sacks.
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