TTC With Natural Herbs

At 18... why do you want a baby?

Honest question.

You could be a supergenius and already finished your masters and working a 6 figure salary.

You could be wanting to be a stay at home mom/wife (but not being married yet is concerning... and I did things out of order... it's not a judgement, but a concern)... and dude is making 100k or is blue blood old money, and you two own your own home, are completely set up, etc.

You could be dying and only have 3 years, or 10 years to live.

Or you could be 18 and in love and not thinking about your and your baby's future with or without boyfriend.

But I hear; 18, don't know if he's the one, trying to get pregnant with my much older boyfriend... and alarm bells go off.

This is your first post to Mamapedia.

You are 18 years old. You don't have kids. You have a boyfriend, not a husband.

here's my take.

you are 18 years old - you should NOT be using artificial means to get pregnant.

your boyfriend is 9 years your senior. And just that - a BOYFRIEND!

Are you capable of raising a child on your own?
Go to school Get an education and then have kids.

when you are able to stand on your own two feet then get married and have kids. you need to live your life a little first. do you understand that once you have kids, you will be strapped down and it won't be about YOU anymore, right? you will have to sacrifice for the kids?????

You've only been trying for 3 months--it's WAY early for you to be concerned about your fertility. Also, be careful about your assumptions; you can't be sure that your boyfriend doesn't have the problem, unless he has fathered several children already, in which case you have some other complications in your situation.

There's more, however. While it may not be what you want to hear, I have to echo some of Riley J's questions to you. What is the hurry to have a child? IF this relationship is solid and meant to last, you could still wait another seven years and be having your first child before you reach 26. I had my first child at age 37 and our second at 40, without complications (except a somewhat longer time to get pregnant, maybe). Believe me, you do not need to rush it. Even if you intend to be a stay-at-home parent or have someone else be the main earner, it's really important to develop your livelihood potential at this point in your life--it's much harder to do that after you have the responsibility of kids. Right now, I think you should be focused on getting the education for a job or establishing yourself in the workforce so you have the ability to be self-supporting and contribute money to the household--it's hard to have a comfortable life on one income. It's just good to have a variety of options in the future. Please consider our concerns carefully.

My sister knew that she wanted to be a mom at a young age too! She got pregnant at 18. She married that guy, but then it didn't work out so they got divorced.

She found a new guy - and they wanted more kids so they got pregnant. She married that guy and then had another with him. It didn't work out so they got divorced.

She found a new guy - and they wanted more kids so they got pregnant. The engagement fell apart.

I love my neices and nephews, but there's one fact that you should know.

My sister, and her four children, live with our parents. My sister is 34, and has only had one job that lasted more than a month in her entire life. Being a SAHM is a noble calling. But my neices and nephews couldn't play sports this year - there was no money. My sister has to "borrow" gas money from my parents. My sister just announced her plan to take the kids out to eat, without "borrowing" money from anyone - she's asked her kids to collect aluminum cans for recycling.

I don't think this is the life she imagined at 18.

I was with my ex from 14-26 and wanted kids early all along and thought that was the right thing, although I'd never regret having my daughter and she was planned and we had her after I was married I do see great bennefits to waiting until you're a little older. Once you have a child your expenses triple, and you can no longer travel, experience the world, and have fun and party like an 18 year old should. I didn't do any of that and hope for my daughter that she will before kids....J. sayin....also as for your question I believe theres only a 20% chance each month to get pregnant and if your cycle is not normal I guess that would go down. Goodluck with whatever decision you make, but know in 10 years youre going to look back and realize how young you were now and how much growing you have still to do emotionally. I'm still learning a lot about myself at 29, you may not want to make a life changing decision so young! Ecspecially with being burned by guys before your emotions may be going off the charts and want someone to love you so much that you think making a family so young is good. IDK J. a thought. Goodluck

Please commit to marriage before you commit to raising a child. Babies are a huge blessing and responsibility that you will want to share with your husband, not a temporary partner. That being said, careful with the herbs for although they may help you GET pregnant, they may not be safe to take in early pregnancy. Just because it says it is "all natural" doesn't make it safe. Both of these herbs can contribute to miscarriage if taken after ovulation (and you conceive but don't know it yet) because they alter hormone levels slightly. Please see a Dr. or Nurse Midwife for more information.
At least a third of all infertility problems are caused by the male. Diet, drugs/alcohol, infections, and smoking all reduce male fertility. 3 cycles is not an indicator that either one of you have fertility problems.

Maybe there's a reason it's not happening? It might not be the right time.

Hi M.,

One thing that most people forget about is simply general good health. Many of us think we are healthy because mainline standards are really really low. My recommendation to everyone is to get on a good ABSORBABLE multivitamin/mineral complex to get to a baseline of good health. Once there, then you can diagnose more of what you need.

Be careful not to use a inferior product. They do more damage than good but a good vitamin is worth gold. That will also make the herbs you are taking more effective. I do agree with Limabean....stress is awful. If there is anything in your life...even your struggle to concieve...that is a cause of stress, sit back and remind yourself that stress is not worth it! Relax.

Chiropractic care can also enhance your immune system and get your entire body working at it's optimum level.

Praying that all goes well!

M.

Stress can make it harder to conceive, so try not to worry too much. (I know that's easier said than done!) If it's only been 3-4 months it's still early, even though it probably feels like forever. Make sure you are taking folic acid, plus it wouldn't hurt to go ahead and start a prenatal vitamin. Overall make sure you are eating very healthy, getting plenty of rest & exercise, and start phasing out things like caffeine and alcohol. Try not to put too much pressure on yourselves, and try to enjoy all the practice you 2 are getting ;-)