Tubal Ligation - Do You Regret It?

NO regrets. had it done 6 months after my second daughter was born. No side effects that I can remember. I was 32 and my husband was 40. There were times I thought about how it would have been nice to have another baby but that only lasted about a second and I realized was out of mind.

Hi B. B.:

A client of mine expressed feeling emotional imbalanced with mood swings and steady sadness. This may be explained by the fact that most of the emotion hormones are produced in the brain and reproductive organs.

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N.
Founder/Organic Mommy and Baby Healthcare Solutions

I know this is not the same, but after child number 2 I knew I was done so husband had a vasectomy, I have greatly regretted that decision since I now would love to have another child. If you decide to go to forever birth control just be sure you really are done.

I had a tubal during my C-section with my second child. I do not regret it. I have no side effects. Pregnancy and I do not get along well so the decision was kind of made for me (highly recommended that I have no more pregnancies). But, my husband and I had decided prior to having our second child that we would be done at 2 and if we wanted any more children we would adopt.

I had mine done right after my 3rd child. I was 31 years old at the time and KNEW for sure that 3 kids were enough for me!

I have had no side effects, am now 33 years old, and do not regret it.

~I also have 2 stepsons and 2 nephews who are here at my house all the time! I have enough kids! :)

Had it right after #4 (who was not planned and we were well on our way toward dh being snipped when I got pregnant). Don't regret it a bit. Sex is definitely better.

Not for a moment. No side effects other than sex is better :)

B., what I regret is not getting one. I wish I had. Seems silly to think about it now when I'm so much closer to menopause, but I wish I had gone ahead and had it done when I knew that I was "finished." Just a different perspective.

I had mine done within a few hours of giving birth to my twins...babies #4 & 5. That was 28 years ago! And I have never regretted it! I was done having babies and didn't want to have to take anymore birth control. And it was so great never having to worry about getting pregnant again! Sure gave both me and my husband a complete sense of "freedom"!

If this is the last baby you and your husband want, then talk to your doctor about having it done before you leave the hospital. You are already there so why not do it then? Now days it's an easy surgery with almost no healing time. And you won't have to go into the hospital a few months later leaving the baby. You may have to stay in the hospital an extra day, but that gives you a little more time to heal from delivery. And that's not a bad thing either! (Don't even get me started on how I feel about sending mothers home so quickly now days!)

Nope, don't regret it, no side effects. I worry about it staying in place. In fact at my last appt, I asked to double check. That's how convinced I was that I am done!

I had mine done 3 years after my second daughter was born. Even when I was having her I was pretty sure I was done, but I wanted to be 100% so I waited. Mt Doc did ask since I was having a c - section. I was hoping to be able to get the Merina, but was unable to. My husband would have gotten a vasectomy, but somehow I just felt safer taking care of it myself. I have heard about vasectomies failing (not nearly so much tubals.) So far I have had no problems. The surgery was easy. in and out, and I was fine the next day. I had not heard of some of the problems many women seem to have related to T.L. It does make me nervous. I only had mine a little less than a year ago. I am so glad not to have to worry about getting pregnant again. (If I really really wanted to, say something were to change down the road, I can have an ivf type pregnancy.) I am 36 so I don't expect that I will want anymore! For me it was a good choice!

I had it done 2 days after my son was born. I REGRET it. I am 37 yrs old with two children 8 and 3. and two step children 19 and 17. I really wish I could have more. Its too late now. My pregnancys were very difficult so we thought it would be the best thing. I still want more. So I would wait at least a few months after the birth unless you have c-section, its easy I hear to get then. This is my experience with it.

Well I guess everyone already knows how I feel!
But I'd like to add
Now I find myself in the interesting place of not having enough to do (can you imagine?! I NEVER thought I'd say THAT). I have only two teenagers left in the house (one away at school), my guy and I have been together in this house with my three kids for three years but have known each other for 25 years. There's not HUGE money but the mortgage is paid and life is good.
I do not have a college degree (yes, THERE'S something to do) I am not ready to work full time and leave the teenagers alone in the house. There doesn't seem to be much point in an $8 an hour job, plus difficult to find one I like since my availability is limited. I am SO OVER working in a school setting and babysitting is out now since I have two big dogs and my house is no longer little kid friendly (I actually have decor, like BREAKABLE stuff, it'll happen to you too, I promise)

I like to do all the SAHM occupational hazards, cook (ALWAYS cooking, just LOVE it) gardening, etc, but I'd grown SO used to be wildly crazy busy 24hrs day on little or no sleep....plus I just LIKE taking care of people.

Now I just feel LAZY!
Anyway, I have a very stable relationship a happy life, my guy only had one child who is 31 (would've loved more, sigh)it just would've been nice in that teeny little window to try for a baby.

CAN'T HAVE ONE, of course, since I had my tubes tied.
BUT! It actually is making us think in other directions....we've talked about trying to adopt, we've talked about foster care and so on.

Furthermore, started having perimenopausal symptons last year at 42, now in the full throws of it.

I did it to save my husband from a vasectomy, the idea totally creeped him out. If birth control were left up to me, I'd probably have half a dozen kids. So it had to be done.

My kids were all born at a Catholic hospital so I had to wait 6 weeks after my youngest was born to do it. Yes there was some pain afterwards, but the worst part was breast ingorgement since I couldn't nurse for a few days.

Anyway, I'm quite sure my HUSBAND doesn't regret it. It's one of those things that felt like marital compromise at the time, but in hindsight feels like I totally forwent my own needs to satisfy his.

Hope this helps!!

I had mine done about 12 hours after my youngest son was born. I have had no side effects and LESS THAN NONE regrets. I was D O N E ... DONE having babies.

Now if menopause would hurry up and get here I'd be the happiest woman on the planet.

Not for a moment. No side effects other than sex is better :)

Hi B.,

Well, you got a lot of replies to this, so mine may be superfluous, but I had a tubal ligation 38 years ago, after my third child stopped nursing, and it was the best decision I ever made! The emotional after effects were a "lightness of being", joy, reliefreliefrelief! It makes life SO MUCH simpler. Sounds like you're ready to simplify, too.

Good luck!
"Grams"
from the Pocono Mts. of PA

I had a scheduled C-section w my last child so I had them do one at the same time. I personally have no regrets! I feel the same as I did before and have noticed nothing.

B. B - I had my tubal after my second child, daughter, was delivered via c-section. I knew when I was pregnant the second time (boy or gir, I already had a son) that this was going to be it and since I was already open on the table it was easier for me to have it done. I have no regrets, but I will say that my monthly hormonal mood swings are more intense and my periods are heavier since have it done 2 1/2 years ago. Whatever you choose, I wish you health and happiness.

I had it done when my second child was 4. She is now 13.
I have never regretted it. I love it. 2 children were enough for me. It is so nice not having to worry about getting pregnant.
No side effects.
Sex is great when you are not worrying about getting pregnant when you don want to be.
Good luck