Trouble Getting Pregnant

Are you exercising? I thnk that overall eating better and taking care of myself increased my chances of getting pregnant the first time around.

It took me 3 months to get pregnant with my first two boys, then b/c they have gluten allergies a nutritionist advised me to go on a gluten free diet and also said that people on Gluten free diets get pregnant VERY easily. So, just about 2 weeks before conception I cut out gluten and sugars and I got pregnant on my first try with my little girl.
Good Luck!

I think the best advice is to relax and have sex on days 10, 12, 14, and 16. I also wanted to add that its wonderful that you want a big family but sometimes the most wonderful things to come are not in your control. I don't know what your belief system is but I have found that God will give you the baby if and when it is the right time. Sometimes when things don't work out just the way we want its because we are supposed to learn from them or there is something even better waiting for us. Do what you can but this may not be in your hands. And that could be truly a blessing.

Hi T.,
Try acupuncture! Traditional Chinese Medicine, which includes acupuncture and Chinese Herbal Medicine, is a gentle and very effective way of enhancing fertility.

Since you had a first child recently, you probably could get pregnant again quite easily.

I am a licensed acupuncturist and certified Chinese Herbalist and I recently had a patient in your situation although her child is about 3 years old. With a few acupuncture treatments she easily became pregnant.

Acupuncture helps to rebalance the hormones and relax the body. Please look into it. Happy explorations!

-C.

I am 48, mother of a 10 year old son and 7 1/2 year old daughter. After two years of trying and with the help of Chinese Medicine, I became pregnant with my son at the age of 38 and had my daughter at age 41.

I went through this trying to get pregnant with my first. It took over three years and there was nothin wrong with either of us. We just couldn't get pregnant. I would recommend talking to your OB. They can at least do some tests and maybe put your mind at ease. Accupuncture may help too. Good luck!

Charting your temps is a step in the right direction (remember to use a basal thermometer and take your temp at the same time in the morning before you get out of bed). Charting will tell you when you have ovulated, but by the time you see the rise in temp, you have already ovulated. So it takes a few cycles to see when you ovulate to know your most fertile days. An ovulation predictor kit will let you know in advance of those most fertile days. The chart is good, though, because if there IS a problem, you can show the charts to your doctor for his/her review.

I know when I was getting frustrated, my doctor told me that after trying for 6 months, she would send me to get fertility tests (and I assume my husband would have gotten tested too). Sometimes, even if you had an easy time getting pregnant for the first child, you can have secondary infertility issues. Thus, if it's been more than 6 months, I would talk to my OB to see what tests they can do. They can monitor blood levels on day 3 and 21 (I think) of your cycle to make sure your estrogen/progesterone are ok. And then obviously, there are more invasive tests.

I know everyone tells you this, but try to relax (yeah, right). I got myself crazy with the basal thermometer. I was so obsessed with charting. I remember on 9/11, when I was evacuating from downtown NY, I kept telling my friend "wow... this is really going to screw up my charting." OK - obviously, I was obsessed. Here, I was, running for my life and my biggest concern was how it would affect next morning's temperature reading... sigh....

Good luck.

I can't offer advice on ovluation kits or anything since I was always one who got pregnant right away. However, I can suggest that you get your thyroid checked to make sure it's where it needs to be. A low thyroid can and WILL cause infertility problems. You didn't mention having issues with exhaustion, being cold, having dry skin, feeling achy, depression, poor memory, and so on but it doesn't hurt to get it checked. It's a simple blood test.

I have two teenage sons and had thyroid problems after the birth of my second son. While I was not trying to get pregnant, I did not use birth control (besides the pull out method) and never did get pregnant during that time except when we wanted to get pregnant with my second son. (FYI, it's common for thyroid problems to act up after the birth of a child or even during pregnancy.)

After years of battling with doctors to get my thyroid back in order, having it do better, then worse, back and forth, I found an endo who was infuriated at my poor thyroid health treatment by the other physicians. She put me on TSH Suppression Therapy and although I felt better, my thyroid was so enlarged that it was literally suffocating me. I ended up having surgery to have it removed then they had to figure out what would be the best thyroxine dosage for me.

Just a few short months after having my thyroid straightened out, I ended up pregnant and I wasn't even trying to have a baby. We've all been told how unreliable the pull out method is and we only used it because we didn't care if I DID get pregnant, though we weren't trying. So you tell me how much of a coincidence it is that for 15 years I never got pregnant (except the one intentional time) but as soon as my thyroid is fixed, I got pregnant after only a few moments of intimacy with my husband.

It is an accepted fact that low thyroid levels cause infertility since the thyroid and the hormone it produces is like the master mechanism that controls all the various parts of the body to ensure they run smoothly.

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Sorry to hear about your trouble conceiving the second time around. Unfortunately, success conceiving once doesn't always translate into future success. Our bodies changes and other outside factors can contribute. My sister in law and a friend of mine were in your exact same situation. If you haven't already, please make an appointment with your doctor as its been over 6 months without success. They can run tests to determine if there are any issues which are making it more difficult to conceive. If so, the doctors can prescribe medication and other treatment. Good luck!!

Many, many years ago, the same thing happened to me and my husband too. I got pregnant the first time right away, no problem, so I thought it was going to be just as easy the second time. Wrong! A whole year went by. I just could not get pregnant. Then I read in READER'S DIGEST about doing a douche of plain water with vinegar, or plain water with baking soda right before 'trying'. (I forget the measurements of either the vinegar or baking soda.) After about three months I got pregnant the second time. This is what helped me get pregnant the third time too! Good luck!

Hi T.,
I am actually going through the same thing. I know that it is very difficult and yes stressful as it seems that everyone around you is pregnant. I have a 4 year old son and would love for him to have a sibling yet after over a year and half, I had to really start thinking how to handle myself if this does not ever happen. I have come to terms with the fact that it may not yet I am still hopeful. However, you have been trying for much less time and have not left as large of gap between your first as I did. I am also 33, so not a total spring chicken:) I did a few rounds of clomid and all of the testing with no reason as to why I cannot get pregnant. I also got pregnant with my son very easily and use the ovulation kits and what not. I became so obsessed that I needed to chill. I was at the next step of seeing a specialist yet needed a break, whether it be temporary or permanent. I am not sure that I will go that route. I may start acupuncture.
I would talk to your ob if you have not already and they may do the initial hormone/thyroid testing to start. Again, your son is so young that I am sure it is a timing issue, just keep trying and try to relax (I know, not easy!) Also, check out fertilityties.com and you can ask questions to fertility specialists and those that are experiencing the same thing.
Best of luck!

try early in the morning..the best time to try. take a decongestant too.. this helps... and don't try so hard.. take it easy.. light some candles.. have a romantic evening.. maybe even go to a hotel for a night... enjoy... it will happen...

Getting pregnant easily the first time does not mean, unfortunately, that it will be easy the second time. A lot of changes have probably occurred to your body, and most definitely your life. Your age most certainly has something to do with it, as well as your stress levels. That being said, you are almost certainly fertile, it just may take longer. Try not to get so stressed about it - you still have plenty of time to give your son a sibling that'll be relatively close in age. My only "technical" advice is to have sex more BEFORE you ovulate. The 5 days BEFORE you ovulate are apparently your most fertile days, despite what the instructions say. I tried getting pregnant with #2 for about 7 months until I found this out, then got pregnant the very next month. Good luck - you and your family will be fine !!! : )

Are you still nursing??? I know some women, who even if their child is only nursing once a day their fertility doesn't return. Also, are you getting your periods? Are they regular?? Charting your temps can help, but your waking morning temp only goes up after you ovualate (usually). Something else you can try is being aware of your cervical mucus. Women are usually pretty dry, (ei. no mucus) after their period. Then after using the restroom try being very aware of the feeling of wetness and dryness while wiping. The more mucus, the thinner and more like egg white consistancy the more fertile you are. Good luck!!

Dear T.,

There is a wonderful place called Pope Paul VI Institute in Omaha, NE. The doctor there is Thomas W. Hilgers, MD, he treat women with infertility problems without using IVF. Their website is www.popepaulvi.com, you can also find a CreightonModel FertilityCare Practitioner who can help you start charting your cycle to help you determine what days are fertility. Remember day 14 is not always the most fertility day. Here is a few of those Practitioners that are close to you:

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All I can say is try to relax and not get too stressed about it - easier said than done!
I was the same as you - had my first with no difficulties at all, straightforward pregnancy and birth. Then started trying for #2 when the first was around one (and I was 28) - and nothing.
Eventually we went for fertility investigations, and the doctors could find nothing wrong with either of us. The fertility doctor was really positive though, sure that as we had had one successful pregnancy and we were both young, we could do it again. I think it was this feeling of finally being in a position to do something about it, with the help of a very encouraging doctor, which meant I got pregnant naturally at that point.
I think it was just because I finally stopped stressing and worrying - I had been doing temperatures, charting my cycle, using ovulation kits, even various herbal remedies, and nothing worked. When I let go of all that it happened!
It took nearly 3 years to get pregnant the second time (having taken a couple of months the first time), but I now have 2 lovely daughters, and the almost 5 year age gap really isn't a big deal. In fact I had it a lot easier than friends who had babies much closer together. They are now 9 and 4 and a half, and are lovely together (with the usual sibling disagreement too!)
This is a much more common thing than anyone realises (my sister-in-law is also going through it just now), and can be really painful, especially if you feel everyone around you can get pregnant as soon as they want to! Don't be afraid to seek out specialist help as soon as you feel you need to. There are some conditions which can develop so that they can get in the way of a second pregnancy (eg varicocele in men) - the fact that there wasn't a problem the first time doesn't mean you won't need a bit of help the second.
I wish you the very best - it's no fun being in that situation.

Just writing to say that I am in the same exact boat!

With our first, we tried to get pregnant and within 1 MONTH, it worked! So when our daughter was about 2 yrs old, we planned to have another baby and give her a sibling. I figured it'd be no problem since it went so easily with the 1st one!

We've been trying for 2 YEARS now, and nothing, I KNOW that we are having sex at the right time each mth, and we keep trying every mth that it's time. I really can't believe it, but we may never have another baby, and I suppose we have to be thankful for the fact that we have 1 child. It puts things into perspective for all of the women who try to have children and never get pregnant at all. I totally feel for all of the women who can't get pregnant now.

And I feel the same way about everyone ELSE around you getting pregnant. I know at least 5 different women in my life that are currently pregnant or just had the baby. Tough to hear about and get excited for them when you are wishing for the same thing...

So hang in there! Juts focus on the positive of the situation and try not to stress too much about it not happening...

Goodluck!
D.

I got pregnant right away w/our first child but then w/our 2nd daughter it took much longer. I found the more I worried about it, the more I stressed and the less likely it was to happen. Try not to focus so much on it & maybe even lay off w/trying this & that. The less stress you are under, the better off you will be and I bet that within no time you will be pregnant again. Good luck!

Hi,
It took me 10 months to get pregnant w/ my son at age 36.
I charted my basal temp for 3 months and then bought the $250 fetility monitor from drugstore. But still even though I knew when I was ovulating nothing happened. I ordered a progesterone cream online and rubbed that on me every month to up my levels. It didnt seem like it would hurt and then around 8 months of trying I looked up online stuff to take to help. I took daily B6 100-500, Vit C 1500- 3000, DHEA 25-50, and Chaste Berry (Vitex) 175-225. I also went to an accupunterist that 8 month and started taking "Ease Tonic" reccomended by her. I didnt get preg that 8 or 9 month.
And finally I went to a fertility specialist beginning of my 10 month to have my FSH levels tested. (Dr. Eric Flisser...check his website for test info) All levels came back all good. He had me take a test called HSG where you have colored saline put inside of you & through your fallopian tubes to see if there is any blockage. This test is done right after menstruation. No blockage was seen but Doctor did say I may be very fertile after the test. Well I then became pregnant in the 10 month!
And actually the last thing I took was a decongenstant called "mucanex" just in case is was my cervical fluid.
I have no idea what worked. If it was one thing or a combo of things or nothing amd that it was just time. I hope my info helps you. Good Luck!!!