I can't wait for Facebook.
Imagine. We used to HIDE our diaries. Our kids put theirs online. Too cool. No question about 'invading privacy' reading their diaries/journals THESE days!!!
My son has had an email acct since he was a toddler (early reader). I've just always had the password. He's currently 10... And a huge techie. He's been on design boards since he was 8. I freely admit I don't keep up with a lot of his stuff, because it's over my head, but I do keep tabs in general. I also encourage active sharing (Hey, Mom! Lookit...). Although sometimes its hard because it's over my head, or it's 10yo humor (groan)... BUT I randomly reward sharing with me, and focus on the interesting parts (like how HE feels about what he's sharing with me)... Even when it makes as much sense to me as a binary solo. Similarly, I have him teach me various things (he loves that).
- I do random spot checks
- I hang out and talk with him while he's working
- I have HIM hang out and talk with me while I'm working
- I randomly reward 'sharing'
- I check various history logs (there's more than one history saved on computers, although most people only know of one or two... there's actually half a dozen. PART of the 'rule' is that he isn't allowed to go and alter his history. If I find altered history, he's busted. Even if it was something stupid / no problem.
- I do periodic searches.
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Fact IS... he could easily hide stuff from me. There are computers at the library (public and school). There is wifi almost everywhere. Dummy accounts with fake names take 2 seconds (well, 30) to create on a separate computer.
So what I work on MOSTLY is trust, honesty, and integrity.
Won't always work. Kids push boundaries. BUT the boundaries are there, and hopefully, so too the trust. So that when he DOES choose to push boundaries he a) knows better, and b) makes it short lived, and c) will be savvy enough to avoid "interweb" / idiot mistakes (like perverts, or handing out personal information) because he's been using the internet for ages and is solid in the rules. The internet is like real life, with a safety net. Most kids push boundaries in real life (sneaky sneaky), and most kids push boundaries online.
So I mostly just treat him, how I would have wanted to have been treated (aka I think about what worked and what didn't work with ME when I was the kid).